We have a child (18 months). We are seeing a counselor already. There has been a rift between us for some time now that I wnat closed. I dont think she is being honest with me or the counselor though. I suspected her ealrier of infadelity and the (married) guy is still in our life. She denies any infadelity. She either has the whole family over or has us going out with them regularly. We fight if I dont want to participate. She claims to want to go into business with him. I expressed my concerns and disagreement. I dont think he is everything she has him cracked up to be. He calls her on her cell phone more than regularly and she refers to him as her business partner to his wife and friends against my expressed judgement and denies him being a business partner to me when I ask her directly if she is going into business regardless of how I feel. I feel I have talked until I am blue. What would you do?
2006-10-30 02:11:57 · 7 answers · asked by Littlebit 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Littlebit, First of all I'd like to say that it appears that you are taking all the right & healthy steps to redeeming your marraige. Unfortunately, your part alone will not be enough. She may have already be going through an " emotional divorce ". In that case, she is already gone, & I am sorry for you. Gut feelings, nagging feelings are usually truth yet unmanifested. I know for sure that she can not be anymore honest with you than she is with herself. It will do no good for you to approach her with the attitude that she is not telling the truth. She may in all reality beleive what she is telling you. In one of my favorite movies..... there is a sub-plot about a woman that keeps asking others a question, the same question. She gets a diffrent answer everytime. In the story she keeps asking, & then finaley gets the answer she beleives is the truth. It was only when someone's answer matched what she already felt was true that she finaly stopped askining. I know you will also keep asking others untill another person's opionion agrees with what you already know to be true. What would I do? If It were me, I would get my favorite book & reread it . That book is " A return to Love" I feel an accepetance & peace of mind in all my relatioships when I apply this person's perspective.. Good Luck, I wish you all the best!!!! This answer spot is the best place for you to find someone whose opionion will reflect for you what you believe to be right & true.I would like to know how this truns out for you. You may contact me, to let me know how this all turns out for.
2006-10-30 02:35:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry that doest sound good. It sounds like your the only one in the marriage. Sit down with her and nicely and calmly tell her how you feel. Don't be accusing or harsh in any way or she will just go into defense mode. If she really wants your marriage to work she will understand and get rid of the rift between you. First and foremost Prey and seek guidance first sorry I cant be of more help. Good Luck.
2006-10-30 10:38:07 · answer #2 · answered by Care Bear 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't sound like she wants things to work out with the two of you. Maybe it's time to cut your loses and get out. Good luck and I hope you find happiness.
2006-10-30 10:28:00 · answer #3 · answered by Sexy-n-Hot 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOu are the man of the house and you should rule the household, not her and her family. Stick to your guns or else, seek a lawyer.
Good luck
2006-10-30 10:37:25 · answer #4 · answered by Blunt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you have rough road ahead of you...time to really really look at the future..she is and I dont think it involves you..sorry but I think she is planning on moving on...you should too...
2006-10-30 10:31:54 · answer #5 · answered by Lynne B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Putt down you foot man, draw the line.
2006-10-30 10:29:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's time for divorce. do it now or you'll regret it latter
2006-10-31 04:30:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋