Hey I just started middle school,private middle school(well,not really..I started in september..but..) anyway,there is people who I hang out with,but..er..how do I put this..they aren't really the kind of people I hang out with..and I don't really like them all that much..and all the other girls are just snotty..and mean..
I want to go to the public school with my REAL friends.But the only reason my parents wont let me go there is because its a big school and they want me to go to a christian school.Help?
2006-10-30 02:09:05 · 10 answers · asked by Candy Parker 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Tell your parents about how you are being treated. I am sure they are paying bid money to keep you in this private school and they believe that it will shelter you from the evils of the world. The problem is that evil is everywhere. Sometimes Satan works through Christians and children too. Please respect the fact that your parents love you and are trying to give you the best upbringing they can in a world full of hate and evil. Also, talk to school counselors and tell them what is going on. They may appreciate your input. I am sure they do not want their school to get a bad reputation or allow behavior like this to continue. If your parents insist on you staying in this school...be a problem solver. Find a way that you can minister to these peers. It may be that you are placed in this situation to learn about yourself, influence others in a positive way and to minister your faith. By all means pray. Ask God for what he wants. Be sure to tell him that you want his will for you and that you are willing to do what it takes to resolve this situation...and then follow his direction. Puberty is rough for all teens. It is a time of learning who you are, what you believe in and exploring how you fit in the world. Friends and peers are great influences...but we must remember that we can't change others but we can change ourselves. I feel your frustration it is difficult in a world like we are living in to minster to others. Sometimes we give our best and others treat us mean and unfairly. I am an adult and I still experience these things. Many people on Y answers ask spiritual questions and when I teach them about God or give testimony they report my answers or give mean nasty comments back. This we must identify, as works of Satan. That does not mean we should stop being a Christian or stop standing up for what we believe in...it simply means that we are placed amongst people like this because it is our cross to bare. I am sure you are involved in church too, if your parents have you in a Christian school. Consider talking to your Sunday school teacher, pastor or other christians at your church and see if you can find creative ways to overcome this peer pressure and mean bullies. The truth is that even as adults, these bullies usually grow up and continue to bully. You will find them all through your life. If you can learn how to master these types now, you are ahead of the game. Keep your good Christian ties outside of school. Use your family to support you and teach you. Pray without ceasing. God will see you through this and turn things out for the good if you believe and follow his will. Keep the faith. Love & Prayers.
2006-10-30 02:24:11 · answer #1 · answered by Shayna 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been subjected to Catholic school when I was younger because my parents thought they were doing the best for me that they could. I told my mom in my 9th year, about the kinds of people who were in this so called religious environment, (teachers included) and fortunately she saw my point. If your parents won't budge, you'll have to find some decent friends, ones who you are comfortable with. But in all fairness, public school also has the cliques and the snobs too. Will your parents allow you to hang with your other friends outside of school? If not, they may know something that you don't.Just try and give yourself a chance in your new school and try to give others a chance to become your new friends.
2006-10-30 02:18:15 · answer #2 · answered by angeleyes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would stay positive if this school is the only option you have. Some girls are just plain stupid and you will have to just ignore them. I bet there are also other cool and smart girls you can hang out with out there, but you haven't found them yet. I understand it is hard for you to start a new school with a brand new sets of friends, but it will get easier once you get adjusted. You can also keep in touch with your REAL friends at the old school too. Just hang in there.
2006-10-30 02:15:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hang out with your friends as much as you can after school and about the snotty girls just act cool make one good friend and that friend will introduce you to their friends and so on, you mean the ppl you dont like are probably geeks or something but seriously i was once like i cant be ''seen'' with these ppl but i became a caring social person who likes everyone maybe someone you might thinks looks like a geek is accually cool, but if there is someone who is like a real geek just be nice, youll make friends in no time.
2006-10-30 02:21:36 · answer #4 · answered by Nonza 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My daughter was in private school up until last year...she is in 7th grade now and goes to public school with her "real friends" to. I had to laugh when I read this, because of the same situation I was in not too long ago. She begged us for almost 1 year to go to public school and we finally gave in. Good luck in your endeavor, but make sure that when you present your case to your parents that it is well rounded, thought out...and not just because you wanna go!
2006-10-30 02:13:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sure that there are others at this new school that are more like you and you can get to know. It takes time to really get to know some of them and some might be just acting this way to fit in themselves. Give it time and the ones that are more like you will become clear.
2006-10-30 02:12:46 · answer #6 · answered by mayihelpyou 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why hang wit people you dont like, if you got true friends in public school, wait after school and chill wit them. You have to grow up and start becoming more mature, you gonna have to realize you cant do what ever body else do. bE YO self, and true friends will come along. holla
2006-10-30 02:15:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anna Ruth W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-16 06:55:42 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear that.
I went to a public middle school and it was great. I said to myself that I was very happy that I didn't go to a private school.
2006-10-30 02:13:16 · answer #9 · answered by youngwoman 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you kno whats right and whats wrong listen to what your heart is saying
2006-10-30 02:11:56 · answer #10 · answered by ♥ NïJâ♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋