Both will be 18 next year and want to get married.
Would you be happy or upset?
Would you allow them to live with you while they are saving for the new baby?
2006-10-30 02:05:39 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Yes, I would let them live with me till they graduate and get on their feet.This is a very important time,and they need as much support and advice from you as possible....She also needs help on how to take care of a new baby....That obviously is your grandchild,and you can have a good relationship with your grandchild, as my motherlaw is crazy about her grandchildren, and my daughter is totally crazy about her grandma.she loves her so much.....congradulations on being a grandma, anyways....
2006-10-30 02:37:31 · answer #1 · answered by jan 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow this is a tough one. I have a son which I had at 19. I have been a single parent to that child ever since. I am now 33. My parents were supportive without supporting which benefitted me.
I want to give you kudos for raising your son to be responsible and I am not sure that a child is a reason to get married, if they would not have considered that otherwise.
I would talk with them and make sure they know what they are in for. As long as they were making an effort to start a life and taking care of their responsiblities I would let them live with me. I would probably ask for some contribution to the household even if it nominal so that they learn what life is going to be like.
Ulitimately you will adore this child as I have found is the case with my parents and if they learn early on to stand on their own and be responsible you will be very proud of them down the road.
2006-10-30 02:18:52 · answer #2 · answered by Hopey 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As a parent you need to be supportive..I wouldnt be happy because of what is going on but happy for your son....they are almost adults and maybe this will be a good realty check for them..I think it is a great idea to let them live with you while they save for the baby because if not they might spend all there money and then come to you crying for money becuase they need diapers or formula..think about it..but whatever you decide just be happy for him..he is going to be a daddy and you a grammy...time to celebrate!
2006-10-30 02:11:18 · answer #3 · answered by Cassey L 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it's normal to feel disappointed and maybe even a little angry in that situation. Just try to really think things through before you say anything to your son - telling you was probably the hardest thing to do. Once you've calmed down, then go back and talk to them.
As far as marriage is concerned, that's a big step and would make sure they're ready for it. Have them go through premarital counseling and make sure this is what they want to do. I married my exhusband, thinking I owed it to my daughter (I was 5 mo pg when we married) and we ended up divorced a year later.
Moving in with you - I would, yes. It's important for that baby to be with his/her parents and in a safe enviornment at the same time. However, don't be afraid to set ground rules if you're not comfortable with them sharing a room/bed before they get married. This is, after all, your house.
Good luck!
2006-10-30 02:16:17 · answer #4 · answered by reandsmom77 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would be upset at first, worried, really, but dang straight I'd be happy as pie after I got over my tiff! I would LOVE it if they wanted to marry, and do right by each other and their child. I would let them live with me, absolutely! And while the babe is getting older, he/she will know they have a family who will always be there, always help, always love them, because the baby is also a part of you. A strong family is the best thing for the baby! Take Care.
2006-10-30 02:23:58 · answer #5 · answered by xenypoo 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Oh it's hard to say....I think I would be very upset...but if they want to face the resposibility I'd try to help them...I don't see why they should live with you tough...unless your daughter in law gets kick out of her house I don't see why she should live with you, she has parents too....your son would be able to see her and share time with her and his baby....and in the long run if they continue loving eachother they can get married...I wouldn't encourage them to do it now, I'd wait and see what happens after the baby is born. Of course your son will be responsible all his life for this baby, but you know, theyt are very young still, don't know anything about life,responsibilities, etc...so they better figure out later on their own if it's true love and if they do want to get married. That's my personal opinion...is tricky tough. Good luck
2006-10-30 02:12:51 · answer #6 · answered by Baby Ruth habla español 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-16 13:18:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My daughter had a baby a few months before her 18th birthday, but they have thier own place she finished highschool and attending college. Booth are working raising thier own baby. It is ok to help them out, while they save and finish school, just be sure they don't take advantage of your hospitality...You will cry more seeing your grandchild be born than you did when your own children were born... It was so beautiful seeing my first grandbaby come into the world...
2006-10-30 02:11:17 · answer #8 · answered by Tracy 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I may not be thrilled about it, and I would worry, but in the end I would be supportive. Yes, I would probably let them live with me to save money. They don't need lectures at this point, all you can do is help as much as you can. And hope for the best.
2006-10-30 02:12:40 · answer #9 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would let them live with me while they are saving up, as long as their intentions were to actually move out and become responsible. I would be happy but it is a little young, just make sure they are going in the right direction. Without being too invasive
2006-10-30 02:12:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋