The girls family is threatening me, girl is not telling her problems to her parents..their family is not beliving my points..Christian marriage.
2006-10-30 02:01:09 · 27 answers · asked by tirup p 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
TAKE DIVORCE ON MUTUAL UNDERSTANDING IT IS GOOD FOR BOTH.
2006-11-02 02:11:01 · answer #1 · answered by RAMAN IOBIAN 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You've been married only 4 months., They say that the first year of marriage is always the hardest. My god I could've left my husband so many times...
but all in all things have gotten better and we have a better understanding of what marriage is. Its a comittment. You dont always get those "butterfly" feelings in your gut, and not everything is going to be "magical'. When you love someone its not only becauseof the feelings, but because you choose do to so. Since your christian, ill say that the devil will do ANYYYYTHINGG to tear you guys apart. and that you two are a threat to him.
The girls family is threatening you? Threatening you over what?
and she's telling or NOT telling her problems to them?
If shes telling her family everything then she truly hasnt done what the bible has said when too people marry eachother and they leave their parents and cleave onto one another.
You two need to sit down and as a man in a christian marriage you need to take lead as head of the household and she needs to learn to be a bit more submissive.
It took me a while before I was able to trust my hubby with that. So that maybe one issue if she doesnt come to you is that she doesnt trust you or tinks that you cant handle your role in this marriage. That in itself causes problems.
My best thing is talk to a poastor or whatnot and see what can be done.
2006-10-30 10:25:51 · answer #2 · answered by cawfeebeanz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Christian marriage... the first mistake was to involve outsiders in the marriage. Your family and her family need to stay out of you all business. You should be able to come to one another and talk about things like this 2. Pray to God to show you the way to go. Many might tell you to to get a lawyer and all that other stuff. But the best advice and the only advice that should be given is to talk to your pastor and let him help you through this time. No one on Yahoo Answers can tell you what to do. Fall to your knees and Ask God for Guidance.
Good luck and God Bless!
2006-10-30 10:11:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Divorce maybe annulment would be better. Generally, an annulment requires that at least one of the following reasons exists:
Refusal or inability to consummate the marriage -- that is, refusal or inability of a spouse to have sexual intercourse with the other spouse.
Is just one I thought was up your alley. Other wise get help talk with a specialist move away from family. Start new and fresh other wise GOOD LUCK.
2006-10-30 11:04:12 · answer #4 · answered by NDmom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Very sorry to read your problem. But I am sure that a marriage cunsellor can help you out. Go consult him and get the proper advise. Also, it is important that you talk to her extensively about the need for a life together and sex is as important as anything else and she has to give you what you want. You can also talk to the girls parents and inform them about the real problem. If they do not listen to you better take it up through your parents. I feel it is too early to think about divorce. Best of luck.
2006-10-30 22:32:08 · answer #5 · answered by JP 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Are you saying it was an arranged marriage? If that is the case then maybe it will take time to get to know each other. If you haven't made love then if you really don't think it will work, then you need annulment.
How are they threating you?
If your doing all you can do, then you and the girl needs to sit down and work this out one way or the other.
Were you all friends before hand?
Good Luck~
2006-10-30 10:08:58 · answer #6 · answered by Dawn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget the word - divorce
Try to understand your girl
Even if you leave this girl and select another girl as your partner, whether your new partner will satisfy all your needs especially your ego needs ?
Take time to understand the girl - probably she may be under compulsion by her other family members to avoid you. Dont lose hope.
By putting yourself in her shoes and making her understand your true love and concern for her, definitely you can allow her to touch not only your body but your wholebeing
Good luck
2006-10-30 11:39:18 · answer #7 · answered by gauri s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to the girl frankly and find out why she behaves so.u both need mar
riage councilling havent u talked prior to marriage with her.does she marry u under compulsion or do u have any bad habbits.there needs mny things about both of u.does she love anyone if so go for divorce explain their parents and discuss in depth and part peacefully.try talk to u r wife and get her views with open mind and act accordingly
2006-10-30 10:10:52 · answer #8 · answered by melchieram 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your wife should confide in you about her problems. If she is hesitant, try your best to make her comfortable. She may have deep rooted fears against sex or might be prejudiced against it for various reasons. Anyway, you must know about it to set the problem right. Maybe take her to a counsellor if you fail. If nothing works go ahead with your divorce plans. And your inlaws are a nuisance. Deal sternly with them.
2006-10-30 13:43:40 · answer #9 · answered by Modest 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a lawyer first. Second seek an annulment/divorce. Regardless of chosen religion...what is happening to you is not right. Move out, get your own place, and make sure that she doesn't have access to your funds.
2006-10-30 10:12:00 · answer #10 · answered by cfalways 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said, "The girls family is threatening me"
Call a police. No one should be threatening any one.
See your priest first.
He may be able to throw some light.
Then if he is of no help see a lawyer.
2006-10-30 10:05:02 · answer #11 · answered by minootoo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋