My wife and are married for 5 years, she is 26 and I am 47. I loved her a lot but our relationships didn't work out and I fell out of love with her. I provided her with everything up until now amazing lifestyle, she doesn't know what it means to work or make money and is fully dependant on me. In return she always took it all for often rejected me, called me old and bold etc.
Recently I meat amazing girl , loving caring and beautiful and I fell in love.She is 22, from Russia. She wants to marry me and have twp children.I introduced the girl to the wife and explained that this is serios. She didn't take it easily, she started crying and said she doesn't want a divorce.
I would like her to stay living with me in our family residence for the time being and not to disrupt our son's life. I said she is free to date other people. However yesterday I found out she is talking to the lawyer.
Let her take me to court? If yes, how can I ensure that I have the custody of our son?
2006-10-30 01:48:02 · 73 answers · asked by margusenok 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I hate you! You are the reason women have bad attitudes towards men. You do not deserve to have your son. You do not deserve happiness. You deserve to go straight to HE*L. You are a old man, you probably have a limp dick because you are old. Your wife will replace you with someone younger and he will love her until the day she dies. You traitor!
2006-10-30 01:57:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 2⤋
First of all, you should've let your wife know a while ago that you were seeing someone else. Also, you can only find out who gets custody of the son while going through the divorce in court. You guys might have joint custody....thats very common, so that might definitely be the first judgement. Also, you gotta get away from young women, because they always change their feelings so much. These girls you are dating dont seem to be mature about things, and just use you for your money obviously.
This new girl just sounds as if she is telling you what you wanna hear right now. But wait until you guys get married. Its gonna be a whole different story. She gonna do the same as your wife. I know a lot of older people like in my family and their friends and they do the same thing...get with younger women or men and these younger ones, are cheating and taking the older men and women money.
I think you need to slow down with the new chick and see how her colors come out as the relationship goes further. Try to slow the marriage process and dont give so much money and just have a regular relationship with her without buying her with material things and see how she starts to act towards you.
believe me...this always works....try it.
2006-10-30 02:00:33 · answer #2 · answered by yagurlbubblez 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, I could understand.. Ignore all those fools that are putting you down. If you are the sole provider in the family and offering her a place to stay until she can get on her feet I think that is very noble of you. The sole provider usually gets custody unless they have been abusive.
Now about the 22 yr old Russian chick. You will end up in the same situation if you marry her. You do need some closer to you age, someone more mature.
With that all being said, We are in the 21 century here and fathers have rights and are getting custody
Good luck
PS. Have you noticed how many experts are on here today?
2006-10-30 02:00:04 · answer #3 · answered by Highbeam 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You have no control over the fact that she may take you to court, so stop thinking you have to "let" her anything...
You can't ensure that you get custody of your son. His mother will most likely get custody since she has been his primary caretaker while you are off finding another woman.
If there were problems in your marriage, the last thing you should have done was decide to throw it away and begin over... it just doesn't work that way. You need to get rid of the other woman and work things out with your wife. Get counseling together to learn how to communicate to eachother and fulfill eachothers needs.... THAT is how you show your son and your wife what a man is.
Only AFTER you both have done your best to fulfill eachother do you consider divorce and only AFTER divorce do you consider bringing a new person into your life.
You sound very "needy"..... That's not healthy....
2006-10-30 01:56:40 · answer #4 · answered by ~Me~ 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You better make sure your Russian doll is not just after your money, or to take up residence in your country. I think you are on a lose lose ticket. Firstly your wife will take you for every penny she can, especially as she is not providing for herself, secondly she will keep your son (never mind your Russian woman wants 2 kids with you!) and thirdly your Russian lady will take you for what you have left. I am afraid you will reap what you sow and it's nobody's fault but your own. Can you really imagine your wife will want to live in the same house as your "other" woman - where have you been all these 47 years of your very old life!
2006-10-30 02:02:21 · answer #5 · answered by lottie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why are these women so much younger than you. You might have more in common with someone your own age. It's shocking to hear that you introduced these two women to each other. I am not sure the courts will like to here you have done this so custody of your son will be determined on the relationship you each have with him. I have heard lots of stories about men with women from other countries, have you thought that maybe this new 22 yr. old will be the same at the 26 yr. old. This one will be totally dependent on you also.
2006-10-30 01:52:56 · answer #6 · answered by mayihelpyou 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
you married when your wife was 21 and you were 42, what where you thinking? with the age difference, did you not realize the dedication it would take in your marriage, where is your maturity. what happened to your wedding vows? i am wondering who is the more mature one is in your marriage. so, you figure it would be easier to find a younger wife? come on! just what are you looking for? sure, i bet this 22 year old sounds just great to you and makes you feel wonderful, come on she is 22, you are 47, what will happen in a few years, when you are in the same situation again,go after a 20 year old to make you feel better! work it out with your wife. you do not need custody of your son.
2006-10-30 02:16:22 · answer #7 · answered by wisdom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bringing a new girl-friend home to see the wife - are you crazy!!!
Your wife is now able to claim that you are the guilty party and divorce you for 1/2 of everything you have.
Men don't get custody of children unless their wives are crazy, or don't care about their children, so you are on to a loser.
From experience of lawyers - they are not on your side - they are not there to "help you & your wife" - they are there to come between you & your wife, make things ugly and get as much money for themselves as they can. They are paid about £350 per hour after all and they charge by the second.
Top tip: do not hire a lawyer - ask your wife what she wants.
If she asks for more than 50%, she is being unreasonable - just go to the CSA or court and see about a simple, fair settlement.
If she asks for 1/2 (50%) of everything, give her 55% as long as you can have equal access to your son.
If she is dumb enough to settle for less than 50%, (e.g. 40%) then be generous (e.g. 45%) and go for a quick settlement.
Otherwise, her lawyer will take you for every penny they can get and both lawyers fees which will be far, far more!
2006-10-30 01:58:49 · answer #8 · answered by echo c 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your big mistakes were 1) not seeking counseling for your present marriage 2) dishonoring the sanctity of marriage and having an affair, and 3) having the two women meet. Now you will never get custody, no matter how many people you pay. Just because you're male and rich does NOT mean you will get anything you want, and I hope you don't. I hope your wife divorces you, gets half of what's yours, and gets full custody.
And I hope your new wife, who's barely old enough to read, turns out to be a huge pain in your ***.
2006-10-30 01:54:02 · answer #9 · answered by andromeda512 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
So there is a 22 yr old Russian woman fancying a man of 47, who says she loves you and wants 2 children by you.
You of course believe her, but remember the old old saying, love is blind, and you are very blind.
The 26 yr old was a gamble that didn't pay off, what do you really think they want, you, or want you can give them, have a look in the mirror, a real look. Then find someone closer to your age who will bring you happiness.
PS been there got the tee shirt!
Of course this question could be a wind up!
2006-10-30 01:55:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
First of all, if you are truly serious about wanting the custody of your son, I suggest that you not sleep with the Russian woman that you are in love with. Infidelity in a marriage can be a major point in a divorce case. Since your wife does not work, you may have a great case in the custody of your son.
If you wife has decided to get a divorce instead of being legally separated from you (but still living in the same house) then there is nothing that you can do about it. Sometimes having divorced parents is better than having absolutely miserable parents. Good luck to you.
2006-10-30 01:53:48 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋