would it be ok for me to log on under my hubbys name and talk to his x gf and find out what's goin on? if u havent read my other question the reason is cause he after 9 years got a hold of his x and has been talkin to her fo r hours at a time, and closes the computer when I walk in the door, there's more but dont want to type it all twice!
But should I talk to her and pretend to be him? Or what? i dont care if he finds out, I just want her to thin it's him talkin and not me so it that a good idea?
2006-10-30 01:35:44 · 29 answers · asked by boobear 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes I know the truth may hurt, but if he is indeed doin something with this girl or whatever it will be over I will go and get a lawyer today, and get a divorce!
2006-10-30 01:43:01 · update #1
If he is on yahoo chat just go to the link where you can see the old chats and see what was said that way you know for sure
2006-10-30 01:58:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh definitely !! I'd be on that like white on rice . That man is yours and you have a right to know ,There should be absolutely no secrets in a marriage . Suspecting something is always harder than the truth . At least with the truth in your hands, you'll better know what actions to take , and it'll free your mind to think clearer .For some reason, suspicion clutters the brain . I know you think of this more than anything else right now . If he's cheating ,then there should be other evidence laying around. You've seen it , but it's our nature to want tangible ,you can't talk your way out of this one now,proof . Sometimes it's hard to trust our own instincts. So, do whatever you have to do for your peace of mind .. And fyi , men who leave their spouses for another, often come home with their tail between their legs ..
2006-10-30 10:33:38 · answer #2 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, you can probably spy on them. But it's not going to solve anything. The only thing that will do any good is for you to require your guy to honor and respect your wishes as he isn't now. You may well need to tell him to not let the door hit him in the butt on his way out if he can't straighten up and fly right. The problem isn't what they are doing but that he's doing something that isn't right. Deal with the problem not the symptom (his talking to her for hours).
2006-10-30 09:49:57 · answer #3 · answered by DelK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes do it, I would. I can pretty much be sure he is trying to start something up with her if he hasn't already. The snake needs to be caught! You know in your heart just by the way he shuts off the computer so he can't see what you are doing that he has something he is guilty of. Stop him or leave him(I would leave him) if he can't stop he does not love you.I hate him for hurting you and I don't even know you guys! Men can't keep getting away with this! Us women need to start cheating on them and let them see how it feels. Obviously I have been hurt by men and want to hurt them back. It's just time to stand up for ourselves. I see so many questions on here that have to do with women getting screwed over by men. It's so sad.
2006-10-30 09:47:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First I think that you should ask him what is going on between the 2 of them. If he says nothing then found out yourself. If, he is talking to his x girlfriend for hours and closing the computer down than you should go and log-in under his name. He is trying to hide something from you and he doesn't want you to know. If, he can't be honest with you about was it going on with them 2. Then you don't need to be with him. He might have saw her somewhere after all those years and realized how much she has changed when they were together. If, you want to be with him. Than you fight for that relationship that y'all to have. That's only if he has not broken your heart before. Found out what's going down with those 2. That sounds suspicious to me.
2006-10-30 09:44:32 · answer #5 · answered by DeOsher L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are sure you are prepared to see what else might be there, go for it. If they are talking for hours, I'm sure it's not about the weather. He closes the computer because he doesn't want you to see what is being said, which makes it more suspicious. If he was not doing anything wrong, I would think he wouln't care if you saw it or not. Trust is very important and if you can't trust him, there are problems.
2006-10-30 09:56:16 · answer #6 · answered by mayihelpyou 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you decide to do that and find out that the friendship is much more....would you be able to handle it? sometimes we as women want to know the truth but the fact is that we really cant handle it....but if you are ready to get to the bottom of the situation I would say go ahead but just be ready for a chance that you're going to end up feeling worst after than prior you doing this....then the next question will be if you want to continue your relationship with him....I hope it's just innocent but my motto is always wish for the best but be prepared for the worse!!
2006-10-30 09:40:09 · answer #7 · answered by teaspoon520 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One thing you can do, instead of actually talking to her. Is if he is talking on a messenger(like Yahoo) you can turn on archive and it will save the convo. Then you can go back later and read it. If you try to be him, she may bust you out for it. He may already have archive on. It should be easy to find on the puter, it will be in the files for that messenger. Good luck, and I would be rather pissed.
2006-10-30 12:08:48 · answer #8 · answered by la_southern_femme 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I say find a way to talk to the ex. If she confirms that there is something going on then get a laywer and start the divorce proceedings.
2006-10-30 10:17:03 · answer #9 · answered by cfalways 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. While a nicely clever idea, the truth may hurt. Leave it alone. Your husband shouldn't be communicating with his ex anymore - immature and wrong on his part. Don't stoop to that level.
2006-10-30 09:46:54 · answer #10 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋