Would you let your daughter be a television star?

Question

With how the kid/teen celebrities are turning out, like Lohan's partying and others too, Winona Ryder shoplifting and so on.... when we were at the mall over the weekend my daughter was scouted by a major, major television comapny and invited to a number of casting calls, I have allowed her to go, and they will be calling us to confirm later this week. Do you think I should allow her to be just a teenager, or let her pursue acting. She has told me she would like to be actress. So what is your honest opinion on this, as this is a serious inqurary please answer honestly.

I ' am just being a concerned parent, is all.

Answer 1

I would say yes, but keep it in perspective. Make sure she has a solid homelife, and firm structure within her family.

Keep school and family as her highest priority.

If she starts slacking off on either of these things, then it would then be more than appropriate to pull the plug on the higher profile work.

There is no rush, and the actors and actresses who manage longevity in their careers (while still maintaining common sense and avoiding meltdowns) are those who had a strong family, and had a good understanding of the importance of education.

I have always maintained that if you want to pursue the performing arts as a career, you should have a good education in a 'back up' career. Whether it be a trade skill, business school or teaching, being financially dependent on a talent, can inhibit the talent itself.

Aside: A good combination is a trade skill that incorporates the theatre arts. (i.e. set and costume design, computer graphics, electrical lighting and sound, hair and make up - even wood or metal work is a solid choice).

Let her explore now when she hasn't the responsibilities an adult has, and still has your guidance to keep her out of hot water.

Remain firm, encouraging, keep it in perspective and above all loving. If she has a good head on her shoulders, she will do fine through all her successes and failures.

Have fun, and good luck!

Answer 2

I actually have a similar problem. My adopted girl has caught the attention of a local modeling agency. I've given it a lot of thought.

My suggestion is to go ahead and let her pursue her dreams. That doesn't mean you aren't in the picture. She's your child. You need to make sure that you're the one who's always there with her. It's you making the major decisions; not her.

How a child turns out is a mixture of genetic disposition and cultural influence. That cultural influence is most often the direct result of parents.

A perfect example is a friend of mine who after 45 years of life has decided to pursue a singing career. It's tough. Especially for her. Her parents raised her with a high sense of morals. She won't perform in bars because she doesn't favor social drinking. She is also very sensitive to cigarette smoke, so she can't perform in smoke-filled areas. I know in the end that she will enjoy some degree of success. She's got her morals and she won't bend those to achieve stardom.

Treat your child with the same care. You know what's right and wrong. Don't cross that line just to make it the easy way to the next level. In the end, your child will thank you for it and I'm sure you'll find afterworld rewards for it, too.

Answer 3

Ok, so she is a teenager so has some input into her career whether it starts now or later. I think she would only resent you if you didn't let her at least try. To be honest teenagers are rebellious no matter whether they are acting, revising, watching tv or skiving from school! Personally I would let her go for it, but monitor the situation carefully. I would not allow her to do anything I would not deem suitable for her and I wold instill a strong sense of herself so she doesn't feel obliged to conform to the stick image that we are so regularly bombarded with from the media. I'm sure you have done this already as you sound a sensible parent. Good luck to you both

Answer 4

Personally, I think kids need to be kids. Not want, NEED.
Childhood is such a fragment of our lives and once gone, there is no getting back the innocence or the time.
If your child really wants to persue acting, then look around for regional theater troops. Have her start on the stage. It will take very little time away from school, friends and family. She will still be able to be on the soccer team, cheerleading, Girl Scouts and all the other rites of passage.
If this is not a possibility, then try not to go any farther than commercials for now.
Demand she get an education first. She can be in theater during college and even major in it. (NYU has an awesome theater dept.)
It saddens me to see all these young women trying so desperately to be grown up yet they have no true grip of what being grown up is like.

Answer 5

Hello!

Well, I really envy your daughter i really do! What i think is that you SHOULD let her pursue her dreams whatever it was, because dreams are what the human race are created to accomplish, and believe me that your daughter wouldn't be satisfied by her status if she didn't pursue her dreams and she'll start blaming you that if u let her it'd be better for you and her.

So what i suggest is that you let her pursue acting while focusing on studying and that's all and good luck.

P.S: She might suffer some jealous ppl in school who may call her names like tv whore and so on, make sure she's aware of that.

to ur daughter: Don't forget about me when u get famous :P

Answer 6

Christmas, the belief of it, any way, isn't approximately what you GET. that is all approximately what you supply. in spite of each and every of the affection that she has been given via her father, she has did not understand and learn that actuality. All that she has been doing in her existence is GETTING that love and yet seems to not understood that she additionally has to offer love decrease back. In so doing she has denied herself the main costly venture of all, self understand. that's available to be penniless and nevertheless have your self understand. only seem at each and every of the infants in places like Haiti. they have not something, yet they have their own self understand. they are waiting to love themselves and thereby, lover those around them. the very terrific present you grants her is the present of her own thoughts of compassion. On Christmas morning, gown her up and your self too. Head into city and visit the place the homeless are being fed Christmas dinner and volunteer the two your self AND her. enable her serve those very people who rather DO have below her. enable her SEE them along with her very own eyes and notice only how little a lot of people rather have. Then while your stint is over head living house yet take the course via the cruelest ghetto you will come across. returned enable her see what actual deprivation rather is. Then once you get living house and only then, go forward and open your provides. i'm effective a sparkling feeling of appreciation for the flaws that SHE has will daybreak interior her at the instant egocentric little head. and you, my buddy might have given her the terrific present of all, her own thoughts of compassion for her fellow occupants of this dreary little planet stated as Earth. Brightest advantages, Raji the fairway Witch

Answer 7

Why not? If I'm sure that I've educated my kid well and he/she has some common-sense basics, why not? I should trust in my son's/daughter's talent and to encourage him/her. As long as I can watch closely his/her development.
Of course that are many risks, but as long as we know what we have raised I think that we can permit out kids to have a wealthy and beautiful career in what they know better to do.

Answer 8

if up to her.if she's a child star it may be good in some ways.like emma watson,a child potter star,now she wanna go to uni too.life's not all glamour n glitz..her parents r prof. she wants to be someone too. so dun worry aby ur kid,guide her well..

Answer 9

I think if it is what your child wants go for it. If you have raised your child with good morals she should for the most part make good decisions.

Answer 10

if she wants to let her . im 13 and i would love to be a movie staar. and i dream about it and it will bring in alot of money!!