My hubby has this x gf. I dont like her, she tried saying stuff about my hubby when we were together trying to break us up, we were just dating at the time! Well it's been about 9 years that he's talked to her! Well all the sudden he got her e mail and they have been talkin online and last night they were talking for 4 hours and the last week he's been talkin to her often online! He talked to her online watching a cowboys game, where as when I tried talkin to him while the game was on and he got mad at me for it! Is it wrong for me to be angry about this? Why would he all the sudden start talkin to her out of the blue? Would u all be angry too and what do u think it means? Oh and he usually is in the living room on the comp but this time he went into the bedroom and anytime I'd walk in he kinda close the computer!!! grrr...what should I do?
2006-10-30 01:22:38 · 26 answers · asked by boobear 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
our sex life of the relationship was great..but lately he doesnt want it! this girl lives like 15 hours away! I dont think there's anyone else, but thell I do work midnights! Maybe I;ll come home early tonight!
2006-10-30 03:21:05 · update #1
Thats totally not cool. Ask him how he would feel if you were talking to your ex and trying to keep it private, how it would make him feel. Also, tell him that when someone its hiding something, usually they are hiding alot more. Tell him it bothers you that they are talking so much, what is the need to talk to her, and seeing as you are his wife and supposed to be his number 1, tht how you feel about it does matter. I would nip this one quik if i were you, that could lead to trouble.
2006-10-30 01:29:01 · answer #1 · answered by shrimpseys 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's having an affair right in front of you. Yes I would be angry, I would be hurt, and I would demand he stop talking to her. If he won't, you may as well leave, because that's where it's heading anyway. He's reconnected with her mentally, it won't be too long before it is physical (if it's not already). The fact he's shutting the computer or hiding the screen when you walk in the room is an obvious sign he doesn't want you to know what he's saying to her. I'm sorry, but it sounds like your relationship is in very serious trouble.
2006-10-30 01:44:46 · answer #2 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it definitely sounds like he is hiding something if he closes the computer and can't chat in front of you. Yes, it is your business. It is your marriage and a marriage is a business contract whether people want to admit it or not. I would be extremely mad if that happened. Now if you said it was a cyberpet he was playing with online, that would be different.....yes, I would still be mad but at least she wasnt a past gf. Don't let him fool you. Something is amiss!!!!
2006-10-30 01:39:22 · answer #3 · answered by c_my_blueeyes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What would I think? I'd think he'd concluded that his wife wasn't interesting, loving, and someone he wanted to talk with. Wonder why he feels that way? It's a two way street, what goes around comes around, and if the two of you can't agree on how to keep your relationship alive and active and vital and loving it'll be in trouble. He probably had the same problem with the x gf don't you think?
2006-10-30 01:57:03 · answer #4 · answered by DelK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, your husband should not be talking to any other woman on the computer. You better talk to him about this right now, because no it's not right. You are his wife, and should come first in his life. I don't think he would like you talking to other men. If it looks like a duck, quacks like a duck, it's usually a duck. He is definitely trying to hide something from you, and this other girl needs to get out of the picture.
2006-10-30 01:34:24 · answer #5 · answered by june clever 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be extremely bothered by the situation, so I understand that this upsets you. Communication is the best way to solve this in my opinion. You need to address your feelings to your husband as soon as possible. Don't drag this out any longer than necessary. If he can't understand your point of view or thinks its ridiculous, we as women have to teach them a lesson. See how he feels it the roles were reversed. Good luck.
2006-10-30 01:41:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you go crazy he will just shut down.
Don't get me wrong, you have the right to go crazy, but don't.
You need to sit down with him, speak calmly, tell him that whatever he is talking about isn't appropriate especially since he is hiding it. He knows it and you know it. Tell him you don't need details, just ends. If he wants to be with you, he should have left the last girl.
2006-10-30 01:42:03 · answer #7 · answered by RS 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd be seriously pissed, I'd be throwing the computer against the wall and telling him you better straighten up or get the hell out of my house.He has no respect for you, tell him to stop or your just find someone who will treat you like you should get treated.Don't stand for this **** girl.
2006-10-30 01:51:26 · answer #8 · answered by Jessica S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to find out the truth. Something is definately up and you as his wife deserve to know whats going on. Tell him that unless he can fess up and let you know whats going on than you will be forced to go to extreme measures (ie: snooping, hiring a private investigator, leaving him!)
2006-10-30 01:26:34 · answer #9 · answered by Kristen P 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They're probably planning another secret rendezvous where they will have long, passionate, dirty sex for hours. He'll do things to her that you've never done with him. She'll do things to him that you cannot possibly do. He'll come home smelling like a fishing boat.
2006-10-30 02:22:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋