2006-10-30 01:18:06 · 21 answers · asked by Chris J 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
some extra details. I'm male, and she cheated, she knows I know she was seeing someone, but I hacked his email and found out they slept together. I want to get a paternity test without her knowledge when the baby is born.
2006-10-30 02:03:54 · update #1
Get a paternity test, and then leave her/him.
2006-10-30 01:21:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
The first thing I would do is to have an HIV test and pray that it comes back negative. Second, I would have a paternity test when the baby is born to see if you are the biological father. Third, I would really sit down and think about if this is the type of person that you want to spend the rest of your life with. Marriage does not change people. Whatever you start off with is what you end up with. Sometimes people go against their better judgment and do things when their gut is screaming NO! Whatever you decide don't settle for less. Someone who is deserving of you will come along at just the right time. If it turns out that you're the father you can still have a relationship with the child without being married to her. She should have thought about her actions before she cheated, it's obvious that anyone can turn her on.
2006-10-30 01:45:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Get a paternity test once the baby is born, if the baby is not born yet. Hey if she fooled around while she was pregnant, she was probably fooling around before too. So if the baby is here already, get a paternity test done.
Its obvious that you still love her. So tell her you two are going to postpone the wedding. Tell her you want her to prove to you that she really wants to be with you. And let her prove it to you. Don't give in.
You don't want to go into a marriage having a situation like this occurring. The result will be a divorce. Going into a marriage with no trust is no good. Cheating now can be cheating later. Think about that.
2006-10-30 01:25:35 · answer #3 · answered by Rica 82 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
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2016-10-21 00:00:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do YOU want to do? It is not for others to decide what you can accept or not accept. If you feel that you can continue the relationship without recriminations and make life miserable for both of you, then do it. If you can't pack the bags. People here will give you shallow and nonsensical advice. If you are mature enough to bear a child, then you must bear responsibilities for your choices in life. It is not that you don't know what is best, but fear taking the responsibility for your decision. The world is a cold place and the self-reliant are those that make it.
2006-10-30 01:24:27 · answer #5 · answered by Frank 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You both need to sit down and really have to talk about this in a serious manner. Tell him that you do not want to marry a cheater and if he does not want to get married that is fine. You need to konw how serious he is about marriage and vows tell him once we are married you can not go out with other girls. You are not going to have it. Tell him you either want a family and a wife or you dont. You need to choose and tell him if he chooses to be married the cheating stops here and now. Tell him he needs to know for sure. If the girl cheated on you tell her the same thing just different words. i would get a blood test.
I hope everything works out for you guys.
GOOD LUCK
2006-10-30 01:23:13 · answer #6 · answered by knowssignlanguage 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
1. Get tested for STD's
2. Get a paternity test to verify that the child is actually yours
3. Postpone your wedding until you've had premarital counseling. You need to know why she cheated to begin with.
I would probably reconsider marrying her. If she's cheating before you marry, do you think you'll be able to make a lifetime commitment to her? Will she able to be faithful to you?
Don't waste any time, do this immediately.
2006-10-30 01:21:23 · answer #7 · answered by Le_Roche 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
You need to ask yourself if you can forgive him. You also need to ask him if he's serious enough about you to never do it again. Believing him is all down to trust though.
Sorry, I presumed you were female. This works the same way but the other way around too though. A paternity test will prove who the real father is but it is dangerous to do to an unborn child.
2006-10-30 01:19:45 · answer #8 · answered by claire 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Get a paternity test. Also, go to couples therapy. You guys need to get through this together and come out happy for your child.
2006-10-30 01:21:10 · answer #9 · answered by Kristen P 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
based on how the three(?) of you are now,,talk about why they feel it happened,,,what was may now no longer be so for own sanity and the fact you need to deal with the betrayal,,remember what you have now and work on not returning to time where an affair was possible,affairs do not always mean the end,,sometimes the person actually thinks they have their reasons but if you and he are still together there must be something right to go back to.
2006-10-30 01:25:15 · answer #10 · answered by lex 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋