Did you ever have it work out into a long relationship?
2006-10-30 01:13:41 · 29 answers · asked by Ade 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
SNK and Kelly, me too. We've been together almost 5 years. He's the love of my life.
2006-10-30 01:23:51 · update #1
Yes, I now live with the love of my life and everything is great! I didn't do this normally, but there was something about him,so I think it just depends on the people involved!
2006-10-30 01:19:10 · answer #1 · answered by kelley1031 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I've never had it work out. I'm sure there are exceptions but it seems like a bad idea in general. I think for sex to be really good you need to have some emotional attachment and intimacy first. If you've skipped right to the physical intimacy you'll find it harder to go back and get the emotional intimacy that is needed for a long-term relationship. Plus, I think that people who have sex on a first date are probably the sort of people who are just looking for sex and so aren't the best bet for a long-term relationship.
2006-10-30 01:33:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No.
In fact, I've heard this type of relationship can't last for many reasons.
But: you really can't generalize. It has to do more with the values and the beliefs of the people involved.
My percentage of success would then be only a 40% of survival. I guess it all depends on what happens next and how serious the couple is regarding each other.
2006-10-30 01:16:30 · answer #3 · answered by Mario E 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Before I answer...I've read all the responses to gauge the perceptions of both genders and have found that quite alot of the females believe you have to "make him work for it" or "demand that he wait"...believing that the male won't respect you in the morning.
My answer is YES! I've been very happily married now for 7 years and have 2 beautiful children. My wife had made comments after that night about how she was worried that I thought she was easy, but I let her know how I felt...She simply knew what she wanted, plus we had been friends for a couple of years before our first date. So we weren't strangers.
Maybe it's the exception instead of the rule...but it does work for some folks. It seems like many people overthink the issue instead of living life to it's fullest each and every day. Of course you're going to run the risk of getting hurt, but if you don't play...you will never ever have a chance of winning!
2006-10-30 03:24:58 · answer #4 · answered by Lando 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Sleep on the first date??? Hon don't you know for the guys it's about the chase. It's about feeling like you've set up and then conquered. Sleeping on the first date takes the thrill away and the relationship, even if it lasts will be based just on that...the first date sex, because he'll feel like you are easy and a sure target...Make him work for it sweetie!!!!!!!
2006-10-30 01:44:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, the man i married did not get any until the 3rd date. however, we were friends for almost 2 years prior to our relationship ever becoming intimate. since i knew him so well and for so long, it was tempting to say yes the first time he tried, but i knew i really liked him and wanted to be more than a friend with benefits. so, i waited, not long, but still waited. and we have been married for 10 years.
if you slept with him on the first date, he is going to wonder how many other men have been so lucky. it's called self respect and control. use your head and demand respect. not many men will turn it down if you offer it, but if you demand that he wait, and he's still around, he could be a keeper.
2006-10-30 01:21:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Actually I'm ashamed to say that I had sex on a first date, but I did. 22 years later we are friends, and the proud parents of three beautiful children. It didn't work out to become a marriage as I wished, but it just wasn't in the will of God. I'm satisfied now with it, but it took me a long time to reach that point.
2006-10-30 01:29:26 · answer #7 · answered by Special K 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah, when i was 17 i slept with someone on the first date, and after the blood test on the baby came back positive we tried to make it work... turns out we can't stand each other and we have to raise our child together.... i wouldn't advise the whole first date thing at least wait until you know something about him he could be diseased or something, better to be safe then sorry
2006-10-30 01:18:14 · answer #8 · answered by abcmom 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have not, but I think a friendship is the way to start a relationship. My wife and I became friends during a five month period and then we started dating. We have been married now for four years this month.
Take care,
Troy
2006-10-30 01:18:06 · answer #9 · answered by tiuliucci 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Worked for me.
Married 30 years.
2006-10-30 01:52:18 · answer #10 · answered by Flagger 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋