After A Break-UP. Why Does Love Hurt Sooo Bad?? Is That How You That Its Really Love?

Question

I was in a 3 year lesbian relationship. And we break up and i feel like i ve lost my soul, my world, my sunshine, my everything. Im extremely sick. I can't eat, sleep. Im just here.How and why does it hurt soo bad? How do i suppose to pick myself up and move on?

Answer 1

Give yourself a year to grieve. After that, you should be able to move on just fine. I urge you to read the book "Mars and Venus Starting Over" by that man who also wrote "Men are from Mars, Women from Venus". I don't remember his name. Anyway, quite a good book. I bought it after a bad breakup. At first I couldn't even pick it up without bursting into tears, let alone reading it. Another thing I would recommend you is to keep a crying diary, so you can kind of track what is going on and where you are at. That way you can figure out what triggers you and ultimately, notice the progress you are making also. For example, with me, at first it was non-stop crying, then just in the evenings, then every other day. Suddenly I would notice that three days went by without crying and so on. I still cry over him, but just once or twice a year. Finally it would be a good thing for you to take Chinese Chlorella, a supplement that really helps with heartache. Good luck.

Answer 2

It's because you placed all your self worth and happiness into this person, and when they can no longer live up to your expectations, you don't know what to do.

You need to realize that your happiness and self worth do not come from someone else but from within.

Some sadness and crying are okay, you will miss the person alot, and your dreams with this person are shattered.

However, to set your whole world on one person or to make yourself sick over this is just immature.

Answer 3

FIRST OFF IM SRY THAT THIS HAS HAPPENED TOO YOU!!
BUT ANYWAYS THIS HAS HAPPENED TO ONE OF MY FRIENDS AND I STILL DONT THINK THAT SHES MOVED ON. I MEAN YES SHE DATES OTHER GURLS BUT I KNOW THAT IT SHE WOULD TAKE HER BACK SHE WOULD. BUT THE BAD THING IS THE GURL DID HER SO WRONG. SHE CHEATED ON HER AND PLAYED GAMES WITH HER MIND AND EVERY THING ELSE. BUT ILL TELL YOU WHAT I TELL HER, U HAVE TO MOVE ON ITS OVER SHE GONE ( SHE DID YOU WRONG) U DONT NEED HER AND YOU DESERVE BETTER. I CANT REALY TELL U CUZ I DONT KNOW WHY YALL BROKE UP, OR WHAT EVER. BUT I CAN TELL YOU ONE THING! IT WILL BE OK JUST TAKE ONE DAY AT A TIME AND KNOW THAT THERE IS SOMEONE ELSE OUT THERE FOR YOU. U JUST HAVE TO QUIT LOOKING AND LET IT COME TO U AND TRY NOT TO FALL IN LOVE CUZ IT MIGHT NOT LAST EVERY TIME. BUT HEY YALL MIGHT EVEN GET BACK TOGETHER MY MOM AND STEP DAD DATED 18 YEARS AGO BEFOR I WAS BORN THEN SHE GOT WHEN MY DAD THEN 18 YEARS LATER THEY GET BACK TOGETHER AND GET MARRIED. SO U NEVER REALY KNOW JUST LET WHAT HAPPENS HAPPEN.(JUST TRY TO STOP THINKING OFF HER TAKE HER PICS AND PUT THEM IN A BOX AND PUT THEM UP SOMEWHERE. DONT THROW THEM AWAY U WILL REGRET IT!!!!!!! PUT ALL HER STUFF UP SOMEWHERE AND TRY TO INVITE PEPLE OVER AND TRY TO GET OVER HER