I am married but i used to think of my old girl friend i messed up a lbeautiful life with her?

Question

I am so depressed , i had a girl friend who was so good to me, i used to fight with her but she always remain calm, sometimes she will answer in a temper but most of the time she is soft spoken. she loved my family very much even though my brother , sister and mother didnt like her. i never have tried to see her positive sides i regret now i am married but my wife is so busy she wont have time to take care of me so i think how my girl friend was she used to spend time as much as she can, she was so caring , she always ask whether i had food, did i dry my hair after shower, to take medicine when i am sick, she direct me towards everything good, she shout and advice me a lot when ever i go wrong, she supported me to help my brothers to buy new house for them, she supported me for charity purpose. i didnt see anything good when i was in that relation , atlast i found reasons and dumped her, she cried and was begging to me a lot i got married to another girl...

my wife is not caring me, she always yell at me when i give financial support to my family memebers. i got married to this girl she is beautiful and earning good income to lead a good family life . before i was getting married my gf cried and atlast she wish everything good for me but atlast she told me a single sentence one day in your life you willl miss and want me but you will be too late... i think it was a curse but she told me she always pray for my goodness, i was shocked to hear she is getting married with another man its an arranged marriage... but before marriage she told me she cant think of another man other than me... how can i get my girl friend back... will she come back to me?

I really wish to get a girl like her... now i realize and regret... i missed a beautiful life with her...... did she curse me? do u think so?

my girl friend is religious and traditional... even if i call she will never come back because she told me before marriage if u get married to another girl i will never come into your life because you should love your wife and not me..

Answer 1

soo sorry baby but you had your chance and you blew it....
you have it good if couldn't see it .....now you could leave your wife and try to get back with her ,,,,,or be a man and love the
wife you have...

Answer 2

Oh so now you think she is great and your wife is not. The first thing you must do is decide if you are going to stay married. You can do nothing about the past until you do. If you love your wife and wish to stay married you will forgive yourself for being an idiot and move on with your life. If you decide to get a divorce then you can ( after the divorce) call the old g/f and talk to her. Tell her what you did was wrong. Remember she has also gone on with her life and she may now be seeing a man who appreciates her. She may not want you back. You have a lot of things to think about. You also might want to consider doing nothing for a time and then rethinking the whole problem.

Answer 3

Its always like this buddy. You don't know what you got until it is gone. Every man and woman experience the same thing. I dumped the girl i was going to marry. She said I would be sorry, the girl was really smart because she was absolutely correct, I am sorry, she knew we were meant for each other and I think about her all the time and wish I could see her again, but its over. I'm sure someone else married her, now i'm alone like an idiot, but o' well. Got to make mistakes in order to learn, in my case I got to make many mistakes. Your probably in a worse situation because you got married. Its like this, either you commit to the wife you have now, what I mean is you stop being half *** about your marriage, works things out with your wife, tell her your feelings, show her more love, treat her the way you would like to be treated, or you kick her to the curb and go get your old lady back.

Answer 4

You are focusing on something else because you find something lacking in your marriage. You are dreaming of what could have been but that isn't reality. Even if you could go back to your old GF, there would be relationship/trust problems since you've moved on and married etc. A relationship with your old gf would never be the same as it was, that is assuming that you aren't dreaming that it was better than it really was. Its easy to remember "the good ol' days" and forget the bad ones.

You are married, you obviously found aspects that you liked in your wife. You feel forgotten and uncared for in your relationship. You need to address this with her and tell her your concerns. You are on the road to cheating or divorce. Your wife likely cares for you very much, but has been distracted or lost sight. You may need to aleviate financial problems, work issues or whatever is keeping her busy. You need to address this directly with her and possibly seek counciling through church or other places to heal your marriage.

Answer 5

You had your chance and you blew it. If its an arranged marriage looks like you can never get her back now. Besides you are married and that should be the last thing to think about now. Looks like you need marriage counseling or talk to your wife up front about your feelings. You can't just leave a marriage just because you realized you screwed up your last realtionship. Marriage is a very serious thing, it should be taken seriously being that its said and done before god.

Answer 6

You are looking at your past relationship through rose-coloured glasses. There was a reason things did not work out with you and your old girlfriend. You are in a new relationship and need to work on that and quit looking back. Talk to your wife and maybe you need to talk to your doctor about your depression. Concentrate on the relationship you are in and remember why you married this woman.

Answer 7

Why do people always do this to themselves? They hit a bump in the road so they romanticize the past. Life isn't about wallowing in the past. It's about living the now and looking to the future. You do yourself no good by imagining a what might have been.