My friend has told me that my close female friend believes that I’m dating another girl, who's quite a looker and that she’s happy for me! At the same time, she has been acting weird (feeling down,tired,can't approach other blokes) towards me, gone cold, not wanting to meet, not saying much, practically ignoring me!!!-didn't have argument/falling out. Its only with me,no one else. Is she feeling jealous? My behaviour towards her has not changed since I’ve ‘started dating’ this girl, only her’s towards me. A coincidence?
Does this show that she actually fancies/has feelings for me? If she’s happy for me, why is she ignoring me? Why has she not mentioned/spoken to me about this girl e.g. how’s it going, etc surely good friends would?
p.s. I’m not dating anyone, the looker is only a friend who I don’t fancy at all, have feelings for my close female friend.
What can I do? I don't want us to drift apart and don't want to lose her! Help...
2006-10-30 00:31:57 · 28 answers · asked by roadtripman90 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Her usual behaviour towards me=meet regularly, we're attracted to each other, flirt majorly (she always txts me first) txt each other practicly everyday, tell each other everything (opens up fully to me), she says that she don't fancy anyone/pulls anyone, gets jealous when I mention other girls, both single since we've met each other etc
She says that she doesn’t fancy me but her behaviour is the complete opposite.
What is she feeling/thinking?I don't want to get it wrong! How much time should I give her? What should I say?
2006-10-30 00:32:33 · update #1
When would it be too late to resolve?
2006-10-30 03:18:20 · update #2
I think your right on target here! I think she does "fancy" you lol. And thats why her behavior has done a 360 since she "thought" you might be dating someone. I would make time for a nice quiet alone talk, and face this subject head on. Come right out and ask her whats going on, tell her that you miss talking to her. Tell her that your sorry you never intended to hurt her feelings. And thats putting the ball back in her court hun. You sound like a good guy, hope this works out for you! Who knows maybe you'll write another note on here telling about a great date the 2 of you had!!
2006-10-30 00:55:42 · answer #1 · answered by btsnpieces 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girls' minds are very complicated. Actually, she fancies you but she does not want you to know. You can tell by her behavior, one minute you all are close friends, the next you're all acting cold towards each other. When you mention other girls, she will get jealous because she thinks that if you have other girlfriends instead of her, she will feel left out. The solution is to tell her that the rumor about you "dating" someone isn't true. Easy, isn't it? Good luck.
2006-10-30 00:43:30 · answer #2 · answered by ~*Jennifer*~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe your friend feels like she's loosing you and that all of your attention will be one this other girl. Let her know that you are not with the looker and that she (your friend) means a lot to you and that no matter who you are with she will always have a place in your life. She might have also felt that some day you will want to be with her and was waiting for that day to happen. The best way to get this cleared up is to have a talk let her know just how much she means to you. Every body wants to be to wanted.
2006-10-30 00:40:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Instead of having all the what to dos, and what's she feeling/thinking, and what ifs.... why not get together with her and open up. Let her know that you don't have any attraction to this other girl that it is her you are attracted to. Tell her that you would like to be more than friends but if friends is all she wants then you will settle for that and be honored to simply be a part of one anothers lives. Communicate honestly! That's the only sure way to get the answers you are seeking. Best of luck!
2006-10-30 00:50:19 · answer #4 · answered by looking for answers 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay this is a repeat post, as I've already answered this question. You HAvE to tell her - tell her, tell her, tell her!!!!
She was obviously invested in this friendship and txting someone so often is a sure sign you think something is going on.
Ask yourself, if someone told you she was dating a really HOT guy, how would you feel? Betrayed a little? I'm sure! Get your head out of the sand and TELL THE GIRL!! You like each other- stop messing around.
2006-10-30 00:35:22 · answer #5 · answered by Sugar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The behaviour would suggest she has feelings for you but there could be any number of other reasons why her behaviour has changed and it might not be about her feelings for you. If she is denying her feelings for you I think it is time to let the friendship go, she's not a friend if she can't be happy for you. I understand that you have feelings for her, unfortunately she's denied you the opportunity to develop things with her, if she's aware of your feelings then she may be uncomfortable with yours hence the aloofness. In either case talk to her and reach some middle ground.
2006-10-30 06:01:58 · answer #6 · answered by fuzzierfelt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whether a girl likes you or not - they get jealous! Girls want what they can't have. I've been there! I've always had male friends and the minute they found someone I'd get sh*tty. I didn't fancy a single one of them but just didn't like the idea of someone else being closer to them. Also if she heard it throught the grape vine and not from you, that too can be quite upsetting that you didn't confide in her about it!
2006-10-30 05:52:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wondering whether you've tried to use this situation in order to try and make this girl jealous, which is not cool!
It could be that she misses you as a friend only and doesn't want to tell you.
Or maybe she is jealous, but personally I'm thinking perhaps she can find someone a hell of a lot better.
2006-10-30 00:40:31 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's very obvoius she does like you more then a friend and she is jealous...She evidently doesn't want you to know but she does. I think you should sit down and talk to her bring up the way she is acting is showing jealousy. I only know because im the same way...
2006-10-30 02:22:23 · answer #9 · answered by AnnaG 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it's kind of obvious that she likes you, but the question is do you like her? It sounds like yall have a great friendship and you do not want to ruin that so I would talk it over with her. She does seem jealous and she probably is, and she is also probably upset that she didn't tell you she liked you before you went out with this girl. And if you have been/ and or are flirting with her, you are leading her on, and that is going to hurt her if you dont really like her. Good luck and I hope things work out!
2006-10-30 00:34:00 · answer #10 · answered by asd589 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋