i have been wanting another child , i have been asking him if he wants to start.
he got back to me 2 weeks ago. i got off thhe pill, to have my first period which is light . the first couple weeks him an d i have been doing it eveyday. now since i started to bleeding he hasnt been wanting to do anything(never cared before about having sex on my period). i have been catching him in the bathroom getting off, what do u think ? is it not really wanting another baby or is it something else?
2006-10-30 00:25:15 · 25 answers · asked by michelle 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I doubt he's avoiding the baby issue, since he seems to be willing to have sex with you the rest of the time. It's possible that he just doesn't 'feel' like having sex everyday, and maybe he thought he would get a break during your period. Btw, I'm pretty sure your more likely to get pregnant if you don't have sex everyday (something to do with sperm count.) Ultimately tho, I think you should just ask him. Getting off on his own is not nearly as much work as having sex, so it could just be that he's not up for the whole show every night.
2006-10-30 00:48:36 · answer #1 · answered by redzodd 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, he is not ready but he is also not going to actively resist because he feels he has given his word. The "I'll get back to you in two weeks" should have been your first clue too bad you missed it. You have to make a choice now, are you an understanding, loving wife, who will work with him to calm his doubts BEFORE you move try again? Or will you take the selfish route and rush into it hoping he eventually gets with the program.
I'd recommend an immediate 6 month break from trying. If you and he do not sort this out completely you could risk divorce and 2 kids not having a dad. Look at your current child, do you want that for him/her?
2006-10-30 00:34:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't know about upset but confused definitely there is obviously something wrong well if he's doing it in the bathroom he's not having an affair, maybe it is just the pressure, talk him about it and maybe just do every night on your fertility week instead of all the time to give you both a break in between. Men are very sensitive about their bit n bobs the slightest thing can upset them. We are trying for a baby at the mo and even though everyone says don't think about it don't put pressure on yourselves but you just cant help it.
2006-10-30 00:40:20 · answer #3 · answered by bez 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Keep talking to your Husband. You must both agree that having a baby is what you both want. He is the only person that can answer that question.
Biologically there are a few important point you should know:
1. You cannot get pregnant from having sex during your period. It is medically impossible.
2. Men produce millions of sperm. Even if he wasted a few in the bathroom he can make new ones again in a few hours (as long as he is healthy).
2006-10-30 00:39:47 · answer #4 · answered by lee 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
To be honest, I cant say for sure what his problem is, but I wouldnt panic and assume that he doesnt want another child. I mean he is having sex at other times, when you dont have your period. Did you ask him if there is some sort of issue?? I know how you feel it is horrible, to find out your man does that, especially when you are doing it for a reason. Stay strong, have you been trying for a while??
What else could be wrong?? What are you thinking??
2006-10-30 00:50:27 · answer #5 · answered by carrienicholson23 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he's tired of having sex every day.My husband and myself are trying for a baby and it can be very stressful.It takes all the fun out of sex when you're doing it every day and not because you really want to,but feel you have to.
My husband who has a high sex drive felt really pressured and was relieved when I let him have time out.
Get some ovulation tester kits and these will tell you when you are most likely to ovulate.Then you will only really have to try aound this time leaving the rest of the month free for no pressure sex.
2006-10-30 00:31:35 · answer #6 · answered by kerrie h 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he doesn't truly feel ready to have a child yet and he just agreed to ensure he didn't hurt your feelings. Or it could be that there maybe something going on in your relationship which is making him think that bringing a child into the world will escalate these issues if indeed there are any and is therefore putting him off having sex. you need to sit him down and have a proper conversation together to resolve the issue/s. ensure you both listen to each other and take into account what is being said. good luck
2006-10-30 00:37:58 · answer #7 · answered by missree 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, its called being male...
and the concept of having sex while a women is on her period is to be a bit gross (i've certainly never ventured it)
Maybe he's realised just how awful it is... god gave a women a period to see if men and women could get along without sex for a week...
Maybe you want a baby more than he does and he feels pressured... or maybe... just maybe... he dont feel like sex... it does happen to men you know, we do lose out libido
2006-10-30 00:29:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
maybe he feels the pressure to get you pregnant. Don't forget that sex can still be fun without having to think we have to conceive this time.
He may need a little rest and to begin feeling sexy again rather than a piece of meat that needs to perform
The best thing is to talk it though even if he says things you don't want to hear.
Good Luck.
2006-10-30 00:29:02 · answer #9 · answered by Heather 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
He probable shouldn't elect on to stay on it too a lot because it probable damage his delight and rightfully so. Take him out to dinner and enable him do regardless of he needs to for the weekend. He would imagine about yet another corporation if this corporation shouldn't delight in what he has to grant. strong success!
2016-10-16 06:55:35 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋