i'm really in love with a guy that i no loves me as well inspite that he hurts me alot, but i'm still remaining with with him. i feel @ times that i can't take it no more so i think sometimes that i should give up on us! but on the other hand i want to save our relationship. how do i hold on/ save my relationship with the guy i want to spend the rest of my life with?
2006-10-30 00:12:45 · 13 answers · asked by baby girl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
stay with him.........you are headed down a one-way road do 100 mph
2006-10-30 00:16:33 · answer #1 · answered by classy&sassy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every relationship has EBB and FLOW. Ebb is when things are low, so low you think it ain't gonna last sometimes, and other times it's all flowing.
When you say he hurts you, it can mean many things. If it's physical HURT, then drop him, as in YESTERDAY!. If he hurts you by deliberately ignoring or capitalising on your feelings of insecurity, then it's called emotional abuse. Either way, it's a no no because it won't change.
You love him for the good times, because they are so damned good. But you hurt in the bad times because they overshadow the good ones. The rollercoaster should be more UP than DOWN. If it's more down, you got to find your center, your own company, and build your love for yourself outside of him. Take a break if you can, even at the fear of losing him. He'll either catch a wake up or walk away - but either way, you can't hold on to someone who is wriggling away.
After all, how do you pin a wave upon the shore?
2006-10-30 00:21:43 · answer #2 · answered by Sugar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are the only person who can answer this question. You need to listen to your head as well as your heart. I hope that he his not hurting physically, but then neither should he be hurting you emotionally. You need to sit down and talk to this guy, explain exactly what you have just told us here. Tell him how you are feeling and you sometimes want to leave the relationship. Most of all you have to be completely honest with yourself, if the relationship has been, and continues to be physically and/or emotionally abusive you really need to think of yourself. I don't mean be selfish but to consider your own safety and possibly sanity.
Everyone has had their fair share of bad relationships and I'm sure the majority of people here are very empathetic to your situation,but in reality only you can really know what you want to do.
I hope everything turns out OK for you, whatever you decide to do. Keep yourself safe hunni xxxx
2006-10-30 00:22:28 · answer #3 · answered by moominjen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm.. Very honestly....I wud say..Go with the flow. Let life take its course.I believe your relationship will be saved.Just that dont try too hard.Stop working on it.When things are going wong,never pick up the phone and try sorting out.At the most, just say "sorry, I did it." But NEVER try solving it.Let it be.It"ll fade on its own.
Sleep over problems and try being complaint free and cheerful.Life is gonna be beautiful again.
2006-10-30 00:19:52 · answer #4 · answered by @yU$|-| 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the guy is hitting you give up on him. It wont last if he is mistreating you. You should be treated well unless you are a collared sub and into bdsm. Then its a different ball game. take care and keep your head up!
2006-10-30 00:17:37 · answer #5 · answered by Shawn D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you want to spend your life with a guy who "hurts you a lot." That is ridiculous...you will be miserable until you die. find someone who makes you happy.
2006-10-30 00:15:32 · answer #6 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i myself was in a similar situation i spoke to him abt tis and he realized tht he hurt me a lot in the past now he is different he is very careful with my feelings. so the key is speak up dear. all the best!!!
2006-10-30 00:16:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Y O Y would you want to spend the rest of your life with someone that HURTS YOU???? Please explain this. Have you no self esteem, don't you care about yourself!!!
2006-10-30 00:14:39 · answer #8 · answered by HereweGO 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Baby Girl,
When you love someone and THEY LOVE YOU BACK, you are not always in pain. You have discussions and disagreements, but not pain.
It's out there. Find it, but don't settle for what you have. Love is wonderful, not painful!
2006-10-30 00:16:27 · answer #9 · answered by Momma Jo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask him why does he continues to hurt you and maybe he's comfortable and knows you will never leave him. Break your routine and the next time he hurts you,he will come back. if you love someone set it free if it comes back its yours if it doesn't it never was
2006-10-30 00:23:53 · answer #10 · answered by potato 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋