I have been with my boyfriend for 4 years but broke up for 6 months as I was having health problems and I didn't feel that he was supporting me enough. After getting over my illness we got beck in touch (Big mistake) We have only been seeing each other for 6 months and already I feel he is not the man for me, but we have applyed for a house together and bought things for the house (Which I have paid for) as he has no job but is going to college. I don't feel relaxed in his company. I want to break up but dont know the right way to go about it, with out him turning hasty.
The things for the house are at his parents house, how do i get them back with out him being hasty and he says I not getting the things back?
2006-10-29 23:51:34 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Cut your loses, just tell him how you feel. Lose the anchor.>
2006-10-29 23:54:20 · answer #1 · answered by Captain Comment 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to come up with a really good excuse for getting the items back .. perhaps putting them in storage...and if i were u id dot my i 's and cross my T's..and make sure u have all the reciepts for what u've paid for.... because if this does go down badly and they refuse to give u the stuff u may have to prove in the court of law that u actually bought it..
DONT stay with a man that ur not comfortable with or that u dont love.. it will only get messier and harder in the future..
Find an excuse something that makes sense to get the furniture into a storage unit.. Example.. if his parents smoke.. u dont want the furniture smelling like smoke when u get it to the new house.. ect..
2006-10-30 08:03:10 · answer #2 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a bind! If you've paid for the stuff, you should be able to get it back, but there's no telling. Try going over and bringing some stuff back with you, if possible; maybe tell him you'd feel more comfortable having with the stuff with you.
Whatever you decide, material things are all they are; material. You may have to choose between the stuff and your sanity - I'd say opt out of this relationship as soom as possible if you feel it is wrong for you. Coasting along and delaying the enevitable will make it harder and nastier. Either way, Good luck.
2006-10-30 08:03:26 · answer #3 · answered by Sugar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure there is no way to love him again and have him love you again. Shouldn't you talk with him about all this instead of us (sorry, didn't mean to sound mean if that's what it sounded like). Maybe if you tell him you feel, it'll be a rude awakening to him and he'll change for the better and treat you like a queen....or he'll just get fed up and leave you. Either way, you'll know his true feelings of you.
2006-10-30 09:35:55 · answer #4 · answered by luedvic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do you have the invoices for them? You can sue them to get the things back if you do. They can't keep your own property from you. Also if you feel so bad with him, just tell him quickly, and explain yourself if he'll let you. Make sure you tell him there are many ways you can get your things back and that you have full intention of doing so. Take a page from the cosmo book of life and be fearless!
2006-10-30 07:55:46 · answer #5 · answered by masterdvrsgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A broken relationship is much better than a broken marriage. Sit him down and talk immediately. The earlier the better. You should be with someone you are happy and relaxed with. If he refuses to give you your things back, move on... you have your life and your future. Find true love and happiness....everyone deserves this.
2006-10-30 08:14:33 · answer #6 · answered by yajebu 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can be assertive without being "bitchy" hun. If its over its over be honest while he may not like it today someday he'll apperciate it. And if he doesnt oh well hun you have to do whats best for you and your life, and if you truly feel that doesnt involve him, theres only way to go from here. Keep it simple, kill him with kindness, while these things are not easy do it the right (polite) way and keep your character intact! You'll go on with your life and still hold yourself in high regard!
2006-10-30 08:01:26 · answer #7 · answered by btsnpieces 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes ending a relationship incurs losses. You have to decide how much more you would lose if you moved forward and stayed with this guy.
If you have receipts for the items, then get the law involved if you have to, he or his family won't allow you to retrieve the items.
You have no control over how he chooses to react...but if you know you don't want to continue to be with him, then as gently as possible let him know you don't feel the two of you are a good match after all, and you want him to be free to meet someone who'll be head over heels crazy for him (and you want that for yourself as well).
Good luck...
2006-10-30 07:58:17 · answer #8 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go and pick up your stuff and put it in storage for now. If question arise, just say you are gettin it out of their way. Then break up with your man if you are not happy. It is your stuff and you paid for it..go and get it. If you don't love him, end it now and move on with your life.
2006-10-30 07:57:27 · answer #9 · answered by ceecee_41004 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh dear, might be easier to cut your loses, let him have the stuff for the house and just break it off with him.
2006-10-30 07:55:29 · answer #10 · answered by Liggy Lee 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he as no controll of the things you bought, you paid for it so its your, you need to tell him its over, you dont want to live with him just make is clear to him that is would not work out. good luck
2006-10-30 07:57:09 · answer #11 · answered by MARSHA W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋