I am married for last 22 years and have two children. She also had an extramarital affair but I got over it. Her poor interest in sex has caused me a lot of trauma.
2006-10-29 23:32:08 · 20 answers · asked by romantic_v 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
go to a strip bar
2006-10-29 23:34:33 · answer #1 · answered by amberharris20022000 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ya know that little saying two wrongs don't make a right. Well listen to it. Just because she had an affair doesn't mean you should. That will just cause more problems than you already have. Try sweeping her off her feet. Take her away for a romantic weekend or do something very special for her inside your home. Most (not all) women that don't have sex anymore have a reason, hormones, tired, something is stressing them, etc. Why isn't she wanting it anymore? After 22 years together maybe she wants to try new things. Ask her what it is that would be a fantasy or a turn on and try that w/out letting her know and then one weekend have it ready for her.
2006-10-29 23:50:02 · answer #2 · answered by ~*~frankie~*~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well done for 22 years of marriage! Firstly, try talking to her about your needs in the marriage and then ask her what her needs are. Tell her you are frustrasted. Maybe you need to spice things up a bit in your marriage. Take her somewhere romantic....maybe organise and plan a romantic weekend away somewhere. There are lots of weekend away deals where you get champagne and chocolates and spa room etc. If her sex drive is low, then try sugesting that she buy something from the chemist that will help her sex drive. Does she want to stay with you? Are you both in this marriage for better, for worse? If you are, then you will both talk through these issues and reach a compromise. If all else fails, you could sugest to her for you both to see a marriage counsellor. I had a similar problem with my ex husband and I cheated on him! It was the worst mistake I've ever made cause I hurt alot of people, especially my ex. But I also understand how frustrating it can be too. Communication is the key to a successful, honest, open and fruitful relationship! Good luck!
2006-10-30 00:11:51 · answer #3 · answered by shellpower67 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds as though you have spoken to her. Some women just have a low sex drive, and some just get jaded over the years, as do some men. Finding a "partner" could be a quick fix and there are many willing fish in THAT sea.. although I doubt you'd want to go for a swim in it - too many contractable diseases.
However, the alternative is not necessarily bright either. You may find a suitable companion, and fall in love, and that could mean the end of your current marriage.
You must make a choice OUTSIDE of your desire for sex, based on the state of your marriage. If you decide to leave your wife, do so on its own merit. If you decide to stay, you could always see a sex therapist.
Few women I know would fall in love with someone and just be content to see him whenever.
Whatever you decide, it will not be an easy road. Good luck to you.
2006-10-29 23:40:53 · answer #4 · answered by Sugar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, obviously since you have been married for 22 years, there is something that keeps you two together. She messed up by having an affair earlier in your marriage, but that does not give you the right to do it, too. You may try to talk to her about your frustrations. Marriage is about meeting in the middle. If you have been married for 22 years, she may be getting older. Older women go through a lot of biophysical changes and her lack of sex drive and sexual desire may not truly be her fault. Your wife and you may decide after talking that she take a pill to help her regain her sexual desire. I don't remember the name of it, but your doctor would know what to prescribe.
If her reason for having a lack of sexual desire with you is that she is having another affair, if you think that you can save the marriage, my suggestion would be to go see a therapist for Marriage Counseling. Good luck to you and I hope that you are mature enough to handle this using the correct head.
2006-10-30 01:24:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you know why she has so little interest i sex? Since she had an affair maybe it is sex with you she does not enjoy? I don't mean to be rude, it is just an observation. If there is no hope of her getting back her interest, then you should leave her before entering a new relationship
2006-10-29 23:44:05 · answer #6 · answered by Eileen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should have been gone when she cheated on you. Obviously her poor interest in sex is only with you. Get a divorce if you want to get some from someone else, two wrongs don't make a right.
2006-10-29 23:35:02 · answer #7 · answered by Captain Comment 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she has a poor interest in sex , i cant understand why she went for extramarital affair. May be you cant give her sex properly and that is whyshe doesnt show any interest for sex with you. YOU BETTER TALK TO HER AND HAVE A NICE HEALTHY DISCUSSION WITH HER ON THIS TOPIC. AND I WILL NOT ADVISE YOU TO HAVE EXTRAMRITAL RELATIOS
2006-10-30 00:39:44 · answer #8 · answered by soofi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, before you can start a new relationship you must end the one you are in now. She will find out...you found out when she did it right? Then she will take everything that you have accumulated during the 22 years of marriage!
2006-10-30 01:14:23 · answer #9 · answered by Jane Smith 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is obviously interested in sex if she cheated on you. She is probably cheating again and that is why she isn't interested.
Go find a woman and keep it quiet. Live the rest of your life like her. In denial
2006-10-30 05:10:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
now it's your turn to have a extramarital affair pal.
don't get trauma and give the sl*ut back the penny for her dollar.
good luck pal.
2006-10-29 23:46:23 · answer #11 · answered by Mr ME 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋