My wife and I are currently seperated due to a false domestic violence suit filed against me. I'm confident that I will have the charges dropped but after the criminal case is over I would like a divorce in which I obtain joint custody with the children living with me. I currently feel that it is the most realistic expectation. My wife had spent a majority of time with the children because she was not working. She had moved from job to job throughout the entire time she was down here. She is also not native to Florida and is not capable of supporting the children financially. She is not a drug addict or alcoholic, but she is irresponsible. I can provide a better environment for the children to live in but what are the chances of me recieving joint custody in a contested despute?
2006-10-29 22:54:27 · 6 answers · asked by Edward 2 in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
I'm not a lawyer, so I can only speak from situations I've observed. However, I've seen cases where the father was clearly the more responsible party, or eligible for joint custody, and the courts refused to side in his favor.
You have many men out there who are more than willing to provide a safe and loving home for their children, or who want to split custody with their ex-wives who are not being afforded the opportunity because of the deadbeat dad 'standard'.
Children can be the most critical and honest witnesses in cases, and assuming one or more of them is old enough to speak to the judge, the truth will be revealed. The best thing you can do is present the facts of your case. You're financially stable, capable, and a willing and involved parent--which cannot be said in all of these cases. Provide ample evidence as well as witnesses who find in your favor, as the outcome of this case will be one of the most important decisions of your lives.
Best of luck to you as you fight for your rights, and make sure you have an excellent lawyer who believes in you.
2006-10-29 23:12:16 · answer #1 · answered by Janx 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
From the sounds of it, I would make sure I had the best attorney available to you.
Also I would go after sole custody with sole physical custody.
The issue I see coming up with your wife (soon to be ex wife) is she will expect to be able to make decision about the children with you. If you have sole custody then you have the right to make all the decisions about the children. You can ask her opinion but by having sole custody you ultimately are free to make the decisions for the children.
Also how old are the children? They may have the right to speak in court saying who they want to live with.
Good luck And remember bad talking mom in front of children is never a good thing. They may feel like they have to choose sides and may feel like they are be torn in two.
2006-10-29 23:14:52 · answer #2 · answered by pj_gal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-01 04:38:40 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not going to happen. That violence charge will follow you into civil court. A dropped charge does not mean your innocent.
Remember the O.J. Simpson thing? After the trial the family took him to court and won.
2006-10-29 23:07:49 · answer #4 · answered by Tom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just as good if not better then hers from what you say
2006-10-29 23:00:23 · answer #5 · answered by kustomflames@verizon.net 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
make sure kids are safe
2006-10-29 22:56:33 · answer #6 · answered by Diender 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋