to kick her out of her own house and take her baby away from her.What can she do?What can I do?She is a good Mother,the baby is only a month old and he said he is going to say she is a bad mother.(she is not)and take the baby away.I feel I cant do anything but support whatever she does.What can she do to get him out and keep her baby?
2006-10-29 22:53:52 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Tell your daughter to phone the police, make a case before he does. If the property is in her name she can tell him to leave and the police will help in this matter as well. Don't wait, do it now! As far as the baby, if there is no evidence of abuse or mistreatment, the courts will always give the mother full custody of the child(99%), but it is all more the reason to lay a formal charge against the boyfriend, and get him out of the house.
2006-10-29 23:01:41 · answer #1 · answered by Bruce d 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First off they won't take her baby.
Second if the condo is in her name too then she is welcome to stay there. He can't make her leave.
I have been through something similar.
I was young, broke,no job, and from a poor family.
he was working, loaded, and he had his familys, money and lawyer.
I still got custody.
I am married to a diffrent man, and we fight and kick eachother out regularly.Neither of us leaves, and sometimes I say and he says some terrible stuff to eachother.
It doesn't always mean they're breaking up.
If she is a smart girl she'll make sure that she covers her ***, keeps her own money in an account with out his name and let him have all the utilities in his name so he is responsible.
The rent or mortgage should always be in her name. this way she has control.
Don't worry, the very worst case scenario, if he really does kick her out , she and the baby will come stay with you for a few weeks right.
You'll help her find her own place and if need be she can get public assistance ( And there is NO shame in that.)
But know this , the longer she stays there the harder it'll be . If she owns the town house then tell her not to leave and stay to keep her property. he will get sick and leave eventually, but atleast she remains in custody.and possesion.
also it would be a good idea for her to gather evidence against him , and keep it in a safe place like your house.
Let me know what happens.
Meg
kovasmomma@yahoo.com
2006-10-30 07:09:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Since they are not married to each other this one is tricky. First does he hit her or hurt the child? If so she can get help from a magistrate to remove him from the home. But if he is not abusive...well then the name on the lease or mortgage makes a big difference as far as kicking her out. Now the child is a different story. He would have to have at the very least a temp. custody order signed by a judge to take the child away from her. If you are serious about supporting her then please take her to see a lawyer ASAP!
2006-10-30 09:01:50 · answer #3 · answered by Jane Smith 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dear barb:
this is a no brainer, first of all ask yourself this:
1 has she been living together with him over six months? some states consider common law marriage after as low as 1 month.Either way if any of her property is in the premises he cannot kick her out, if he gets too "adamate" to get her out, call the cops, he is a guy he is loosing right of the bet.
(sux to say this because im a guy but hey! its the truth.)
2. also does she contribute financially to the houshold expenses?
same as above!
3 hey is she an honest girl? ask her what she did, if this is just an argument gonne out of proportion , trust me by tomorrow it'll be over and forgotten! you say she actually did something messed up? tell her to count her losses and think of the well being of the baby first! plz! love is not selfish!!!
4. if its a personal matter between them and she was just venting with you, assuming it doesnt affect the baby, let it be do not get involved ...trust me you can single handedly kill their relationship by interviening unnecesarely..
good luck, i hope it helps!!
2006-10-30 07:05:48 · answer #4 · answered by alephontime 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
IN ORDER TO MAKE SUCH A STATEMENT THAT YOUR DAUGHTER IS A BAD MOM,HE HAS PROVE IT FIRST.. MOTHERS RIGHTS ARE SACRATE... ARE THEY MARRIED? IF THEIR NOT HE IS TROUGH DEALING BECAUSE WHEN A WOMAN HAS A BABY AND SHE AINT MARRIED SOUL CUSTODY GOES TO THE MOTHER AT THE TIME OF BIRTH.... SO HE AINT GOT NOTHING... MAYBE IS BEST THAT YOUR DAUGHTER GET AWAY FROM HIM GO HOME TO YOU... SHE NEEDS TO BE NEAR PEOPLE WHO KNOWS SHE IS A GOOD MOM SO SHE HAS WITNESS TO TALK ON HER BEHALF IN CASE THIS GO TO COURT.. IF THE BABY IS IN GOOD HEALTH AND GOES TO THE DOCTOR FOR ALL HIS APPOINTMENTS THERE IS NO WAY HE CAN PROVE SHE IS A BAD MOM... SO YOU SHOULD NOT WORRY... JUST ADVICE YOUR DAUGTHER TO GO STAY WITH YOU FOR A WHILE... THE ONLY THING THIS GUY IS DOING IS DIGGING HIS OWN GRAVE CAUSE IF YOUR DAUGHTER LEAVES THE ONLY RIGHTS HE HAS RIGHT NOW UNTIL HE PROVES SHE IS A BAD MOM IS THE RIGHTS FOR CHILD SUPPORT PAYMENTS AND SOME VISITATIONS.
2006-10-30 08:10:01 · answer #5 · answered by boricua_2290 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all if the house is in her name even if his name is on it as well, she is a legal resident of that house and can stay as long as she pleases.. so he cant kick her out.. now if its in his name only he has to legally evict her in order to make her leave which means giving her 30 day notice to move out.. as far as him trying to take the baby away from her, as long as they arent married and there are no legal papers giving him custody he cant do a damn thing, she is legally considered the custodial parent and all she has to do is claim he's not the father if things get harry which will mean he'd have to fork out the money for a paternity test before any legal proceedings can be done.. if he is abusive towards her , she can file a "Family Protection Order" against him, if she gets the order he will have to move out of the house for awhile.. 6 months or so..
Her best bet is to leave though.. as this situation will only worsen, if i was you as a mom id go pick her and the baby up and bring them back home with u.. if they are in another state other then the one u live in, she needs to leave asap before he does get legal work in process, because he can make her stay in that state untill the baby is 18 unless she leaves prior to any legal proceedings being done..
Most judges are pro mother.. so its extremely hard to find a mother unfit with out an abundance of proof proving that she is, his word verses hers just wont cut it.. and threating to take the baby is unfortunately normal for little boys trapped in mens bodies to do as they feel it will frighten the mother into doing what they want them to do ..
She's in a bad situation.. she needs to get out now.. even if she isnt exactly admitting everything to u.. i found myself in a similar situation with a very verbally and physically abusive man that threatened the same things.. i prayed for my father to come get me, yet was to ashamed to tell my father what was going on..
2006-10-30 07:55:30 · answer #6 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OK first off He will have to prove what allegations he is going to come up with. If there is NO evidence of her being an unfit mother she has nothing to worry about. She should get a RESTRAINING ORDER IMMEDIATELY. Like yesterday. By her own house do you mean she owns it or the rental/lease agreement is in her name. This being he cannot just throw her out. This is provided he doesn't not have a RETRAINING order on her. Another reason why she should get one on him. Keep in mind that if she gets one on him she should NOT lie in getting it. This can be used against her. UNTIL she gets things in order she should MOVE in with you or another family member until he is out of the house. I iwsh her nothing but GOOD LUCK.
2006-10-30 07:04:24 · answer #7 · answered by GRUMPY 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
why is it when things end, we all feel we can't give up the house, does she want the house or her child, dump him and the house. can't she stay with you, until she finds another house. the results of such petty arguments, have resulted many times, in downright violence, what is more IMPORTANT? tell her to get out, if she stays with him, he'll assume he won, and she will live a lifetime of abuse. good luck.
2006-10-30 07:01:52 · answer #8 · answered by valve6 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What you can do is get a lawyer and be prepared to house and feed your daughter and grandbaby for a while.
If she is not doing drugs or commiting serious crimes, she sould not have anything to worry abut.
2006-10-30 07:01:46 · answer #9 · answered by Jack P 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell your daughter you're going to be there for her and help her to find a good attorney. She's going to need one. Make plans to visit her, she needs her mom.
2006-10-30 07:29:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋