SOMETIMES IT HAPPENS ONE PARTNER THINKS THAT THE OTHER ONE IS NOT CARING FOR HIM. BUT TRUTH MAY BE DIFFER SOME PEOPLE DO NOT SHOW THEIR LOVE.
2006-11-02 02:08:54
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answered by RAMAN IOBIAN 7
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You are right to feel that your feelings are not being considered. The way your husband reacts to your family problems is indeed inconsiderate, even selfish and childish. I suppose this is the result of a long and problematic relationship during your 17 years of marriage. It seems that from the start, your feelings didn't count. Obviously, you were less important than other things. You probably went through many difficult periods coping with your demanding husband and son.
In my opinion, it is understandable that you want to take care of your mother at this point in her life, especially when your son is living with her. There are decisions in life that only the person affected should make, no matter the consequences; they are personal and involve your own conscience. It seems to me that this is the type of decision you must resolve now.
Your husband says "your place is with him"; I say your place is where your heart is. No one but you knows the answer, nor does anyone else have the right to decide what you need to do.
Your husband says, "You can twist and justify anything you want to make it look right." Tell him this is the way you feel, and if he accuses you of manipulating him, that is simply too bad. It is his choice to look at these issues in such a manner, instead of supporting you during this very difficult time in your life.
You need to understand that what is happening between you and your husband is the result of the way both of you managed your marriage: changes must be made.
My suggestions are:
Muster up the courage to make your own decisions, no matter what your husband says. Listen to your inner voice, to what your heart tells you. After all, if your husband loves you, he'll have to accept your decision and respect it - perhaps relocate along with you.
Be faithful to your true feelings. This might change the way your husband perceives you and relates to you. He will consider your feelings if you consider them first of all. The more you respect yourself, the greater the chance that your husband will respect you.
Your entire marital relationship should change, and my first two suggestions are the prerequisite conditions to allow for change. Another important condition is to speak to your husband, explaining how you really feel.
Marital counseling could help both of you work out all these issues.
2006-10-31 19:06:09
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answered by ? 4
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i'm 36 years previous and that i be attentive to a venture or 3 approximately loving and not being enjoyed decrease back. Now in case you're a praying individual i visit tell you to wish a lot. do not take a seat around and picture approximately THIS person that only makes it worse. Get busy and stay busy. while this individual consists of your techniques and you seize your self day dreaming or questioning approximately this individual supply up your self AND ASK GOD that may assist you to circulate pass THIS. do not carry out with this individual. one venture, that's alright to love this individual, yet love them from a protracted way away. Any do not enable this individual to apply you while they get lonely. you're well worth better than that. and don't sell your self short the two. that's alright to tell them which you desire some respiratory room and you do not desire to hold out anymore. and don't experience in charge approximately IT the two. i don't be attentive to if the actual portion of the courting has ensue between you 2, yet while it has get a e book stated as,"in case you like closure on your courting first close your legs." via huge Boon. Steve Harvey talks approximately it alot on his radio station. i'm hoping this permits. And talk over with your self with effective words. i'm a baby of God. I deserve somebody who will love me each and every of the time and not only while they are lonely. do not say something destructive. words have skill so use them on your self. And believe them. it is going to take time so be staying power and believe and believe and love your self adequate to be attentive to which you deserve greater advantageous.
2016-10-16 13:13:28
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answered by Anonymous
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Probably you have not understood
her. She is least bothered about you.
Or you are over reactive to feel that
she also loves you.
You are not at all bothered about
her feelings. She may be loving
someone else or she may not
consider you as a lover, but as a
friend.
She must have spoken a few good
words with you and you have taken
it as LOVE.
You are in a fools paradise, Please
forget her and be busy with your own
work and concentrate there.
2006-10-29 22:28:00
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answered by pianist 5
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Sometimes love is right there in front of our eyes and until something profound happens we don't see it. Maybe you need to give them that jarring experience to make them see! Remember love is a verb it's and action word so maybe you need to step up ya game and show them a lil more!
2006-10-29 22:25:59
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answered by Danette 4
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Well your problem is the same - you want everything ot be fast. Jaldi ka kaam shaytan ka hota hai.
Be Cool relax - try to be more affectionatr, caring and loving. Make her feel you care for her. Make her feel how important she is in your life.
BEst of luck,
2006-10-30 04:49:40
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answered by zarar don 2
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Either you are not effectively showing it, or they do not want to accept it or realize it, or they're too traumatized by bad treatment now or in their past.
You are probably not doing a good enough job at showing your love....
2006-10-29 22:11:19
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answered by Anonymous
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It is the nature of love........... true love is different when it will happen you will neither have to think nor worry .......... na sochti na roshati na ramate.........
I think I know you you are ajanta de from calcutta, met you many many years back.
2006-10-30 00:00:37
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answered by srisri c 2
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i feel he is taking you for granted, try to talk with him and you might get the answer
2006-10-29 22:18:20
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answered by Cool gal 2
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