I have been with my boyfriend for two months today! And he asked me to move in with him over a week ago, at his Mums house though (as he is 18) She is fine with this as she is away all the time at her boyfriends.
I currently houseshare with two people near my college, they are 25 though, and I am only 19 and are also taking £400 from me for rent per month (which my mum pays)
Technically living with Liam would be cheaper for my mum, but I am worried what could go wrong living with someone? Please let me know as I am only 19 and don't know what to do!!! xxx
2006-10-29 21:56:59 · 22 answers · asked by Tamara 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
i was with my hubby for a month before we moved in together and 10 yrs later we are still together!
it does work for some people, but make sure you think it through first
2006-10-29 21:59:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your asking us if you should do it then you have doubts, which suggests that you shouldn't do it!
Also don't do it for convenience as its not the right reasons to move in with someone!
Why not try and stay with him sat-Tues, and see how it goes, if after a month it's all good add a few more days, after two months if you feel you can handle it, move in.
But remember, when you do move in you won't have the sanctuary of your own place to go to, having Independence is a great thing to have!
I moved in with a boyfriend when i was 18 and it was my biggest mistake of my life, now two years later i have lived on my own for a year and a half and LOVE it! It's taught me so much!
If you wanna chat, mail me!
i just read your previous questions, and if he sulks all the time and acts like a stroppy teenager, do you really want to deal with that day in day out??
2006-10-29 22:16:38 · answer #2 · answered by GeorgieP 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it would be cheaper for you mum, but dont move in with him youve only been together for 2months its just crazy!
Whats with the rush? Also your boyfriends only 18 hes not mature enough yet, my fiance is 26 and we still bicker like little kids!
From previous experience i did this after being with my boyfriend for 6months we just argued and argued it wasnt a good sight. Im not saying your going to argue, but you dont know what a person is like until youve lived with them. If youve heard that saying before believe it.
Why dont you find somewhere cheaper to live as a house share because £400 is alot, im paying £480 for a nice house in a nice area with my boyfriend, so they are ripping you off a bit.
Be independent and do your studies because ive made this mistake before and i now regret it, i just wish I had someone to tell me back then.
2006-10-29 22:45:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
this might not be wot u want to hear but i`ve read ur questions regarding ur boyfriend liam and he`s either grumpy or angry. why put urself through more of that. moving in wiv him will be a huge mistake. ur at college and this is an important time for u where u need to be focused as it`s ur future which is at stake. i can`t see ur boyfriend improving ur quality of life. in fact i can see him dragging u down especially if ur going to be in the same house. at least where u are now u can get a break from him. my opinion is u should stay where u are. i know u want to save ur mum a bit of money which is really thoughtful of u but u have to ask urself if it is really worth it. i wish u good luck and hope this helps u make ur mind up
2006-10-30 03:29:20 · answer #4 · answered by graham f 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oight, mate! i can go volumes on this subject out of personal and borrowed experience . some good and some bad but ultimately you have to decide so insted of the regular opinionated answer i will hit you with some facts....
first of all let me tell you that for the sake of saving some "quid" you should never make a decision like this because you will certainly will regretet sooner or later, mostly sooner!
you have to give up a lot of things that you take for granted or commonly do or even little rituals and open yourself to the new and humiliating world of modifying yourself to fit better! for instance do you smoke, perhaps they dont and as soon as u lite that *** they gonna hit u with the ol' "in here smokers smoke outside", winter is approaching, enough said...or even worse, u dont smoke and they do and now u have to live in a house that smells like an ash tray 24/7, grate! but wait perhaps u are saying, well we all smoke, so hear this, before u rest assured, it applies to everything, what you eat when you go to bed, whether u take a **** with the door open or closed!! eww , and the hits keep on coming!
living with the inlaws sounds like a grate idea at first, best case scenario they think you are the gratest thing since slice bread, ok so honeymoon stage enssues...but sooner or later u or they do something that the other dont like and blam! its living like a stranger ...with the enemy in your own house. not to go any further , we guys like this little things u gals don't recognize called privacy, one day you are watching the game eating pizza and scratching your balls, next day you have to remove 30 teddy bears,(30 cushions, whatever) from the
bed before you go to sleep.Lemme tell you, nothing scares a guy more away from commitment than the crude realization he has sold his soul to the devil for regular sex and freaky session on your birthday!!! oh on the subject of bed.. i lived in england for a few years and as much as i moved i could never find a house whos walls were not made of the thinest paper,we are talking celophane how do you feel about the ol'folks listening to your "pillow" talk? Its not all bad ...i mean it'll give u a taste of what it is to live together and of things to come and worst case scenario u saved ol' mum a few quid here and there, I bet if u ask her she'll tell you she rather u remain status quo, but we all now thats not gonna stop what happens when no one is watching...mum dunno that thou!! bottom line u are 19 years old , i can only hope you are on the pill or are a responsible person cause for some crazy reason sometimes moving in equates with procreation! don't become a statistic, look aroud u, ask your momma what most of her taxes are paying, assuming she int a beneficiary herself, in witch case learn from example! also you are kind of new in your relationship and thats kind of a big step... but hey all u gotta do if u dont like it is ..move back out!
2006-10-29 22:25:54 · answer #5 · answered by alephontime 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take it from someone with experience in this area. Do not do it if you are not sure about it. I have been down this road and when it ends, if it does it can be UGLY! Not to mention painful, if you are not sure about it then there is a reason. Tell him that you're not ready for that yet, that doesn't mean that you two can not be exclusive. Spend a few nights with him learn his routines when you live with someone you learn SO MUCH about them. I have been married for five years and I'm as happy as I can possibly be with our marriage, she's the bomb! Let me tell you agian, IF YOU ARE NOT SURE THEN IT IS NOT A GOOD IDEA! Best wishes to ya!
2006-11-02 18:07:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you too easy to fall prey to guys, dont you have minds to think things first before deciding for it. Before you may excuse yourself from anything that could happen and be remorseful, avoid yourself living in one house with your boyfriend. you must have a conservative side so that it will protect you and keep you chaste until marriage. if he insists, then you must separate with him and find another boyfriend who respects you and treats you kindly. you must not be a dumb of jumping over a decision not thinking it first.
2006-10-29 22:07:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is still too early to move in with him. Give the relationship more time to build a solid foundation before moving in together.
2006-10-29 22:06:21 · answer #8 · answered by teddytrin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
whatever feels best for you. i think that you should go for it personally but it depends.
are you good friends with these people you houseshare with? do you talk to them a lot? if you are good friends then maybe talk to them about it otherwise you would probably be better off with your boyfriend.
2006-10-29 22:25:07 · answer #9 · answered by 012544 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i say if you want to move in with hi then go for it follow your heart but just remember ev thing changes when you move in together you are contantly around each other without any space so your feelings could either get stronger or you both could drift apart. xxx
2006-10-29 22:04:29 · answer #10 · answered by charlotte m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋