I moved half way across the world with my boyfriend because I was pregent and had no one that could help me while I was pregent, my mom is in jail so is my drunk father, my oldest sister is not all the way there, my next oldest sister has a life and moves to much, and my bother is at job corps trying to make a life. Me I am 17 and have a baby now. I miss home where I am close to my mom. I live in Holland now. Trying to make a good life for my daughter, my boyfriend wants to stay hear to finsh school for the both of use. I dont know what ot do! Should I go back to America where I have no one or stay hear and try to build something better for me and my daughter!
2006-10-29 21:31:45 · 22 answers · asked by lil_mama69smokie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I am a mother of two toddlers, and I don't have my family around me either. I have my partner, but not terribly close to his family. So I am a mother doing it tough on my own, and while I didn't move to another country, I move to the otherside of my country...which is 4000km difference. i can relate to your feelings is my point.
The best thing you can do is stay where you are and build a life with your partner. He is obviously very committed to the pair of you, and trying desperately to give you both more than you had. Wishing you had family around is never going to go away, but it does get easier. Once the baby is a little older and you have more faith in what you are doing. Try and get out there and meet people, because friends help a great deal.
They say you can't choose your family but you can choose your friends is right; and friends can become the family you don't have around you...best part you chose them. It has helped me greatly, hope it all works out for you.
Best of luck
2006-10-29 21:43:37 · answer #1 · answered by chelles_insanity 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would stay where I was and make the best of it. Everyone has cause to be unhappy as well as happy. It is up to you to make new friends and make a life for yourself. I can imagine it would be difficult to do this with a baby whether you are in Holland or America but I think with a bit of planning you could do it.
Also....try buying an exercise video and doing it three times a week. This will be like medicine for your "downess" and once you are feeling stronger you will want to get happier and happier and be in the right mind set to do so.
2006-10-29 21:36:12 · answer #2 · answered by vixenrules80 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should stay with your boyfriend but have him move back to the united states where you close to home so you can have some help from one of your siblings because it's going to be hard for you since you only 17 and pregnant. you should contact your brother and see if he can help you guys out but also why don't your boyfriend find a job and that could help with all the expenses that it will take having a new baby but if you do decide to move back then it going to be a hard journey for not only you but your boyfriend and daughter. but i think you should finish your education so you can get a good job for your family. good luck. (I'm 17 too even though i don't have a baby i had experience with this before.)
2006-10-29 21:41:42 · answer #3 · answered by mattie B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You put the horse before the cart. Obviously you lack education and good sense so you will have to deal with the hand you dealt yourself. Start by education. 17 is way to young to be laying around and having babies. That is a time you should be learning and getting ready for college. Sorry for your bad choices but you are the only one that has to live with them. Don't lose hope but try to make some better choices. America doesn't sound like such a good option for you. Stick it out and get an education.
2006-10-29 21:46:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should stay in Holland. It seems it will be easier to make a better life for yourself there. Since you have nobody in US at the moment I don't understand why you even want to go back now. I totally understand that you miss your mother, but who says you cannot visit her later or she can visit you when she is free? Finish school and get a Job in Holland to save money to make it possible to visit US
2006-10-29 21:39:52 · answer #5 · answered by Eileen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a bad situation but if you have no one in America why would you leave the one person you do have? I'd stay there and try and find a way to make some friends. They must have mothers groups, go to the local council and they should help you there.
2006-10-29 21:34:37 · answer #6 · answered by Abs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about you stay in Holland and go to school or perhaps get a job and earn a living? It doesn't sound like you have much waiting for you in the States. You need to think about what is best for your kid.
2006-10-30 08:57:39 · answer #7 · answered by danikatspecial 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try something better for you and your daughter. You can make it work. You said you have no one in America, so make friends in Holland. That's what I'd try, since you're already there.
2006-10-29 21:52:49 · answer #8 · answered by *babydoll* 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should stay..............for the sake of your daughter............try giving her a better life. Like you say your self back home you have nothing but here you have the chance to start a new life. Try to make new friends and get to know people. if you stay down on the situation you will only see the down side not everything youo have going for yourself. You made the move............now make it one better and start a new life for yourself and your daughter.
2006-10-29 21:36:44 · answer #9 · answered by life_vamp 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hold on for a while..study, find a work...than when things are better you could consider go back to America, even for a small trip....never give up your hopes to see your family again...but remember that you have a new family to take care about...
2006-10-29 21:40:38 · answer #10 · answered by xxx 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋