A collegue at work seems to be ignoring me for no apparent reason, She is quiet a good friend and I can't understand why she is behaving this way.... I have just returned to work after looking after my son who had to have emergency surgery. I have seen this 'friend' treat other collegues this way and now it seems it's my turn... Most people have asked me how my son is now and she is just acting as if I don't exhist... am I over paranoid ? I have enough to deal with at home and this is unecessary stress !
2006-10-29 21:26:32 · 22 answers · asked by sonia 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
She's a cow. Even people who don't like you that much will ask how your son is doing, as they are showing concern for you as a mother.
2006-10-30 09:55:09 · answer #1 · answered by Thia 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
MAybe she is having a tough time as well, why not suggest you have a coffee break and a talk, if it's not a convienient time then ask her when is for her and stick with it. Tell her she's not acting right with you, and have you dnoe something to offend her/ is there something bothering her, but you say she has done this to other people so it might just be how she is, and, like others have suggested, that she is jealous of the attention you recieve, I had a boss like this and I was the first one to confront him with how I felt, he claimed not to know what I was talking about, but asked me to point it out next time I felt he acted wrongly towards me. Funnily enough, he never did again to me or anyone else. Sometimes ppl have to know their actions are being noted before they will stop. OTherwise just give her a wide berth, she is not being a good friend to you at a time you really need one.
2006-10-30 05:36:20 · answer #2 · answered by emily_jane2379 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just ask her, if you have done anything to upset her hon. If she has a beef with you she should come out with it! Shouldn't she? I notice you put your friend into "inverted commas", so I think you have already unconsciously given her away. Unfortunately! This does happen in a lot of cases, but do try and give her a chance to explain her behaviour! It might even be something in her personal life that is causing her to act this way! You never know! Have a good day! And try not to let it upset you, too much! Show her this blog if you like! At least it will show that you still care about her and want to help.
2006-10-30 06:32:18 · answer #3 · answered by wheeliebin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she sounds like a *****.
All women are the same.
If she doesnt even care how your son is after having emergency surgery then surely you cant think of her as a friend. maybe she was seeing how a relationship with you would of work and realised you are not for her. So she has moved on to the next person
2006-10-30 05:31:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you letting this stress you? So she doesn't talk or ask about your son's wellbeing. She is not obligated to. As long as she is not behaving in an aggressive, bitchy or derogatory manner towards you, who cares? Stop looking for something to whine about and focus on your family and your real friends.
2006-10-30 05:40:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I quite agree, you do have enough to deal with and this behaviour is utter nonsense. It may hurt a bit and you may not understand it but if she is unable to talk to you about it then leave her to her own immaturity. I know that sounds harsh, but do you really need to waste time, energy and emotion over a situation that does not deserve it? All the best. xx
2006-10-30 05:32:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
may be whilst you where away she had taken on some of your workload? may be that was stressfull for her, I'm sure doing two peoples work would be. She may feel like you have taken her for granted.try and talk to her i'm sure its a miss understanding, she may be going through a bad patch and actually she could do with an ear to her problems but doesn't feel she can share with you. she probably insecure.
2006-10-30 07:10:09 · answer #7 · answered by tallulaberry 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No offence Selina but she is female, meaning that as a female she will do things for no apparent reason. Accept this fact and move on with your day stress free!
2006-10-30 05:30:57 · answer #8 · answered by brief reunion 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its a lame attention getting tactic i used to do when i was 12. whomever is the focus of everyone's attention, ignore that person. that person then has to talk to you to see whats wrong, thereby refocusing all attention back on yourself. just ask her if she wants more attention from you and if she says yes, then say, ok what would you like to talk about, and if she says no, ignore her right back.
2006-10-30 05:31:57 · answer #9 · answered by joelius24 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as she is not getting in the way of work, there is not a lot you can do about it. See if this behavior in some way interferes with that, if so confront her.
2006-10-30 05:38:15 · answer #10 · answered by answerer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋