Should i get married to my first cousin ?

Question

We have been seeing each other for the last 9 years.

Answer 1

You have been together for a long while, so I see no reason why you shouldn't get married. Its not illegal, and judging by the fact you have stayed together for so long, I am guessing your families don't mind. But I am concerned that you need to ask. If you are having doubts, ask yourself why. Are you using the cousin bit as an excuse? Do you actually want to marry him/her? I have an aunt who married her cousin. They were together 45 years and very happy, but they never had any doubts that they were meant to be together, and the families were happy about it. Ask youself why you felt the need to ask this question.

Answer 2

You love your cousin, right? I don't see why shouldn't get married. Only close friends and family should know your spouse is your cousin anyway.

Regarding children, I don't think it's too dangerous. My dad is the product of a love relationship between cousins. They were teens and his dad was sent far away by the family when the pregnancy was discovered. Later, my Grandma was married, and had three more children with an un-related man. I would say that my dad is the least defective out of the total of four children. In fact he was nearly at the top of his highschool class, and was the only person to go to college in his family. Now he's a professional, and by far the most successful person in his family. I think my Grandma should've had more children with her cousin instead of the other guy.

You've been in love for 9 years. If you're not worried about what a few people think, go for it.

Answer 3

Hi there, If this is something you are really seriously thinking about you might want to check the laws in your state. Each state is different. It could be possibly against the law to marry your first cousin. Also you probably wouldn't be able to have children since the possiblity of birth defects is higher if you marry into the same family. On a whole I don't think this is a healthy relationship. You may want to really think this out before you go any farther. Of course you probably have gone as far as you have in 9 years.

Answer 4

You sure got a lot of answers on this one Honey: Legally it is wrong and some States you can be jailed, it's a felony: whatever people think.
No. 2: medically your opening a door that I can see your foolish. You have no idea what your doing and I can't explain it here in a few words. Every bad gene in your family line could be handed down to you in one mass, in the kids.

Do you live on the Moon, aren't there any people where you live to date?
If you can get a license, if a preacher will marry you, if your relatives abide, good luck, your going to need it, everything is against this marriage.

Answer 5

I realize that you cannot help who you fall in love with so I will not judge you. I would like you to know however that there was a relationship like that in my family and all 3 of their children were born with serious birth defects. Life altering/threatening defects. Their first child is now 13 years old with the mentality of a 3 year old and has just recently learned to walk. He cannot talk or eat without a feeding tube. The other two have developmental issues. Just thinkof the consequences you face.

Answer 6

Don't listen to all the others telling you no. You can't help who you fall in love with and why does anyone except friends & family need to know, anyway?

I say go for it, but don't go letting everyone know you are cousins and going to newspapers etc. just act as if doesn't matter that your cousins, because it doesn't.

Answer 7

i imagine you've already been told its wrong. and you wanted it even more cause it's a bittersweet sort of taboo. As someone said, there's nothing stopping you, no one can, so, you've the free will to decide, but you also face risking retarded children. I used to fancy my first cousin when i was a kid, i declared to my cousin who told us its wrong, that i shall marry whom i please! My cousin died when i was a pre-teen, the one i loved, and my world felt shattered, but looking back now, it probably was for the greater good? I can't stop you, and perhaps no one else can, but I think perhaps you should think beyond yourself and your need for a relationship with your cousin? Perhaps you feel that is too much to ask from you?

Answer 8

There sure are a lot of opinions! How many have sent you money? Have you asked your lover?

I noticed long ago that the stupid people talk about other people.
The smart folks talk about things.
Genius' talk about ideas.

But, none of them have to pay your bills, brush your teeth, or, decide what to do for breakfast each day.

This is between you two, and no one else. Make a good and loving decision, and stick to it. I am rooting for you.

Answer 9

Sure. People are getting married to their first cousins all over the world. You're not doing anything new. Don't listen to idiots who talk about incest, you're not marrying your sister. However do get yourself tested against any genetic diseases that your family has e.g. Thalassemia. Good luck!

Answer 10

There is nothing wrong in marrying your first cousin as i find many of my aquintances have such marraige. They live happily without fear as they have already known to each other without any false pretention and then get in to the wedlock