How can u get over the feeling of rejection?

Question

My biological dad NEVER cared for us. I hate him but I feel so bad when I remember how he rejected my little sister and I. Please help

Answer 1

This really messed me up to an extreme that I NEVER wanted to get married. But when I dated this wonderful I realized that he was a REAL man. Not my dad. And he missed out soo much..... my graduation, my first steps, my driving test,.... my life. But I feel like I am ok. I think you need time and be around people that love you. Have you heard the new Christina Aguilera's new cd? It touches that point

Answer 2

Honey, I wish I had an answer to that!
Rejection is hard enough, but from a parent it's devastating.

I've been dealing with that for over 40 yrs. It does get easier.
Give it one final weekend to really think it through, all about him.
I'm sure neglecting his children is not the only selfish, thoughtless thing he has done. Think of the kind of person he is, and the kind of person you are.
You are a much better person, I already know you have compassion. That is a very good trait to have.
Don't let his rejection hurt you so much that it interferes with your life. Don't give him that power.
And don't hate him! Hate is a strong emotion that takes alot of energy out of you.
Let it go as best you can now, it will get easier.
Living well is the best revenge. Forget him and do something good with your life. Show him he doesn't mean jack to you.

Answer 3

with this I can definitely relate as my dad left me when I born. I know those feelings but then it dawned on me it wasn't my fault as I was blaming myself wondering what did I do wrong. why he aint want me?? BUT!The reality is he rejected his own happiness by running from the blessing that is life thru the eyes of his seeds. See the first step is to let the hate go because it eats away at your internal fabric. You must release the negative energy so you can blossom into a wonderful person for YOUR SEEDS feel me.? The love you will feel from them and others will comfort and warm your heart. You have to be strong for your lil sis Nahmean. Like I said i know where your coming from as I never saw or knew my dad at all and to this day, My solution is to be a wonderful dad to my future son or daughter. Keep your head up!

Answer 4

there are many young people who have a parent who has rejected them and it is very painful. try to imagine yourself older and wiser and look back at the situation and ask yourself what should i have done? chances are you will say ''not much''. if i were you i would take a volunteer position as an aged persons' friend and build the kind of relationship you wish you had with your biological father .you will be helping someone who probably doesn't get any visitors and whose family have rejected them too. god bless for the future .

Answer 5

Don't dwell on him. Put your attention on all that show interest in you, all the people that go out of their way to assist you, even people on-line that take the time to answer your question. You can not change him or the past. You only have today, and what you make of today, so make it prettier somehow. Give someone your smile, move on and do not look back, some folks turn to salt when they look back. Look forward.

Answer 6

Think of who does love you and doesnt reject you... be your own person and forget the ones who dont care about you.. Life is too good...Learn from his mistakes.. you will be a better person

Answer 7

Pray. I went through the same thing. Don't hate him. Love him despite his wrongs. Hate just causes ene rgy to be sucked from your emotional healing. Just remember if God can forgive your of your sins. You can forgive him. Love anyway despite what he did.

Answer 8

now...u need to prove him that u'll become better n good children...self-made and independent to make him regret that he rejected u and ur sister.......take that experience as a motivation.....don't let it ruin all the good in u.......