im a gay girl and have a bisexual girlfriend. I didnt think much about it before but shes been going a bit hot and cold with me! We are both very feminine so people question are sexuality all the time ( which doesnt help) Can a bisexual have a happy relationship with a women or a man will they ever be satisfied? Ive tried talking to her she says that she feels strange somtimes being with a women! I want a loving longterm relationship do you reckon im going end up running into a brick wall with this one? Any advice please?
2006-10-29 20:20:09 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I know you have feelings for this gal but from the amount of info you have supplied I get the feeling you are looking for a way out of this relationship. I have dated and even had a relationship with a Bi and, in my cases only, they didn't work out. Too much to think about in those relationships.
I don't pretend to second guess another person but feel anyone can have a lasting relationship with the right person.
Time for you to set back and think deeply about your own feelings and what you want then have a gentle discussion with your partner.
Loads of love and best wishes
2006-10-29 21:48:51 · answer #1 · answered by dragon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a happy bisexual. I feel that going with a man or a woman has it's good points but also it's bad points. I gave up on men about 3 years ago. I can't be doing with the b*llsh*t to be honest. I don;t know any man in my circle of friends that is 100% faithfull for example.
It is much cooler being involved with other girls. You never know what is going to happen next. If I want ****, then i go out and get it. Then I leave- simple.
2006-10-30 02:29:38 · answer #2 · answered by TotalBitch 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not meaning to sound sexist or anything like that, but i beleive that even in gay couples (men or women) there still have to generally be a male and female role so much as a dominant and recessive partner.
In most relationships of any kind i've usually found that it boils down to a lot of simple things, the recessive partner will often take care of the day to day decisions and the dominant will normally make the big decisions...
if your both feminine people I cant see that this REALLY could work... but i'm not gay, so i'm no expert... i'm just giving you my opinion.
2006-10-29 20:24:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly what you are going thru. I had the same exact experience when i was in high school. I mostly got turnd on by dudes so thats just the way i leand towards. Its honestly up to u whether u want to be with girls and dudes but its much safer to choose a sex or better yet whether its a girl or dude just make sure u dont switch between becuz that can put ur own health at risk. But to answer whether ur bi or gay if u get turnd on by both sexes ur bi.
2016-03-28 01:26:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally I am straight but I have had a couple of friends who were bi and being honest they had nothing but problems - one girl had so much grief it really screwed her head up. She was in a similar situation to you and every so often her girl would decide she wanted a man - to cut it short she eventually started advertising herself on the web just to get one. Others I've known have had issues with not being comfortable telling people like teachers, work mates etc they are with a woman. I think if you're gay then fine, straight then fine but Bi really has its problems. I wish you luck xx
2006-10-29 20:26:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's personal and it has very little to with her being bi IMO. There are bi persons that fall in love with one person and are happy with that, there are those who want more. Just as some persons with other sexual orientations can be happy in a monogamous relationship and others can't.
Does she rally feel strange being with woman or is she meaning that she feels strange being with you? The hot and cold might have nothing to do with her being bi and everything to do with her relationship with you.
2006-10-29 22:14:45 · answer #6 · answered by --- 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well, sorry, but with this one you may run into a brick wall because she sounds like she's already building it.. When you enter a relationship you have certain commitments (or rules) that define your relationship...she doesn't seem to be able to do that...It would be very hard for me to live with a bi sexual who wasn't ready to make any commitmnets about what she wanted...it's hard to compete with another sex when you don't have the equipment.
2006-10-29 22:42:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you already know the answer to this one . As a bisexual myself it is extremely hard to commit to a monogamous relationship. She already has intimated an uneasiness about any form of commitment. Look elsewhere sweetheart. There will be someone right for you out there. Believe it.
2006-10-29 20:26:00 · answer #8 · answered by anikintyme 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think bis and gays can be paired forever. Bi's are not stable. It's you who will always be wondering... Isn't being with a lesbian much easier? I don't think you'll be happy...
I think she could attract men since she's very feminine and she is open to loving men... She may float off.... I don't think this is an equal relationship: she has more liberalities than you do.
2006-10-29 22:58:41 · answer #9 · answered by summation 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like you two need to have a talk about what you both want out of the relationship. It seems to me like you want a long-term monogamous relationship and she's not ready to commit. I wish ya the best.
2006-10-29 20:32:09 · answer #10 · answered by carora13 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋