my husband hates confrontations. whenever we get into an arguement he just gives in leaving me guilty that i am pushing him to do what i want. in turn i become the bad guy. i am not pushy but there are times that i want him to understand my point and not just close his mind about it.
2006-10-29 20:15:38 · 13 answers · asked by z0e 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Just make sure that whenever you have an argument that what you are arguing about is worth it and be sure you are right then you wont need to feel guilty when you win. Better still make an agreement to finish every argument (Win or Lose) with a passionate embrace. He may become more confrontational.
2006-10-29 20:20:41 · answer #1 · answered by anikintyme 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you a Pices??? He may be doing the right thing, walking out just before the situation gets too hot and out of proportion. But it's not really good to sleep the night with any unresolved issues. Try a more gentle approach, have a little break and try again later when things have cooled down. Do something together that you both enjoy then just bring it up gently in a diplomatic manner, see if that makes any difference. I've used your husbands approach many times and it don't always work, because half of the time the wife is right and the man is just too man enough or too much pride, he walks away rather than the situation becoming out of control and get too heated up. If you constantly have the same issues with him, then that's something you2 should really sit down to and work things out. But if it's just some silly little things, it's not worth it..just walk it off and play it cool. Alternatively, you do the walking off, see how he reacts to that, if it's the same as you, then let him know, that's how you feel everytime.
2006-10-29 20:38:55 · answer #2 · answered by Sweet Gemini 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With great difficulty!!! find a space in your life when you aren't disagreeing, and let him know how every small confrontation leaves you feeling - talk about what made you happy in each others company, and where things went skewiff - there is balance in a partnership, sometimes you get the 50/50 sometimes you feel like you get the 1% out of the 100 sometimes you wonder why you're still there - marriage isn't all beer & skittles it's bloody hard work! Back yourself and go for it!
2006-10-29 21:55:20 · answer #3 · answered by renclrk 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are things that you do and experience together and things you do on your own!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I personally like to go shopping alone or with a friend. I hate to see women that drag their husbands along with them holding their purses etc.... Men get bored easily!!!!!! Women like to go in every store and check every single thing !! We enjoy it they don't.
When I need to buy a piece of furniture or good expensive jewlery or something that is not just a pair of boots, handbag, etc.. I will first check it out myself and then bring him to decide and buy the item!
We do lots of things together, weekends, Saturday nights etc...
However, once a week he will go out with his friends to play pool or cards and also once a year he takes a short trip with his friends.
I think that a couple needs not to exagerate and say I will do whatever I want, but in order to make it less stressful and boring leave some time for him to enjoy and at the end you will be able to make him do things for you in lovely way that he won't even notice it!!!! Good Luck!!!!
2006-10-29 20:48:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bring the confrontation in other arena like when you are making love. When you feel he is almost over coming to the height of excitement, open your conversation in a very sweet manner. You can see how his reaction if he still confronts you.
As I experienced, the best way to communicate or how to win an agreement with your sweetheart is during love making..
2006-10-29 20:44:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your husband sounds like he doesn't want to contain himself contained in the drama, if someones being rude it really is more effective perfect to easily ignore them. i don't think of there is something incorrect with that. "he did not react because the guy is the only with the priority" ok... i don't think of theres something incorrect with that. I understand that habit, actual. in basic terms because you're assertive, does not recommend he must be. he's not a drama queen, possibly you're. "He in basic terms doesn't seem to love disagreement and neither do I. " Thats humorous, because first you suggested "there has been situations the position I have placed someone in there position for being rude" then you definitely suggested you don't love disagreement... you're contradicting your self, mam.
2016-12-05 08:54:30 · answer #6 · answered by gravitt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to not make it sound confrontational. Try making it sound more like a discussion and when he tries to shut down, let him know that it would be nice to talk it through when he is ready to talk about it.
2006-10-29 20:49:29 · answer #7 · answered by teddytrin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop trying to change him. You probably knew that he did not like dealing with confrontations when you got wed. Maybe you should try wrting him letters.
2006-10-29 20:34:35 · answer #8 · answered by ShacklesOff.com 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honestly you cant. my husband is the same way towards confrontation about everything, me his parents, just everything. people dont change. ive tried convincing him what i would like for him to handle situations but .. it doesnt work.
2006-10-29 21:05:12 · answer #9 · answered by j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sound like you want to even make this decision for him too. keyword MAKE him.why is it your job to make him do anything.
have you read proper care and feeding of husbands by dr. laura? try it.
2006-10-29 20:20:11 · answer #10 · answered by justcurious 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋