He is a Vietnam Vet special forces. He does not trust me and beleives I am having affairs. the other night he kept a knife by the bed and patrolled the apartment,was convinced he was bneing trapped and watched and that I had guys in the apt that were going to kill him.
I don't know how to respond to his accusations, he says he knows what's gouiing on, that i ahve gone to the other side
I want to help him, I know I ahve not been there for him and initially I told him he was wrong --he keeps telling me the only way to get beyond this is for me to tell the truth--i will take a lie detector and he said this would helkp
i want him to be ok and know I care
HELP
2006-10-29 20:03:31 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Take the lie detector test with him present. Then go find a safe place and don't come back home until he gets professional help from the VA hospital. Report him. Immediately. He is having a breakdown, honey, and you are not professional to handle this alone. Leave this for the professionals. Do NOT stay and hope things will disappear on their own or he'll magically get better if only you loved him better. DO NOT FALL INTO THIS trap.
2006-10-29 20:06:59 · answer #1 · answered by scarlettboca 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like A) he's clearly crazy, or B) you did something to provoke his paranoia, or C) a bit of both.
I'd need more info to answer clearly.
By the way, lie detectors are nonsense. It's been proven that some people have tricked lie detectors before. Because it can be fooled, it's shakey ground to trust what it calculates. It was made by a human after all.
2006-10-30 04:07:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear Sarah, I worked with a man that was a Vietnam Vet.
It was not easy, believe me!!!!
He had an aggressiveness that was very strong and frightful (not for me) but for my collegues. No one wanted to work with him alone. I have a strong personality and we use to have at least two big arguments a year. After the argument was over we would work well together. The day he left work to go back to the states he hugged me and said he respected me. I am not into politics at all but I respected him because we all know what the Vietnam war was about even if I was a littel child. But with his paranoid stories etc.... I was able to deal with him the best I could. However, you being a wife is a totally different story. In this case you need professional help. I know that this person still has nightmares of what he experience during those years!!!!! First all be strong and if he has a knife then you need immediately HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
He is having flashbacks of what he lived during that time and believe me it can get out of hand. Reassure him that you love him and try to make him understand that he needs help and there is nothing to be ashamed with asking for help. We all need help at a certain time of our lives. It is human to ask for help. Please Sarah, go to one of these support goups for this situation because it does not look good. The feeling I got from this story is not good and it can turn itself in something that you will not have control of. Contact a support group, there are many in states for this typpe of situation.
They will give you the right advice . What would happen if you are innocently talking to a man (ex: the postman) Will he kill this person??? Lets avoid tragedies and lets help him right away.
I wish you to solve and find the right therapy for your husband.
Good Luck!!!!!! Please don't make me worry about this!!!!!!!
2006-10-30 04:35:21 · answer #3 · answered by marque1717 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
his profession has a lot to do with how he acts now. this is really difficult, but you will have to hang on if you want to earn his trust. if you must take the lie detector and you think you are not hiding anything, then by all mean do. if that is the only way for him to bring his trust back. but if after that he still does not believe you, then i suggest that you let him see a doctor. his paranoia may not be as normal as you think. and keeping a knife by the bed is somewhat a sign that he needs to see a specialist.
2006-10-30 04:25:30 · answer #4 · answered by z0e 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband's problems are way beyond your help. He needs professional help - and fast. But from the way you describe his delusions, he will probably be unwilling to admit that he has any control problems at all. Meanwhile, you absolutely must remove yourself from this situation. Maybe you don't see how quickly this could turn very ugly and violent - or maybe you don't want to see it because you care about your husband. But believe me, it does not sound like you're safe at all. Please don't wait.
2006-10-30 04:12:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
get him medical help he has been in a war uncalled for ?
2006-10-30 04:08:16 · answer #6 · answered by the_silverfoxx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is crazy get proffesional help pls
2006-10-30 05:57:08 · answer #7 · answered by jasmine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋