My friend and I are both going through a divorce (I am actually legally seperated without hope of reconciliation). We have been a huge source of help for each other. So far our only real source of contact has been the phone even though we live only 5 minutes from each other. I have invited her to coffee, walks dinner etc... So far she has denied because she is not ready for that. We talk for hours on the phone but I really want to spend actual time with her. Is this too much to ask? I admit that I am attracted to her and I believe she is attracted to me so what keeps us from spending some time together?
2006-10-29 19:33:54 · 19 answers · asked by G 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
she just needs some time to get over her divorce perhapes she really has feelings for you also but she just doesn't want to push herself into somthing until she is fully recovered from her divorce you should really respect her for not just using you as a rebound guy. give her some time and just be there for her maybe down the line you can both be very happy together
~good luck
2006-10-29 19:39:20 · answer #1 · answered by insane illusions 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes and man and woman can be friends. Your story is similar to mine. I met a woman (call her Elaine) when I was going through my divorce. She was going through the divorce at the exact same time and was on the same timeline - oddly enough.
That was 2 years ago. We talk and see each other ALL the time now that the divorce is over. Yes there's been some chemistry that we have acted on. But we also talk about all aspects of our relationship and agree that we're really not good for each other.
Friends with a woman is a good thing overall (really for the woman too). Now that each of us is dating and seeing people we help each other understand the other end. We do go out for coffee and breakfast, but not dates.
I can tell you this. It makes some really weird misunderstandings for our prospectives. You'll get looked at funny if you tell a new girlfriend that your friend Elaine is coming over for a cookout and she doesn't have a date.
-Jerrry
2006-10-29 19:39:48 · answer #2 · answered by Jeromy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she is scared to be involved like that right now with someone since she is going through a divorce. Divorce can kill you emotionally for a very long time. If it is meant to be it will happen for you. For now just enjoy the companionship as it is. Good Luck to you and her.
2006-10-29 20:14:43 · answer #3 · answered by Maggie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes...but not when they are attracted to each other. Something will happen...someday...
If she has denied your invitations and she's going through a divorce...she's not interested. She just wants a friend.
2006-10-29 19:44:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
lets just say if she isnt ready, then keep just continuing what your doing and wait a little ... its better to have what you have then nothing at all isn't it ? maybe she is just afraid of taking things at a certain speed. she just wants to make sure she is probably going in order, for the right reasons. you should respect that, well im sure you do.
2006-10-29 21:08:19 · answer #5 · answered by j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't be live a men and a woman can be friends because one of them will always want more from the other and maybe after the lust is consumed then it can be pure friendship but till then i don't think it will be just friendship.........and shes afraid of men right know so i think meeting her in a public space it will be a start.
2006-10-29 19:38:50 · answer #6 · answered by black_cat_heart 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
U answeed ur own question! Sounds to soon for ur friend to start a new relatioship.
2006-10-29 19:45:30 · answer #7 · answered by Bubbles 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some women just want company...but their heart is walled so that next time no one else comes close to hurting them again.....she may seem she care but truly she just want someone to comfort her n that is u...don't hurry of having her but just be there hang on.....patience n friendship r the traits...that we r looking for...
2006-10-29 19:41:56 · answer #8 · answered by ♥♥♥H뮧hË¥™♥♥♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not you can but its soemthing like friendship between wood and fire once wood(Female) comes in contact with fire(male) only ashes remains.
2006-10-29 19:37:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Shes probably just not ready for another comitment yet.
2006-10-29 19:37:41 · answer #10 · answered by Gazgamma 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋