She wanted me to pick her up from afterschool care one day, but I was really busy. She usually understands but this time she worried me. She sent me a text message that said "everybody always lets me down" I replied, why? she replied, "Y ur 1 of them!"
I stopped what I was doing and went to get her. When I got there she asked me, "Are you here to get me?" I said, Yea...ofcourse. Well she burst into tears before we got in the car. She said she was having problems with some of her friends. It sounds legit. But I spent all summer long with her and she doesn't have any friends. I have never met any of her friends.
2006-10-29 19:29:44 · 10 answers · asked by Canswer 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Sounds like she is putting a lot of pressure on you and that isn't fair but it also sounds like she has some low self-esteem and is lonely and sounds depressed. Has she started puberty yet - perhaps her hormones are changing and she is going through some mood swings. Try to ask her what is going on - is there some trouble at home or recent change or stress in her life - at school, loss of friend or relative, major life change, etc.
I would also talk to your mom if that is possible and have your mom speak to her mom. It sounds like she may need some help - someone older to talk to about this..though I don't know how old you are exactly. But - I would clue someone else into this. She sounds depressed and almost desperate and may be capable of doing something for attention so I would let someone know - it is the right thing to do.
Also - try to encourage her to go to school activities, join clubs, sports - something that she may have an interest in - or can start to have on in - even if you have to go with her at first just to get her going.. help her meet people maybe.. even though it is not your responsibility..you could try to help her. Is it possible for her to go to some over the summer camp - even during the day or maybe there is a youth group or church group around that she could join to meet some new friends... make those suggestions to her. Just tell her that she is a great, fun person who could have lots of friends and that she should try to be more open and outgoing and not so introverted and shy - tell her to try to put herself out there to meet some positive people.. See what happens~ good luck!
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2006-10-29 19:38:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she doesn't have any friends, this is probably why she is upset, I would have a quiet word with her mother of father and tell them the situation, but also tell them to keep it quiet as it might embarrass her, It might help if they do some gentle pushing and get her involved in an afterschool or weekend sport, or class of some kind?? e.g. painting, learning a language, crafts etc..
sports would be best as it will put her in the situation where she must work as a team with other children, thus hopefully developing friends for her...
2006-10-29 19:36:12 · answer #2 · answered by channille 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Such children need our patience and love. As elders and who want them to grow up into healthy and strong minded persons, whenever we come across such behavioural specificities ( I wouldn't call them as abnormalities), first thing is to open a line of 'communication' with them which means that you have to encourage her to open up and express her feelings of apprehension, paranoia or mere anxiety. Adolescence is the stage in which the body and mind undergo tremendous changes and that is the 'persona' which remains with us, in a constantly developing manner throughout our lives. So be as caring as you are for your cousin, find out why she feels that 'everyone is letting her down' . Once she can overcome that feeling and develop a more understanding outlook towards life she can use her potential and grow into a happy and mature person. Good Luck to you and her and prayers too.
2006-10-30 02:10:40 · answer #3 · answered by goodcitizenz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would try to talk to her about what problems she's having with her friends... At least try to be there for her as much as you can. It sounds like she's willing to open up to you, and sometimes girls just need an ear.. I remember girls at that age can be really mean, some class mates might have just been ganging up on her. I hope she's ok!!
2006-10-29 19:33:52 · answer #4 · answered by kyrandiae 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are probably her only friend. She may be getting picked on in school. Sit down with her and see if you can dig up whatever is going on. Dont take the first answer as if thats it, dig around. It may be worth talking to her parents about whats going on. If you dont want to talk to hers have your parents do it.
2006-10-29 19:42:31 · answer #5 · answered by me_laub 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
be there for her. listen and show empathy. She needs someone to talk to,lean on and have an emotional conversation with. if she wont talk to you willingly then don't force it but keep an eye on her. let her know if you will be late or give her a reasonable time when you will show up.
2006-11-02 15:15:02 · answer #6 · answered by silverwolf872005 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She probably is not lying... maybe there are BULLIES picking on her. She just said "friends" so it wouldn't look as bad.
2006-10-30 07:48:45 · answer #7 · answered by Britni Gayle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Euthenasia may be the answer. Or you could just try talking to her.
2006-10-29 22:14:40 · answer #8 · answered by Lucifer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
drama she needs a reality check
2006-10-29 20:36:48 · answer #9 · answered by blank 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
this calls for a good *** whipin.
2006-10-29 19:35:45 · answer #10 · answered by JOhNe=mc² 6 · 0⤊ 3⤋