i got attracted to a man since he was not married and he too was showing his int through his eyes without speaking to me. For long we never talked to each other but used to see or meet somewhere coz we had some common friends. When i thought that he is shy guy so started with saying 'hi' without knowing my husband. I was badly attracted to him which made me to take 1st step. Now whenever we meet somewhere in social gathering he shows me to his wife from far which makes me feeling very insecure. He may tell about it to other people and disrupt my family life.
2006-10-29 19:01:58 · 14 answers · asked by simran s 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
JUST DONT GET INVOLED WITH MARRIAD PEOPLE.. YOU ONLY GET HURT...
2006-10-29 19:05:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remember that line from 'Silence of the Lambs', "What do we covet, Clarice? That which we see every day."
One assumes you "taking the first step" meant indicating you wanted to have a relationship with this person. And that he did not respond the way you wanted.
You've already cheated in your heart. Work on why you have so little respect for your husband to decide to take the first step with another guy and not let your husband know about it. The disruption of family life is exactly what cheaters deserve - for starters.
2006-10-29 19:08:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are undoubtedly crazy. The there is no love for you in this man but because you may have some misunderstanding with your husband you need not be attracted to other people. Save your self and have good Karmas. You on the face of it have done no wrong if you just said Hi. But if you have gone further than that and had any intimacy with this man then you surely will feel insecure. Otherwise you are free
2016-03-28 01:25:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you got married you took vows to be monogomous with your spouse. So you were married and now you're afraid the "other man" might rat you out? It sounds like your guilt is eating you alive.
I'm sorry, I have absolutely no sympathy for you. I hope you learn your lesson and never do something like this again.
You are at your job to work, not mess around or make goo goo eyes at someone else.
2006-10-29 19:05:41 · answer #4 · answered by scarlettboca 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to focus on your husband and not someone else's. Just take this as a learning tool. The grass always looks better on the other side...but usually when you get there it just tastes and smells the same. Good luck to you.
2006-10-29 20:05:22 · answer #5 · answered by mshellrosie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know that this could lead to destruction in your marriage...please stop doing it and respect your vows to your husband. Besides, it is not worth it...believe me.
Sometimes married people can be attracted to other people but this is just normal. Just do not act on it.
2006-10-29 21:07:21 · answer #6 · answered by alandicho 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your 1st step doesn't involve any pyhsical matter then u don't need to worry. if that fellow wanna try to go around to spread things about you then go straight to him and tell him to mind his word straight in his face. make sure there a lot of people around you. the shy guy will go down.be brave. i'm sure you haven't take action as per the 1st sentence.
2006-10-29 19:42:14 · answer #7 · answered by vijayan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you just tell your husband that you were innocently flirting a little with a co-worker, you will be best served. Of course, if all you ever did was say "hi," what's the big deal??
2006-10-29 19:09:16 · answer #8 · answered by starrrrgazer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I totally agree with your feeling.it is quite normal for any lady to get this feeling. If you want him to be yours, then i can suggest you onething. Make him enjoy sex with you. then he will never leave you.. this is a practrical suggestion, which will make ur loveer come towards you. all the best.
2006-10-29 20:28:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is telling you that he still loves his wife and married men can get you in a world of trouble you are married as well him to the best think for you to do is leave this alone . my opion?
2006-10-29 19:37:27 · answer #10 · answered by the_silverfoxx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u r entering the danger zone by doing that.
neither u will be happy, nor ur hubby. and further u will be making his life also miserable along with his happy family.
it is not love at all
it will fade so also ur present life.
2006-10-29 19:11:44 · answer #11 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋