one of my friends is Bi but she says she doesn't want to go out with a girl does that still make her Bi or not????
2006-10-29 18:02:47 · 7 answers · asked by Joel 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
stop saying "sex" we're only 13 =)
2006-10-29 19:57:12 · update #1
and i'm not labeling her im just confused!!!!!!!
2006-10-29 19:57:50 · update #2
She's 13, why should she be in any hurry to date girls? I'm bi and I don't date people just because I can. I wait until I find someone that is right for me. I knew I was bi when I was her age and I went on my first date with a woman when I was 23. That didn't make me less bi or non bi for the 10 years it took me to meet her.
2006-10-29 21:55:19 · answer #1 · answered by --- 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Why do we have to insist on labels? Bi is just aroused by both for the sense of simple pleasure. The choice of a long term partner, however short the term is, is a security thing or better put the basic need of acceptance. Neither are in the same category.
2006-10-29 18:25:47 · answer #2 · answered by Aidan K 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm bi, but I'm also a pre-op transsexual, so I'm currently refusing to date people that are physically male because of some issues I have with that. Sexual orientation is about who someone is attracted to, not who they choose to date sometimes. It could aslo be that she's not looking for a long-term relationship with women and would enjoy something a little more short-term.
2006-10-29 20:44:11 · answer #3 · answered by carora13 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The easiest way of looking at it is 'gay', 'straight' or 'bi' are just restrictive definitions. The fact of it is sexuality is as individual and different as a person. So, save yourself and your friend the angst and stop looking for 'gay' or 'bi' or 'straight' definitions and let your friend develop her sexuality in a way that she feels comfortable. So, what if she defines herself as 'bi' yet either isn't ready or doesn't want to sleep with women. If that's what she is comfortable with then she call herself whatever she wants! The main point to all of this is let your friend be who she wants to be and if you want to be there for just support her and be happy for her!
2006-10-29 18:23:09 · answer #4 · answered by waggy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She may not want to date THAT girl.
She may realize that girls may be great in bed, but for a long term relationship it doesn't work.
She may be bi passive if you know what I mean- or, she could just say she's bi to fit in with the "The Social Group"
2006-10-29 18:05:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's probably bi but has made a decision that she doesn't want to have sex with a girl....Priests and Nuns supposedly do similar things all the time...try to control their sexuality.
2006-10-29 18:26:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if it is really that important to you why not ask her what she is feeling? Other wise don't try to label her into a group or such, just accept her as she is, and be a good friend.
2006-10-29 18:12:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋