do you really have to do sex even if you are tired working?! for the sake of the happiness of your husband?!
2006-10-29 17:50:27 · 21 answers · asked by she 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You dont have to do anything you dont want to. I am a guy and I enjoy the sexual advantages of marriage but I know that sometimes my wife needs a break for a few days or a week. It sucks but oh well. Making you have sex could be considered rape even in a marriage, if its not that bad but you dont want to and he know that then it may be spousal abuse, mentally. Tell him how you feel and if he is really sincere about his love for you he will understand. But it does suck not being able to make love to your wife when she looks so good lying there in the bed by your side.
2006-10-29 18:50:53 · answer #1 · answered by me_laub 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course you don't always have to have sex just because your partner wants it. Everyone at some point in a relationship or marriage has sex even though they are not in the mood. For me I would rather my wife be in the mood than have her just lay there and not be into it. As long as you are usually up for some fun your husband should cut you some slack. When he is in the mood and you are tired, if he won't take no for an answer, there are a couple of ways that a woman could help her man out... and maybe you could save up a bit of your energy.
2006-10-30 03:00:55 · answer #2 · answered by No More 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, i really dont think you have to. Being married to your husband doesnt give him the right to make you do something you dont want to do, sex or not. But dont make him feel like he's unwanted. I mean refuse if you must and tell him your tired, but tell him you'll make up to him once you get rested and relaxed.
2006-10-30 03:45:52 · answer #3 · answered by maimai 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u must tell him that u r tired after work so lets do it sometime later relaxedly with a mood.u must make him realise u need it sometime later.both of u should have an understanding regarding doing sex.try sex at daytime if u r free.not nights alone u should have sex.make u r man feel u r feelings.if he is a good husband he will understand you
2006-10-30 02:10:43 · answer #4 · answered by melchieram 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sex should never be one-sided. If you're not enjoying it, it's no good. Also, you should be able to state tha you're not "in the mood" without fearing retaliation (such as them having an affair ) there is no good reason for a spouse who truly loves you to do that.
2006-10-30 02:34:34 · answer #5 · answered by Brandygirl 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sex is a understanding between the two partners
2006-10-30 02:24:55 · answer #6 · answered by soofi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you do or you will be posting this yahoo question?
Why did he cheat?
Learn to give him lots of BJs too or someone else will.
Do you really not see this?
He does not really have to be nice to you but he should.
There are very few things that any of us has to doo but many that we should. I am sure you find time in the day to do many things that you really do not have to do but somehow you do them.
Yet one of the most basic needs of most men you would put off because you are tired. You are preparing this marriage for infidelity with your foolish attitude.
2006-10-30 13:00:13 · answer #7 · answered by onlineseeker 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
no you dont have to, but he has to get it so it will be someone else who will do it for you, with him, so if thats ok with you then its all good. tell him he can go get it somewhere else, then dont cry when he does, also the problem may be his, that he is not keeping you happy enough for you to want sex from him as often as he does, so if your not enjoying it tell him how to please you, so that you will want it too...its more fun when both parities enjoy and look forward to sex. otherwise it is just a chore for one of them, so then why not let him get it somewhere else. without a problem....its helping you out right, just got to talk it out with him.
2006-10-30 02:11:14 · answer #8 · answered by wizzard 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope. It shud be mutual... Sex shud be a bonding mechanism between husband & wife. Maybe you shud talk to your husband.
2006-10-30 02:05:42 · answer #9 · answered by Rin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's been my experience that if you don't he will get it somewhere else...like next door, next town, next state! Anywhere.
I don't believe we HAVE to. I think it would be nice if we could do it more often...for everyone's peace of mind but men don't understand women getting tired etc.
Men think its women's duty to SERVE. Women in general, don't believe that I don't think.
See if you can talk to him about it. Mine wouldn't talk about it. That's another thing men can't cope with. Talking about their feelings!
Good luck.
2006-10-30 01:55:55 · answer #10 · answered by Jan Frost 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋