not very attracted to husband who is a nice man with good values. husband is a divorcee whose ex left him for another guy. sex has happened maybe about 5 to 6 times in all these months with more fighting scenes then good moments as I recall. Is this normal? is there any hope?
2006-10-29 17:37:14 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
no, not normal.
the first year is hard, getting used to the other person but it usually subsides and even then the passion should be right below the surface.
You better go to counseling, assure him of your love and commitment to trying to make it better. If things don't improve you need to decide if a "sexless" marriage is something you can live with.
2006-10-29 17:42:12 · answer #1 · answered by R J 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it certainly is not normal. To be honest I feel sorry for your husband, why did you marry him when you say you're not attracted to him ? I am not surprised that you seem to be arguing all the time, this guy has been dealt a raw deal.
If you love someone, truly, deeply then intimacy comes naturally and often. You need to sort yourselves out otherwise your marriage is doomed.
The fact that his ex left him for another guy has absolutely nothing to do with this, she was a cheat !
2006-10-29 17:54:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can honestly tell you that I have been with my husband for 3 years and married for 2 and sex isn't that great anymore, I can say that we only have it about maybe once a month if were lucky, what I have started to do was spice things up alittle, do something totally different, and you might see him come around alittle more.
2006-10-29 17:43:56 · answer #3 · answered by jessicaball2003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to save your marriage, get into counseling. At least give that 6 months @ the minimum. Sometimes it may be too late, but it could be worth it to find what the problem maybe.
good luck.
2006-10-29 17:44:38 · answer #4 · answered by soontobeex 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you may desire to circulate on a trip or some form of retreat the place you will only have eyes for the different and re-build the keenness. additionally, attempt new issues in the mattress room like gazing porno as foreplay or new toys. You the two might desire to paintings on it or the courting would be doomed. don't be afraid to make the 1st circulate the two, whether you're too drained. intercourse could allow you to experience nearer to one yet another, yet you in addition to might might desire to talk greater advantageous. i might recommend going to a company like the marriage bump into or a seeing a counselor. i be attentive to the two have helped numerous people. nicely, solid success!
2016-10-16 13:08:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why did you marry him if you are not attracted to him and fight all the time? I think you need to get some couples counselling.
2006-10-29 18:30:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u must talk an open discusion with ur husband coz what u r saying is not a normal way for a recent couple.
2006-10-29 19:04:32 · answer #7 · answered by momo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like your marriage is a disaster. if the sex is no good and all you do is fight maybe its time to bail and see what else live can give you. email me if you want more advice
2006-10-29 17:40:20 · answer #8 · answered by Scott G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not really. depends on the age of the sex, hubby & I are 23f 27m we have sex twice a week, sex does get dull with the same person though.
2006-10-29 17:44:52 · answer #9 · answered by ~*Jenny*~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good luck. How did you two get married if you aren't attracted to your husband? Good luck.
2006-10-29 17:40:48 · answer #10 · answered by ftz 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋