I love and am attracted to men. Even though I am sexually attracted to them, I'm also sexually attracted to only some women. When I was young my female cousin "played" with me and I'm now wondering if what I feel is just a phase or will be with me forever and would it help if I was to start being sexually active with men. What do you think?
2006-10-29 17:32:14 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Well I would almost wonder your age, it almost sounds like your a teen thats trying to find her sexual self, dont be in a hurry to get your heart broke and learn the truth about so many guys these days, If I had been born female,, seeing how guys treat women these days I would be full on Lesbian, What your feeling is just normal human curiosities, and I would say its all up to you to act on it sometime or not,, I would suggest not trying to repress the feling you have or else someday you will look back and wonder "what If",, Keep an Open Mind and deal with it when the time is right,
As far as what Makes a person Lesbian straight or gay,, myself I believe its all predestined way before our birth,, in much the same way as myself being a crossdresser, I didnt wake up one day and suddenly decide to be, also, I have had a few bi-encounters in my life, I am in no way attracted to guys, I feel its like a roadtrip for each one of us thats been planned we just dont know whats ahead or around the next corner we just continue our trip thru life and deal with it as we can.
2006-10-29 17:48:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm personally bisexual. I knew for what seemed like forever (since I was in grade school)that there was something different about me. I started noticing girls not too long after I noticed the boys. It took me about 6 years to come out to my parents. I did finally right before I graduated high school. I love being with both men and women. In the almost 6 years since I came out I have only been with 3 girls sexually. If you want to find out if you are truly gay, straight, or even bisexual I think you should confide in a close friend and ask their opnion or if you have any gay or bisexual friends see if one of them will help you determine if you are leaning one way or the other. I'm not saying go hop into bed with just anyone. Make sure it is definately somebody that you trust 100%.
I hope this has helped at least a little.
2006-10-29 18:28:46 · answer #2 · answered by GailM2185 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We all go through a phase when we feel attraction towards the same sex. What sets lesbians and gays apart from straights is the fact that we act on this attraction. In your case, you can just be curious, because you had a same-sex experience in the past. You could try exploring your sexual orientation and preference. You could be a bisexual yourself, you know. But when you do explore, please don't do this with your cousin. Coz that's not really healthy. G'luck!
2006-10-29 17:35:21 · answer #3 · answered by - iceman - 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
People have been arguing about this questions for many decades. I think the bulk of the latest research shows that it is nature -- not nurture that determines our sexuality. In other words were are born with our sexual preferences already programmed.
In your case, you might very well be at least somewhat bi sexual.
It is most likely that everyone has at least some degree of bisexuality, although for a number of reasons, many, probably most people, never are motivated to explore it.
Follow your own instincts, feelings and intuitions. That is the only way to discover yourself.
2006-10-29 17:40:48 · answer #4 · answered by hughgo-a-go-go 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Many people believe that you are born a certain way and that is that. The same goes to those who have attractions to both sexes. It could be you will always be attracted to both or your preference may change over time. Having sex with men will not "help" you switch over.
2006-10-29 17:36:35 · answer #5 · answered by joeanonymous 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well you haven't mentioned your age, but if you're over 12ish and under 25ish, you're probably still going thru various psychological growth- this includes experimenting.
It has been my research that Lez, Bi or Gay seems to be caused from some kind of psychological trauma while at a childs age from someone of the opposite sex. I only know of one person who has been born gay- I base that upon not being able to find any trauma he's willing to talk about that I know of.
2006-10-29 18:11:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well I am not sure if it is normal as I am cofused myself as I get attracted to certain women. But I suppose it would go away for a while if you start being sexually active with a man but not completely.
2006-10-29 17:43:27 · answer #7 · answered by Jessiefer 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
among men, being straight or gay is determined by genetic make up and hormonal exposure in the uterus. so it is predetermined.
I don't remember any article which is relevant to the same issue about women.
I think you will have enough opportunities to satisfy your curiosity about your sexual tendencies, as you grow up.
2006-10-29 17:42:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you heard of the Kinsey scale? This could explain your self questions.
2006-10-29 18:12:17 · answer #9 · answered by Alias400 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I like your style. I'm a lesbian trapped in a mans body.
2006-10-29 18:13:11 · answer #10 · answered by Re Fined 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋