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which one should get more connected? positive with positive, or negative with positive?

for example,
if u have temper, you marry someone who is calm.
if you like to spend too much money, you marry someone who is careful with money.

what do you think ?

2006-10-29 17:28:29 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships Marriage & Divorce

7 answers

When I was young, I thought it was best to be similar personalities, but I found myself going out with guys who would have been better "best friends" or brothers.
Turned out that opposite was best, I married a guy seemingly totally opposite to me in terms of personality, etc. (but same religion, similar ethnic backgrounds, same family values). It has made for 17 exciting and interesting years of marriage. We have both opened our eyes to different aspects of the world, and get along famously.

2006-10-29 23:38:09 · answer #1 · answered by Lydia 7 · 2 0

I think people with opposite personalitys make a good match because the two will help out with each others negative flaws. Like in your example if someone witha temper marrys someone calm when their spouse gets upset they can be the calm one in the situation and the situation will not get out of hand. But on the other hand if two people that both have tempers are married and one gets mad then the other will get just as mad and that could turn out bad for everyone involved in the situation

2006-10-30 01:36:32 · answer #2 · answered by <<SEXY MOMMA>> 4 · 1 0

Hmm The positive negative stuff isn't the right thing for me,
Cause look at the examples you ve just given...

Temper vs Calm ( so the tempered one can beat the crap outta the other )
Spender vs the tight *** ( so one spend the other lays money aside to save )

Similar thinkin is good and better for the relationship. I mean as much as you guys can try 2 person never be too alike/similar. So there for thy ll have their differences too tht is why pickin the similar person is the right solution

2006-10-30 01:48:21 · answer #3 · answered by Blue_Dragon 3 · 1 0

As long as the two are not exteme, polar opposites, but rather, have opposing views in moderation, they can balance each other nicely and have an interesting and exciting life together; for example: the mildly extroverted encouraging a mildly introverted partner to socialize more frequently, or a somewhat creative person having a somewhat more pragmatic person to help them bring their dreams into being. Too much similarity breeds boredom and contempt, because you see too many of your own faults in the other person, and that's the biggest turn off of all.

2006-10-30 02:16:21 · answer #4 · answered by Johnna L 4 · 0 0

Similar personalities definitely form a bond with ease however there are always some differences that add to the flavour. To answer your question yes, opposite personalities do help each other to grow. I have seen successful combinations of INFP and ESTP's everywhere..but its not easy and takes time ..

2006-10-30 01:48:51 · answer #5 · answered by seawoman 7 1 · 0 0

I have a theory. Opposite attract and marry. Then after the kids are grown and out of the house they have nothing in common anymore. I've been married for almost 27 years and we are opposite. I think you should marry someone you have something in common with, a mutual passion. It will help later in your marriage.

2006-10-30 02:36:56 · answer #6 · answered by Jan G 6 · 2 0

similar thinking helps alot

2006-10-30 01:32:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3 0

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