I just had a divorce in which I initiated. My ex calls and is kind on the phone and with the children but when he comes to pick them up or drop them off, he is very antisocial and very cold acting with me. Why the change from on the phone to in person?
2006-10-29 17:10:09 · 6 answers · asked by bunnylatte 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Quick note for help. I divorced him due to his mental abuse toward the children (I had them in counseling) and I. He was a control freak. Also, I never dated during divorce nor am I now. I was a very good wife.
2006-10-29 17:23:46 · update #1
The divorce may not be what he wanted. You are probably the best thing he ever had and lost it. While on the phone it is easier to talk to you or the kids but when in person, it hurts him so badly that he cannot be around you. In person he sees you as the devil who ruined his life, on the phone he sees you in his mind which is usually parts that are pleasant memories. I don't know your situation but my ex and I are about the same way. I can talk with her on the phone just fine, but do not like to see her in person. I really can't explain why because we have both moved on and have different families now but for some reason I just don't like seeing her. (I am cordial to her in person though as well as on the phone). Your ex I'm sure is harboring a lot of animosity toward you right now I'm sure. Time will most likely be the only thing that will heal this situation. Don't let the Ford commercial fool you. You may never have a post relationship that will be comfortable or favorable, but continue to do your best to at least show friendship in front of the children. They after all are innocent.
2006-10-29 17:18:47 · answer #1 · answered by Big "D" 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off why did you divorce him? it is always easier to speak with someone on the phone then in person. Also are you dating? if so maybe the children have said something about this person .if it bothers you then why don't you ask to meet him someplace and talk and find out what is bothering him .the best thing is for you 2 to be friends ,for the sake of the children , I divorced my ex 17 yrs ago and we are the best of friends and he even came to my wedding this yr with his girlfriend .Just be open and honest and work things out to be friends
2006-10-30 01:20:09 · answer #2 · answered by asnowbird1961 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because that is what mentally abusive people do. As long as he keeps you on a yo-yo about his actions, then he still holds control over your relationship, whatever it might be. That is how they work, their moods change with the wind. Don't let him get to you and if he does, don't let him know he does. He will lose interest if he doesn't think it is bothering you. Good luck!
2006-10-30 14:23:30 · answer #3 · answered by la_southern_femme 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well how do you feel about when you see someone who stole your car and when you hear about him.. Got it?
2006-10-30 01:17:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he is remembering what it used to be like when he lived there with you.
2006-10-30 01:12:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is still in love with you. my opion?
2006-10-30 01:12:12 · answer #6 · answered by the_silverfoxx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋