Should i end or continue the friendship?

Question

I have this friend who i met in college. We're not a couple we're just real good friends who hang out. She's a muslim, but i have no problem with that because its bout the friendship, not religion. Her family likes me, accept the father. I'm a very shy guy, but he thinks i'm fronting. He's had words with his daugther, saying that he doesn't want her around me because i'm not a muslim. she refuses to end our friendship, but its causing a bit of drama. Should i continue this friendship or end it to stop the drama from continuing between her and her father.

Answer 1

if u continue the frendship the drama will increase and nothing good will happen from it and u dont want to be the guy that came between the father and daughter relationship but if the relationship between u guys is really strong and u like each other very much as freinds then u must not let her go because good freinds are hard to find but u have to confide her father and talk to him sayin that u are only freinds and nuthing between u guys is happining and tell him that she is a good person and that might ease the drama off

Answer 2

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Answer 3

I can't tell you what to do because this is your life and your situation but I think if it's causing drama, you need to go to the source of the drama. Tell the father how you feel about his daughter (how you're just a friend) and you just want to continue the friendship (if you should choose to).

Answer 4

Religion is always a sensitive matter.......especially when it involves Islam.

Islam is a great religion.............so also are other religions.........all preach & support peace, love n human values. But it seems that more muslims are fanatical than the fanatics of other religions......base on what we see, hear n witness.

However, let's not judge Islam from the problem you have at hand. You've got to blame the father of your gf.

He's too rigid n uncompromising in his opinion or thoughts on his daughter's relationship with you......especially when you stated that you & your gf are "...not a couple..." but are "....just real good friends...."

.....but to an 'extreme' muslim........if you are not a muslim you are just not worthy of n deserving the friendship of a muslim!

Its shocking........but its very true! If you've had been in Saudi Arabia, Yemen or some other Middle East islamic countries....... you would then understand the real world situation concerning muslims vs non-muslims.

Do you know that if you sned someone a X'mas card in Saudi.... in a gesture of goodwill...........both you and the receipent will get jailed & whipped?

Do you know that the West talk so much about personal freedom & freedom of worship............n have mosques built in the centre of London, New York, Paris & just about every 'western' city where muslims live?...................... you are NOT allowed to build any church or temple in Saudi..............or even profess to be Christains openly?

...............n in Saudi books & magazines they had likened Christains & Jews to dogs & pigs!

If God or Allah (as shakespeare queried : what's in a name?) created heaven & earth n all the creatures.........why is the pig (n dog) singled out as 'dirty'?

The pig may not be the cleanest of the animals............ n Saudi was not the most advanced country in the old days............ n pork ( in fact.... ALL meats!) does get spoiled quickly... when not refrigerated................ why should one of Allah's (God's) creation be condemned? ...............n what's so 'dirty' with man's 'best friend' for being kind, obedient & helpful to his master?

You may or may not have read about parents & male relatives murdering ............their own daughters, nieces & female relatives (they call it 'honor killing'!) for being too liberal.........'westernized' or openly defiant of the restrictions of Islamic interpretations?

Think again........ Many muslims had proven to become 'extremists' n fanatics whenever they feel their religion is being slighted or 'offended'.

That's why "fatwa's" are so often n easily declared!

Your befriending a muslim girl has caused a negative reaction from her father...........who sounds to be a bit of a 'fanatic'.

May be you should just walk away and make new friends..............either with another muslim girl whose dad is a true muslim...... a clear-headed, sensible n rational liberal............or a non-muslim girl........

.......not becoz you are afraid of your current gf's dad.......... but may be out of consideration what she has to face...... (u wouldn't know what she goes thru with her dad at home .........if she dares not........ or wouldn't........ tell you!)

One never knows what might happen to this gf .................if the father turns out to be one of those who feels his family honor is been violated................. if you continue to see his daughter!

The consequences may turn out to be very....... very unpleasant!

Think again!

Answer 5

if she is an adult, she is able to make her own decisions. I wouldnt end the friendship. I just wouldn't go to her house. Just talk to her at school or somewhere other than her house. Also, I would let the father know how I felt but telling him in a tactful, respectful way.

Answer 6

just dont continue the friendship in front of the father..fathers do tend to get over protective..

there's absolutely nothing wrong wit being friends of different races or religion..

Answer 7

you can be friends and her dad doesn't have to know about it. hang around at college but don't go to her house to do homework and stuff..

i think the main thing her dad is worried about might be that you are not muslim and that his daughter might fall for you one day and it will be the romeo and juliet situation. he might think the best guy friends for his daughter might be people who are in the same religion to keep it safe.

but i don't think you have to end this just because of that. its problem with her dad.. so you can still be friends, but just not in front of her dad.

Answer 8

yup, let her make that decision. he should not be dictating her friends like that, but it may or may not be worth it to her if it causes a serious rift between her and her parents.
Be there for her as a friend if she wants you to be, regardless of what her dad says. that's what I think a true friend would do.

Answer 9

i know that must be hard but you have to think what is best for her. I dont know how much you know about muslims but if you dont end the freindship her life will be hell. It maybe best for her if you go. Sorry to be the bearer of bad news

Answer 10

If she is living at parent's home she should follow desires of them; if she lives on her own, it't up to you and her to decide how to deal with the issue; if nothing else, you will see each other at school until something changes.