My friend who's 15 lied to her parents about where she was going. How long should she be grounded for?
2006-10-29 16:59:30 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
It all depends on why she lied, where she did go, who was she with...
There are lots of factors that should go into this kind of decision. I'm the mom of five kids. They know how important it is to me that they don't lie. Lying is such a big deal to me, regardless of the size of the lie. As you get older lying to people tells a lot of your character - be an honest person, life's so much easier that way. I'm sure she knew before she lied that there would be consequences if she got caught. This is a choice you young kids have to make, is it worth it?? Trust me, I was a teen once too and know what I'm saying. I payed my dues too many times. Lying is a choice that comes with consequences, are you willing to pay the price?!?
2006-10-30 02:05:37 · answer #1 · answered by msr9805 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Lied about where she was going? That was an act of dishonesty and that little miss could have been in danger. Besides her parents would not have been able to get in contact had there been an emergency. It also brings into the question of disobedience.
At least a week, but probably two depending.
2006-11-01 12:45:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have a 15 yr old son- And I have given him 1 month because he lied to me .
As a parent we are the ones who have to be responsible for our kids actions until they are adults. If they do Something wrong - people & the schools go calling on Mom and Dad to fix the problem.
2006-10-30 01:05:54 · answer #3 · answered by So Many Kids32 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how big the lie was. If she said she was going to be in her room and she went out drinking, for example, that would be for a LOOOONG time, but if she said she was going to thee mall and went to the diner across th street etc, that would be something like 1 1/2 weeks. Also, it depends on how well your friend takes punishment; if she cares less about the punishment then she should be grounded for longer so the punishment would actually sink in, you know? Really, it kind of depends on the sitch.
2006-11-01 13:08:31 · answer #4 · answered by Scarlett B 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A lot of psychologists would say that anything over two weeks for doing something wrong is pointless. It kind of depends on what she said she was doing but I would say one week of complete grounding is sufficient and then the following week with limited privelages to show that trust was broken and it takes time to gain that trust back. More importantly a discussion about it would make her see what the big deal is.
2006-10-30 02:47:21 · answer #5 · answered by THATgirl 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
a week but make sure she understands why shes grounded. Have her help around the house, making dinner, doing dishes and stuff. 15 year olds are tough to manage, I just turned 16.
2006-10-30 09:27:32 · answer #6 · answered by horslover10 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Till further notes haha thats what my mom does to us she doesn't tell us how long we got so for all we know it could be 1 week maybe even a month but it makes us behave for a long time even after LoL
2006-10-30 01:29:19 · answer #7 · answered by blood_shadow_walks 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
A week or two it isn't that big of a deal. They should be happy that she came home in one piece and didn't get into trouble or anything. Instead of thinking of the negatives they should think of all the positives!
2006-10-30 07:54:07 · answer #8 · answered by Bridget 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To me it would depend on the specifics of the situation (why she lied/intent, the lie itself, her attitude, where she went, who she was with, what was she doing, etc). I don't condone lying, but I do believe situations should be evaluated on a case by case basis.
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If she has not yet told her parents, I would encourage you to encourage her to talk to them about the situation. Open & honest communication with ones parents is important.
2006-10-30 01:09:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't beleive in grounding so I can't tell you how long. That is up to her parents to determine.
2006-10-30 02:33:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋