My sister is in a messy custody battle with her exhusband over her 8 yearold daughter. He is very abusive and a sick twisted person, who uses their daughter to get back at my sister. The father has visiting rights, but, the courts won't listen to the theripist or the school or any witnesses that the child seeing her father is a bad idea. She has behavior problems over it and she doesn't want to see her father. Her father is a homosexual that lives with a lover and the courts are using gay rights for him to visit his daughter. My sister is trying to get his rights terminated, plus, she doesn't want her daughter to be corrupted and confused about relationships. The point is should the courts use gay rights for him to have visitation? is there such thing as gay rights? especially, when people voted against gays to marry. Also, for some odd reason they agreed that he doesn't have to pay child support anymore, because, he douesn't want to. What should my sister do? Is this right?
2006-10-29 16:48:59 · 12 answers · asked by ? 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
This isn't right, and since the reason your sister wants to terminate her ex's visitation rights has nothing to do with his sexual orientation, such a defense shouldn't be able to stand up in court.
Homosexuals are looking for EQUALITY, not special treatment.
He should still have to pay child support until her daughter is 18 regardless, and if the circumstances really are how you describe, he shouldn't be allowed visiting rights either. Sexual orientation should play no part in this whatsoever.
While I don't think that being exposed to homosexuality will confuse your niece (regardless of whether sexual orientation is determined before birth or not, it is certainly not taught), you said that she does not want to see your father. I think the problem is that people look at her as a child before they see her as a human. This is entirely wrong; everyone should be seen as a human being before they are judged as anything else - age, sex, race, religion, orientation - all this is secondary to the one primary thing EVERYONE is: human. Your niece's wishes should be recognized.
I'm sorry; I'm not sure what your sister can do apart from trying to shed light on the fact that her ex's sexuality has nothing to do with the issues at hand. It looks like she just got a lousy judge (or jury).
I do hope everything turns out okay for your sister, and especially for your niece. She's really what everyone should be ultimately concerned about here.
2006-10-29 16:56:24 · answer #1 · answered by Lady of the Pink 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OK Maybe your sister and her ex and their daughter need therapy, if he is using the child he should get help to communicate with the mother by not using the child he should not however be taken from his daughter. This could help all in the situation get use to the fact that mommy and daddy are no longer together, help the father understand that he is not to use the child, help the mother see that just because the father is gay does not give her the right to judge him has a parent, help the daughter understand that it is OK for her father to choose what's best for him, that it is OK that mommy doesn't agree with the father being gay and that if she chooses to be in her fathers life even though mom doesn't approve it's OK and how to deal with the fact he is gay. The daughter maybe acting out because her mother is rejecting who her father is and the father is using her to get back at the mother because she thinks being gay is wrong can you elaborate if father left mother for another man
2006-10-29 17:10:07 · answer #2 · answered by northsidemom1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Something just doesn't sound right about this! If the Father has not done anything wrong, why shouldn't he have rights to his daughter? And it looks like it hasn't been proven that he's hurt her in any way. And a court will NEVER EVER let someone out of paying child support just because they don't want to. Think about it...if that were the case the majority of men would opt out...hmm. So, either you're ignorant concerning the situation, leaving parts out, or just plain lying because all this is not adding up. He has every right to see his daughter, gay or not! Come on...tell the truth...your sis. is really just out to get him...it's all a personal vendetta, isn't it? I think you're being selfish. Stop ruining that childs life...does she really just not want to see her Father, or is she being turned against him??? The truth will be known soon enough!
2006-10-30 02:21:04 · answer #3 · answered by Barak 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
GET OVER YOUR HATE!
Just because gays can't marry their CHOOSEN partners, YET, doesn't mean it won't happen. It also HAS NO BEARING on their ability to be a parent or other civil rights.
Your post seems extremely homophobic and viscious.
You seem to think that JUST BECAUSE he's gay he's somehow sick and twisted.
New Flash!
The one who's sick and twisted are you and your supposed sister.
As his daughters father he has RIGHTS!
The Daughter WILL NOT BE CONFUSED about 'relationships' at all by knowing the TRUTH!
You and your Sister are doing her MORE HARM than her father, by teaching her HATE, INTOLERANCE, and Bigotry!
If these are the reasons your sister is attempting to give the court and using to influence the child's teachers and therapist...SHE DOESN'T DESERVE TO BE A PARENT!
2006-10-29 17:07:14 · answer #4 · answered by DEATH 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
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2016-10-16 13:08:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sure your sister has spoken with a attorney who has advised her. you on the other hand should stay out of their life/relationship.
oh and PS......... being gay does NOT make someone a bad parent, and the court is not using "gay rights" they are using parental rights, just because he is gay does not mean he is still not his daughters father.
2006-10-29 16:58:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
you make no sense, the courts enforce child support. theres no way other than letting go of all parental rights to stop it, but visitation means he still has rights, as for gay rights you're frigging kidding right. homosexuality is still being used by many to deny parental rights to parents. it's y'all who are harming this child by filling her with hatred and fear. you keep escalating the accusations in each progressive posting which makes it look very suspicious, and basically you're in the gay section unless he's actually done something wrong (and it doesn't sound like it) of course we're going to support one of our own. stop trying to justify your hatred , it sounds like sour grapes because he left your sister for another man.
2006-10-29 19:30:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
A child shouldnt be without her father unless he is a Child Molester or hurts them Phsysically
2006-10-29 16:53:34 · answer #8 · answered by The Messiah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No offence please, but I think this type of question/scenario is considered as a very critical and needs urgent/extra attention. Not all state/country having the same law rules. I would suggest that you help your sister to find a very good lawyer for this case before it gets too late to do anything.
2006-10-29 17:00:27 · answer #9 · answered by sliver 2 · 1⤊ 3⤋
First off, you need to shut up, sit down, and quit asking so many questions in Yahoo's Questions.
Second, you need to sit down, ASK QUESITONS to her attorney and find out WHAT is really going on.
You're asking us to second guess people we dont know from your obviously highly biased opinion and we're not qualified to know or answer what needs to be done
2006-10-29 18:22:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋