I'm not cheating or anything. I'm just not into it. I don't know what to do. Been married for six going on seven years, sex life seems far out for me. What can I do to get it back. any idea ?
2006-10-29 16:48:12 · 20 answers · asked by KaPaul L 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Get some toys for the bedroom
2006-10-29 16:51:10 · answer #1 · answered by Chickybabe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk your hubby into going away for the weekend together...and if thats not in your budget or you have kids, send the kids to your parents, and turn your house into a weekend away from it all. Chances are you've gotten so wrapped up in life that the passion in your marriage is taking a back seat to the rest of your life, what you need is a weekend or even just a night to rekindle that passion. Start on a Friday night with dinner out at a favorite restaurant, (don't cook at home because this needs to be a weekend where you get away from the routine things of life). Then come home from dinner, light some candles turn out all the lights and sit together in the candle lit room, don't bother with tv, but turn on some soft classical music, some jazz or something romantic. Do whatever you feel like that night, don't bother to set and alarm, and spend as much time in bed saturday morning being together, read the paper in bed with steaming cups of coffee, but do it together, spend the morning into early afternoon in bed cuddling and making love, slowly, don't rush through anything, get up around lunch time and make a simple lunch and enjoy a picnic either outside, or indoors if the weather is cold, rainy, etc. Saturday night make a romantic dinner followed by a candle lit bubble bath. Sleep in again Sunday, and have brunch in bed. This is just a couple ideas, but basically push the rest of life aside and focus on your relationship and do romantic things over a weekend spent just you and him. Good Luck
2006-10-30 00:57:59 · answer #2 · answered by Bee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to make sure that you feel sexy, wear clothes that are sensual to the touch, there are so many things you can do, it appears that you may have fallen into the rut of no longer making the effort. Try showering together, rubbing each other with loads of soap then slide all over each others bodies. Wear a basque and silky black stockings and ride him like there's no tomorrow, wake him in the mornings by gently kissing his penis, tie him up and do all sorts of naughty things to him, go for a drive, touch him when you know it's impossible to have sex, by the time you get home you'll be gagging for it, the list is endless but you'll have to work at it. Best of luck.
2006-10-30 02:20:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What turned you on in the beginning? Maybe that is what is missing. Try to recreate what it was like back then. There are also some pills that give the woman's drive back to them but I can not think what they are called. Advertised on TV all the time or at least they were. Or perhaps you need to really spice things up and have sex in a forbidden place (not disrespectfully) just to get that "what if we get caught" rush. Hope this helps.
2006-10-30 00:54:25 · answer #4 · answered by CGS 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
27 years with my wife and we still enjoy a healthy relationship. However; many things will interfer with desires during your time together. i.e., finances, children, health, jobs and parents. Try introducing films. you may want to go to a bar as single but leave together. e.g., let other guys buy you drinks and come on to you and he can do the same with other women; so long as you agree to only go home together. Let things hang out once in awhile; a peek here and there, and a lot of cleaveage does wonders. try it; what you got to lose other than a poor sex life.. still working for me!
2006-10-30 01:02:09 · answer #5 · answered by denfasr 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try kinkier things like fuzzy handcuffs, whipped cream, role playing, or even different positions. Sex does lose its frequency after a while for most people, but unless there are health problems more than 2 weeks is cause for some concern.
2006-10-30 00:51:31 · answer #6 · answered by Rachel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mabey its not your hubby, it could be other stressers in your life...are you turned on by anything or anyone? I hope it passes and you get that spark back for hubby. If all else fails try some counceling to get this issue out into the open....
2006-10-30 01:10:48 · answer #7 · answered by feather 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try a change of scenery, slip a note one weekend[Friday] in his briefcase or lunch , wherever he will find it and tell him you will be waiting for him at a certain motel , you get there early and set the mood. don't be scared to try different things with your husband, we all get in a rut sometimes, you could even ask him for suggestion on something "special to do" use your imagination, you love each other just stoke the fire. good luck
2006-10-30 00:57:05 · answer #8 · answered by belinda b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell us what changes happened to him?
Is he overweight?
Does he drink?
Does he get done in 60 seconds?
After all Sex is dependent on your intimacy level. Perhaps you are no longer Intimate with him. Ask yourself with honesty. I can't give advice yo a woman as yall are wiser than us.
2006-10-30 01:11:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Rent some porn flicks and watch them together! Try new things to spice up your life! And make sure to schedule private alone time every week to keep things hot! Be adventurous!
2006-10-30 00:52:38 · answer #10 · answered by KO 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋