My husband will be leaving in July. My son will have just turn one and my second won't even be a month old. I'm going home to live with my parents while he is gone. My question is, who do i explain where daddy is and how can i make them not scared that he's not comming back. Any other advise on this subject will be greatly apperciated!
2006-10-29 16:39:09 · 7 answers · asked by d 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I went throught the same thing when my husband went to Iraq. We had a 5 month old and I was pregnant. Your kids arent going to understand he is gone. I just kept photos of my husband aroung for our son to see, and showed home movies of them playing together. There really isnt too much for them to understand about daddy being gone at this age. When my husband came back my kids took right up to him, no problems or anything. Good luck!
2006-10-30 03:47:34 · answer #1 · answered by mommyof2 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Time is not a concept known even at one year old. However, you can leave reminders of his father around the house including photographs with him and his father around. Include reminding both kids about daddy with the picture and set up an every day ritual regarding it that would be special. Also, between now and July, start video taping your husband reading bed time stories to both kids. Tape him singing songs, lullabies, and nursery rhymes. A really good purchase would be a web camera, so he could talk and see both kids via the computer because depending on the camp, there should be probably some internet access, and this could lower the phone bill. Have a calendar set up counting down the days until he returns
2006-10-30 01:12:36 · answer #2 · answered by dawncs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Children this age dont really have a concept of time so I dont think your son would be afraid he wasn't comming back. You can only explain to a child what the child is able to understand. At one that wont be much. The only other thing I would be concerned about is that your one year old might forget who he is after awhile. You should keep your husbands picture displayed all the time and kiss and stroke it everynight and say to your son, Daddy and point to his picture and have him kiss Daddy night night. That way when Daddy comes back your son will know him.
2006-10-30 01:01:13 · answer #3 · answered by sweetkooky 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am not an army mom...
But I have some advice:)
There is no real way to explain to your children being the young ages they are now! You have to be there MORE for both of them...for you now lead the role of mother and father...as for your husband's important role...May God bless him on his journey and bring him back home safely to you and your children.
God forbid he does not come back...YOU will know exactly what to tell yur children when the time is right!
Believe me...I KNOW!
Blessings to your family:)
2006-10-30 01:57:31 · answer #4 · answered by Lovely 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You tell them that their dad is a hero who is doing work for the USA. Do not tell them he may not come home...if they get scared, tell them that daddy is very brave and smart and he will come home. Be proud and your kids will be too.
2006-10-30 00:41:59 · answer #5 · answered by Emme 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You tell your child that his father is nothing less than hero. He is something like Superman, and if for some reason, he doesn't make it home, you still tell your child how courageous and fearless he was. How he helped people less fortunate than ourselves. Your father, the hero.
2006-10-30 00:47:24 · answer #6 · answered by Surfagirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are to make sure that he is proud of his father and admire his courage and tells them that he is serving the nation. Just tell them the truth...thats the best policy! and ever he is not cumin back tell them that he is a HERO that saved all american!
2006-10-30 01:10:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋