im not sure what's wrong...am i unapproachable?

Question

well not to be cocky or anything...but i definitly don't think im ugly.
but idk...i think i'm just unapproachable.

people (girls and guys) don't exactly come up to me to start a conversation on their own.
but they do to other people.

and im really shy, but once you start talking to me im outgoing. but i probably won't come and talk to you first.

so this makes it really hard for me to meet guys.

i wanna know what it is about me that people don't try to talk to me.
like..i have alott of friends and stuff. and alot of people think im funny and fun to be around.

i move alot and in every school im never that new girl that everyone talks to the first day and becomes extremely popular right away (and i've seen it happen to other people)

what makes me so unapproachable?

Answer 1

The fact that you're unapproachable might have nothing to do, with your appearance. But you're shy at first and then out going. I'm the same way. Want to meet? I, too, move alot, growing up. What makes you unapproachable? Maybe you seem intimidating? maybe it's the people themselves, if you're not from where you are. Some people hate outsiders. One time, when I was in my late 20s, my parents and I took a vacation to Sandiego and stayed in Lo Jolla. There was this one neighbor, who daily looked in the window at us, as if spying on us, wondering why we were there. It might be your attitudes about something. Point is, what makes a person unapproachable isn't always something to do with the person.

Answer 2

You have been aware of this for a long time because it takes a lot of consideration to correctly choose the word, "Unapproachable." Problem is, you are aware of that and your vanity is at least hinted at when you meet others. That suggests that you are overly wrapped up in your needs and your assessment of you and your fear that others will learn the truth about you. You need to practice - take therapeutic lessons if need be - giving to others. If you only identify a little kid in your environment who is alone, poor, neglected, whatever, and befriend the little tyke you will learn humility. With the child you will be meeting his needs all the time. Kids don't care about how teens and adults keep measuring their success.

Answer 3

Shyness comes in many degrees,do you have an interesting hobby that you like to talk aboutor have you been to a place that no one has been to. people are difficult to figure out but one thing is for sure provided you can get them started they like to talk about themselves I would not say you are unnapproachable, like me you just take a bit of time to warm up to others, try taking a class about non-verbal communication, and step and have fun

Answer 4

first you need to overcome your shyness and then be ready to yalk to anybody may be its a guy or a girl . actually a year back i was just the same as you were and not even a boy used to talk to me but slowly and slowly i overcame the problem of shyness and now i have many boys after my life.

Answer 5

it may be because you are shy. I would try talking to them first (even though you do not like to)but this will help them get to know you and that is what it is all about.

Answer 6

hey im the same way u just have to change ur self image and make urself think that u are aproachable, just start babling someone will pick it up and start talkin to ya same boat, good luck

Answer 7

if you always talk as long as your question, noone will approach you for sure