I love my husband very much but some times, when we are angry over some stupid little thing, we say such mean things to each other. I just don't get it. How can we be so mean to each other one second and be cuddling and lovey later...
2006-10-29 16:23:14 · 26 answers · asked by feather 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Anytime you live with somebody, whether it is your spouse or someone else, you are going to have arguments about something. The good thing with arguing with you spouse is you have a great way of making up.
2006-10-29 16:30:47 · answer #1 · answered by nobluffzone 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is human nature. But it seems your love is stronger than your differences which is good. Every couple fights. Mean things get said when you are really upset. As long as you can say you are sorry and tell each other you still love one another you will be okay. Just never go to bed angry-talk it over and resolve the issue-if they never wake up and you were mad you will always remember them that way. My fiance never let me go to bed angry at him for any reason. The one night I went to leave and he was so mad he was going to let me go I turned around and went back. I am forever grateful for such a caring guy.
2006-10-29 16:28:07 · answer #2 · answered by CGS 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have conflict management problems. You can love someone a lot and still fight with them. As long as you just talk over the things that are bothering you before it gets to the point where you're so angry at him that you can't help but yell then you should minimize the fighting. Sometimes though having an occasional fight is ok, it helps a relationship to grow because it tests the boundries, and when things get too comfortable its always good to test the boundries of your love to help it grow, but don't pick a fight that you know will ruin things. Sometimes picking a fight just for make up sex can be fun because you get to have this amazing passionate sex that you don't get otherwise.
2006-10-29 16:26:52 · answer #3 · answered by Bee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone argues, but you two should talk about it when your not fighting, saying hurtful things is the worst thing to do, because once you say something mean, you can't take it back, and it is not a competition on who can hurt who the most. Try to make an agreement that you won't use name calling or break up during a fight. once you start throwing back rude comments you end up in the middle of another fight that is completely different then what you started fighting about in the first place.
2006-10-29 16:28:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who wants to be with someone they fight with all the time - your fighting because your not compatible - one of the key elements you need for a (healthy) relationship to work along with respect, communication. Losing Grip – Avril Lavigne Fool – Henry Rollins Band Everyday is Exactly the Same - NIN
2016-05-22 06:44:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're stressed out about other things,,,,right? instead of yelling AT each other try sitting down and using each other as a rebound for all the things that frustrate you, but be sure you both understand that you're just venting and you're not mad at the other. "little things held back add up to big explosions on the wrong person at the wrong time."
2006-10-29 16:39:33 · answer #6 · answered by rickys_lil_mama 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Both of you need to take some time off and spend some time together, yes, I am talking about a leisure trip.
Spending time together uproots all differences and helps in solving problems.
There might be something that's either disturbing you or your husband. You need to find that out and then solve it!
2006-10-29 16:35:28 · answer #7 · answered by SALMAN AWAN 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Us humans are resilient! People are all different and often have different opinions, although you should try to remember that words can cut like knifes. Try to count to 10 or something before retaliating in a fight, it does take two!
2006-10-29 16:56:03 · answer #8 · answered by KO 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With my first wife she was always wanting to control everything and we argued all the way to divorce court. I got remarried 4 years ago and we never fight, we both learn from our first marriges. In your case I would say you must really be in love.
2006-10-29 16:47:28 · answer #9 · answered by nfgatcer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok fighting aside , there is some unlying issue that need to be addressed here before there a riot, sit down, keep you tone low,and talk ,and talk some more, they more you talk they less likly you are to fight .fighting is just lack of commcation between you ,as for cudding that guilt feeling ,try to make up saying sorry, if you ddint fight you wouldnt need to say sorry, keep it honest ,you will be ok ,keep talking
2006-10-29 16:29:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋