My Boyfriend and i have lined together for 5 years and we have always have a "volitile" relationship. We have never cheated or anything and he used to tell me all the time (the first3 years) he wanted nothhing more tan to marry me. now he is in an more stable financial situatio n, but he had built more and more of a resistance to the idea. The worst part is i do not nag about it or anything but he is still like, um mabye in a few more years... I am 24 and would like t o start planning a family sometime before 30 and after a wedding!
2006-10-29 16:18:59 · 8 answers · asked by tiff"N"kai 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You may not want to hear this, and others will tell you differently, but living together hurt your relationship not helped it. It's about respect and honor. He dishonored you by, on the one hand, acting like you where married but at the same time, not making the commitment of marriage. You both made a mistake. If I were you, I'd move out, set boundaries and see what happens.
2006-10-29 16:22:03 · answer #1 · answered by fruitypebbles 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give him an ultimatum, tell him what you really want and when you want it by. Don't be bitchy about it just honestly talk to him. If he's not ready to commit, you may have to walk; your not getting any younger. The more he does his way and you say nothing, so basically you allow the behavior to continue, the more he'll do his way, because he will always know no matter what;you're hanging around. You need to put your foot down, don't you watch Dr Phil, they just had a show on about this 3 or 4 weeks ago.
2006-10-29 16:26:47 · answer #2 · answered by luluhinalbwi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he is correct in saying"In a few more years".
It is a big huge step at this point and he is probably just
starting to feel like he has something going now as far as
being more stable.
You can probably safely ask,"What is a few more years
to you so that i can bring up the subject about marriage then"?
If you have not nagged him about this subject he will probably be
a little bit surprised by your question so be prepared to let him
know that you are serious about asking that question and would
like a serious answer.
2006-10-29 17:24:26 · answer #3 · answered by OXOX_4_U_Dhurba_n_Nepal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IF YOU WANT TO BE MARRY THEN YOU MAY HAVE TO FIND
SOMEONE ELSE, HE NOT GOING TO CHANGE HOW HE
FEEL IF HE HAS BEEN WITH YOU FOR 5 YEARS, HE NOT
GOING TO READY FOR MARRIAGE . AND IT WILL ALL WAY
BE IN A COUPLE OF YEARS. AND THAT WILL BE THE
WAY IT IS ALLT HE TIME. SO IF YOU REALLLY WANT THIS
YOU MAY HAVE TO MAKE THE BIGGEST DECISION IN
YOUR LIFE. TO GO OR STAY.
2006-10-29 16:24:57 · answer #4 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find some other man to marry-you can invite him to the wedding if you like!
2006-10-29 16:23:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU NEED TO HAVE A TALK. MARRIAGE OR MOVE ON WITH YOUR LIFE. THAT'S YOUR 2 CHOICES. DR. PHIL HAD A PROGRAM ON THIS. SOME OF THE GUYS MARRIED AND SOME DIDN'T . WISHING YOU THE BEST.
2006-10-29 16:22:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to marry him or start looking for someone else soon..
Within the next 6 months....
2006-10-29 16:22:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that this is what you want & add that if he is only stringing you along that you no longer want to waste time , you need to find a man who wants what you do .
2006-10-29 16:36:19 · answer #8 · answered by Geedebb 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋