Someone older than 40....?

Question

I'm 25, and having an identity crisis.

Is there any wisdom you could share with me?
Did you ever question your purpose?

Answer 1

Questioning your purpose is a normal thing. I think most people do it. It sounds like you're having a rough go of things right now. That happens to all of us. There are times when we wonder what life is all about and is it really worth it? Would I be better off if I was dead? Would the world notice if I was gone? Does anybody really care? Here's your answer. There are more people who care about you than you realize. You make some people smile that you've never noticed. If you weren't around they would surely know the difference. I believe firmly in the butterfly effect. If you make one person smile. They in turn make someone else smile and so on. It's a never ending process. That's your job here. To make a few people smile. If you can find one or two "true friends" to last a lifetime. You're ahead of the game. You don't need anymore than that. My best friend killed himself just over 6 years ago now. Let me tell you something. That's a horrible thing to do to the people around you. The pain he caused everyone is far greater than the pain he must have felt. Staying alive is protecting the ones who care about you. I had to go there just in case. I was clueless when my friend did it. Everybody was. Just know that things will get better for you. You'll figure out who you are. You're only 25. Maybe you're feeling pressure to become somebody. At 25 I was clueless. Just hang in there. Things will become clear in time. I promise.

Answer 2

I'm just about to be exactly twice your age, so I certainly qualify as someone over 40. Oh, my goodness, have I ever questioned my purpose? Yes! Emphatically yes. I really don't know anyone personally who has not at some point in their life questioned what they were doing or where they were going in their life. I guess I'm curious as to what has prompted your "identity crisis" Perhaps fininshing college, a lost relationship, or boredom with a career choice. Whatever the cause please know that the feelings you are having are completely normal and something that almost everyone has to work through at some point in their life, sometimes many points in their life. I might suggest you talk with an "older" person in your life, perhaps an aunt or uncle, a mentor at work, a college professor or just someone in your life who may have traveled just a bit farther on the journey of life than you have. They might be able to listen to your concerns, validate your feelings and walk along side you through this period of doubt and uncertainty. I wish you all the best. And like my husband always tells me, "It's going to be OK" and although that may sound trite or superficial, he really usually is right, in the end, things turn out the way they are supposed to if we just keep plugging along.

Answer 3

It really doesn't matter what age you are, the older you get you will still have moments in time when you feel you may be wasting time, not doing what is your best, not in the right field, need to change your career, etc. So just do what is best at the moment, as long as you have short term goal and are going after them you are serving a purpose. Find what is of great interest or a passion for you and follow your dream. Thus, a job is not just a job or a position, but something you truly enjoy. Makes life more rewarding. God bless

Answer 4

Hello, I just turned 50. I didn't know what my purpose was in this life until I turned 40. I never questioned it cause I didn't know what my purpose was.

Be who you are, if there are things you don't like in yourself, you are the only one that can change you. If you don't know who you are or what you are about, get to know yourself. Listen to your gut instinct about yourself and others. Take time to see what you are about, what you can offer others, what your good points are and what things in you that may not be so great. Take a personal inventory of you and see what you come up with.

Life by your dreams and not by your fears. We only have one chance at this life, make it the best you can each and every day.
Be thankful, have gratitude, patience with others and yourself.

Life is a journey of many paths. Get on a good one and follow it through.

I wish you well, you are worth the work of discovery!!!

Answer 5

I'm over twice your age, and I know people older than me who still wrestle with this gnawing question indicative of mortal existence. Relief from this dilemma is pacified when one focuses their energies and efforts in the here and now, not worrying about tomorrow, but giving one's absolute all in apprehending the moment, and then moving on to the next indicative direction. I believe there is an "unseen" plan for everyone's life; it's not haphazard. As we progress linearally forward we confront "choices" that upon making a decision produces a direct effect and consequence whether for good or ill. Simply take full responsibility for every action and continue to move forward, hopefully learning good lessons that will make you more prudent in the future, and as a result form in you the instinctual fortitude and ability to make wise choices. The amazing thing is that as you get older and very keenly look back in retrospect at your Life’s path, you will suddenly realize the existence of a "trail of clues”, perhaps put there by “God”, clearly indicating your ultimate destination, but when one is young, one is too shortsighted and busy to recognize these piecemeal indicators.

Answer 6

Here's the wisdom. Know this....it makes no difference where you are in your life. There will always be times when you will wonder what your purpose is, what your worth is, and if you are loved. Nothing is a sure shot and pray to GOD that HE will be merciful in HIS goodness and give you a life filled with peace and love. Maybe then you will know your purpose......

Answer 7

Ask yourself this question, Did I make a difference in anyone's life?
It doesn't have to be a HUGE difference, just any kind at all. If so, then there is a purpose to your life. You can make a lot of differences to people's lives in the future also.

Answer 8

Of course you are....that is what happens to us all and age has little to do with it...you have to experience adversity in order to learn and grow...The purpose of every living thing is to leave as small a footprint as possible on the earth while doing the most good and the least harm that you can manage. Make yourself happy because it is no one else's job...These are not easy tasks but they are managable...go on you can do it...

Answer 9

Pretty much daily....just realize you are who you are ...but the best thing we have is the capacity to change, adapt....hopefully for the better....but as long as we draw a breath there is the possibility of finding all the answers...desired path for our lives....just keep a positive outlook and seeking to be a better person it really isn't as bad as it seems...and winning comes in many different images and facets good luck!

Been there done that got the tee shirt...still happily kicking

Answer 10

i am defiantly older then 40, and i have been asked many times by people who i thought had no right to ask me what my purpose was, most of them got the answer they deserved,"to make you feel inferior" the answer i give to the people who i thought had a right to ask me that question got"dad was horny mom was fertile" so i really haven't questioned my purpose. i just figure I'm here to annoy those who annoy me,as i was in a since a creation of passion.