who is tired of labels? if you were to label yourself what would it say?

Question

I for one am tired of being labeled, and trying to figgure out my "labels". Is everyone else tired of wearing a label based on your sex/and/love life?
for the record.........urggggg I am a bi-sexual woman, and a Leather/BDSM top, living with in a poly releationship.
wouldn't it be great if we could all just be people?

Ashley- no, sorry to dash your therory, but I am not a whore, nore damaged in some way, I don't have commitment issues, I simply choose to live in a fashion diffrent then you do, but I guess that is what the question was about, if we did not label ourselves, or have others label us, wouldn't it be a much nicer world?

Answer 1

I agree with you. Don't label yourself and just live. That's what I do. Reject labels because they aren't accurate anyway. Sexual, racial, gender, etc. none of those labels have anything to do with who you are and most of them are innaccurate if they do. All of these labels are really different ends of a spectrum with most people lying somewhere in between.

Answer 2

Sometimes I get tired of labels. Sometimes I absolutely love them and wouldn't give them up for the world. All I want people to know is that if you like having a label, there's nothing wrong with that. And if you don't, that's fine, too. And I don't need a label for anyone else, just lil 'ol me. I try not to label others, but help them if they want a label for themselves.

My label is currently something like bisexual female, transgenderphile, and Andromimetophiliac (love women dressed as men). It barely begins to describe me.

If I could label myself, it would probably say "Do not get into eyes." Lol. Or "May cause drowsiness." I have no idea why.

Answer 3

Most people will say they are tired of labels and often labels are just a way to describe someone and it often is not a good way to go about things but quick and convenient with no reserve as to what the person/persons feelings are about it. Yes it would be great to live in a world without labels. Sometimes people do not mean harm with labels and others are just wreckless with them. Perhaps many people live in a classified listing mentality and no one would refer to you as you described without you first using those exact details as to your private life. Many would probably describe you with a quick slur or a generality pertaining to your clothing or sexual preference based on your stereotypical mannerisms if you have any. People are very complex. If we all wore the same clothes, talked the same way and had all the same race, color, etc. I guess things would be easier but since they are not revel in your difference and know that that is just the way it is. Don't worry too much about what labels people have. The people who improperly use labels are pretty much subject to them too. Bigots.

Answer 4

I hate labels. It's labels that keep me confined to people's assumptions. Everyone thinks of me as: 1) a gay man 2) nearly a midget, 3) a nerd and 4) that I'm better than other people. Here's the TRUTH: 1) I'm actually a female to male transsexual, not a gay man, 2) I AM short, but I'm not legally a midget (I hate that word, I prefer "little person") 3 & 4) I'm not a nerd, but I am cultured. I am only ONE person, but I'm STILL "one". I may not be able to do EVERYTHING, but I can still do SOMETHING, and because I CAN do something, I'm not going to refuse to do that which I can do. I CAN be smart and I use my intelligence to help change the world. My education is valuable to me and I'm not going to waste it by keeping it to myself. So, call me a know it all if you want to, but is being called a "nerd" really an insult? I consider it a compliment. It's like saying "take that you smart person! wtf?"
If we had to have labels, this is what mine would read: "ASSUME NOTHING"

By the way, we DO have to have labels, they're used as a point of reference. Think about it..how would you feel if you opened your pantry and there were no labels on any of your canned goods or food?? Hmmmmm, food for thought.

Answer 5

Labels are usually shallow and inaccurate, but they help in that we can show that differences in people exist. Before the label "gay" came into wide use, there was no acknowledgment that people existed who were fundamentally oriented toward people of the same sex, not only sexually, but also emotionally and attitudinally. Homosexual behavior was viewed as just that, behavior, and was thought to have nothing to do with identity.

The downside of labels is that they lead to stereotypes, which are dehumanizing and inaccurate. I guess my label is lesbian, but it would be more accurate to say that I am a bisexual lesbian since I am sexually attracted to both men and women but I am romantically interested in women. I am with a woman in a monogamous relationship of 11 years.

Answer 6

You live a life of convenience. You seek pleasure. You are visual. Sensorial. This pleasure-seeking craving you have is satiated through physical gratification and has resulted in your bi-sexuality.

"Poly" relationship? Why? Scared of intimacy. Having more than one sexual relationship and living such a decadent lifestyle keeps your lovers at an emotional distance. This 'poly' arrangement you have is a sophisticated way of saying you are a commitment-phobic, selfish, narcissistic and scared little whore. Which is fine. Sounds like it's working for you.

Do you ask your lovers to sign a contract before sleeping with them, indicating they are not allowed to fall in love with you, or do you want them to love you, only to tell them to get lost because you're such a complex woman?

***********Why do you assume that I think being a whore is a bad thing? You are labelling my interpretation of the word 'whore' as being judgmental. I even wrote above that I think you being a 'whore' is FINE because it is WORKING FOR YOU!!! Did you read what I wrote?

We need to label things. Labels gives us the terms of reference to understand the inate qualities of people, situations, objects, ideas, relationships and the dynamics inherent in all of the things I just mentioned. To label something does not equate to condemning something. As long as we communicate verbally, we will label. To say that we should not label is stupid, naive and wrong. Labels are useful. You just don't want labels because you refuse to take responsibility for what you do!

Answer 7

I don't care if people label me. I label myself a nonconformist. I just live my life the way I see fit. Everyone else can worry about what other people think. I've got more interesting things to occupy my mind.

Answer 8

I don't really see labels as an issue. I can always add "open-minded" as part of the label to allow myself room to grow.
I think judgment that people make of labels they don't understand is more of a problem.
Another way to dismiss labels is to call them "descriptions". Sometimes, descriptions help us communicate who we are, and there's a necessity being served in that.

Answer 9

Just being people would be great in theory; but then how would we ever be able to have a good bitching session if you can't call the next door neighbours "dope smoking", "socially retarded" "trailer trash" who sit at home all day like "dole bludging" "lay abouts"?

Just a thought from a "judgemental", "narrow minded" "bigot" who is nothing better than "white trash" pretending to be what society would label "normal".

Answer 10

people label other people for descriptive purposes as well just as you used all those labels to describe yourself because it was a series of things we all associate with preferences, orientation and personalities in general. They never are completely accurate but we still use them,
Labels get abused most of the tI'me and are probably not used as they were meant.
yup im tired of them