I really love her but she seem's kined of crazy!!! everything she does it like if she is a lil kid of a 10 year's old! and i'm sick of that when you get her sad by saying something bad she act's right!!! and i needan advice please! thank's pls!
2006-10-29 15:57:22 · 40 answers · asked by pldjrftb@verizon.net 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Errr, get off the computer!.. that must have been one crappy bachelor party,, sheesh,, it's all downhill from here, if it's your prewedding night and you're online. SAD,, but sounds like you guys are perfect! Congrats! You guys aren't 10 year old cousins by chance,, ???
2006-10-29 15:59:59 · answer #1 · answered by Manatee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best piece of advice anyone ever gave me was that "This is as good as it gets...." meaning things do not get better when you get married. Typically people are better behaved before you get married. Once you are married and locked in people start to let things slide, and already bad behaviors can get worse.
You also need to ask yourself, "What is in this for me?"- "Why am I marrying this person?"
You cannot change anyone. They have to want to change. If this is a behavior that you cannot tolerate, then do not go through with marrying her. It is a lot easier to get into a marriage than it is to get out, so really think this through and make sure it is something you absolutely want to do.
I knew at my first wedding that getting married was a mistake when the minister asked me if I do and I said, "If I have to...." We were only married six months. So, if you are already feeling like it is not right, then do not do it. If you love her and you think you can tolerate these behaviors for THE REST OF YOUR LIFE then go for it! If there are any doubts put it off....there is no harm in delaying things.
2006-10-29 16:04:56 · answer #2 · answered by freggs 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to figure out if this is just "cold feet" or if there is a critical problem. You did propose to her, right? There had to be some reason for that. Why did you propose? Are those reasons still valid? Are the things that drive you crazy things you can learn to live with in exchange for all the reasons you say you love her? Do you honestly think you made a mistake, or are you just coming up with reasons to panic?
It's fish or cut bait time, man. A broken engagement is better than a broken marriage, but you have to make up your own mind.
Incidently, they're all crazy.
Deal with it.
2006-10-29 16:06:28 · answer #3 · answered by jaywalk57 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't say how old u R? But your definately not ready for a commitment of marriage if u can't even level with your financee. Her behavior is nothing new to u? Why are u leaving it to the night before online post.
Stop the wedding. Both of you need to go to marriage counseling that is done when your considering getting married. Both of you need to learn more about the other and wheither you are truely meant to be together.
2006-10-29 16:10:47 · answer #4 · answered by Staci 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This may sound original but listen to your heart. If you really love her then you will be able to look past the faults you see in her and go on with your lives together. If your heart tells you something other then that, well....that's your decision. But just remember....even though your freaked out now there is a reason that you wanted to marry her in the first place. Good luck. I really hope things work out for the best. Farewell.
2006-10-29 16:03:32 · answer #5 · answered by Heidi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's kinda late to ask for advice, don't you think? If she drives you crazy by the way she acts, you shouldn't have asked her to marry you. But then you say you really love her. It seems maybe people might be criticizing her. If that is the case, then you shouldn't listen to the opinions of others.
2006-10-29 16:01:42 · answer #6 · answered by Call Me Babs 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LoL Why didnt u realise this problem before you proposed to her! Your a big meanie! Marriage is a serious commitment, its not something you just throw around.
Your the child, considering your the one b&*^&ing about her. And what kind of advice should i give u? You should never have proposed to her in the first place and secondly you should cancel the wedding now before you end up ruining her life in the process.
2006-10-29 16:00:57 · answer #7 · answered by gr33n_3y3d_grrl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her the truth. You don't want to be married. I think you have a few issues of your own to work out. She didn't suddenly start acting this way, this is who she is and if you're not okay with her being the way she is you should have gotten out of this a long time ago. If you really love her you will tell her the truth and postpone this marriage or separate. You're better off without her and she's better off without you.
2006-10-29 16:03:58 · answer #8 · answered by will 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love her, really love her...then you'll accept her for all her faults and all her good points. Focus on why you fell in love with her and if her behaviour is such a problem...talk to her about it, but better after the wedding because right now it sounds more like pre-wedding jitters/cold feet from you. Chill out, you're just stressing.
2006-10-29 16:05:54 · answer #9 · answered by DrSH 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you get married the things that bothered you before you got married get multiplied by 1000. IF she was 1000 times crazier could you live with her and be sane? If your answer is yes, marry her. IF no, you may need to call off the wedding. Divorce is horrible. More horrible than calling off a wedding!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Was she crazy before you began planning the wedding or after? Planning a wedding is very stressful and can make you appear crazy and childish...
2006-10-29 16:23:03 · answer #10 · answered by Jaedyn=God has heard 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋