Your boyfriend is not obligated to give more than settled for child support. Almost 500 a month is well enough on shoes, clothes and food for this child. Especially since a child does not need new clothes and shoes each month.
Therefore, he needs to grow some ba.lls and tell her that is what she is getting. If she has no "money" to buy his child stuff, then he wants receipts showing what all she buys for him every month. If she has none or shows only 100 was spent, then proof she spends the rest on herself. Therefor, he can take her to court.
He is being used and he is allowing himself to be used. He needs to learn the word "No". You need to re-think with being with him.
2006-10-29 20:05:32
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answered by Mutchkin 6
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Maybe he should talk to social services about the drinking and partying that his ex wife does. If it is really as bad as you make it sound that is grounds that he can get full custody of the child, and then he won't have to pay her child support. Which would solve the problem of her using the kid to get money out of your man. If she still asks for money then he has every right to tell her to get a job because if he has full custody of the child then all he owes her for is the alimony, and the mortgage isn't his responsibility if he is no longer living in the house.
2006-10-29 16:01:02
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answered by Bee 2
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Well he is being used and he should buy his son things himself instead of giving his wife the money. However since this could cause legal tangles, he should involve his lawyer and ask him/her what to do. He has to pay the mortgage and the alimony but what he does for his son is wrong because the mother is getting the child support that should be used on the child...not herself.
2006-10-29 15:59:02
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answered by DrSH 5
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It really depends on what is court ordered. He could be being used regarding the shoes and clothing. It is an idea no matter what to keep your money and his separate. There could be a joint account for the rent/mortgage and other bills. If the relationship progresses to marriage, get a prenuptial agreement to protect the money from your marriage to your deceased husband. I recommend this for any second marriage or when there is a good amount of assets involved. I am sorry if I got ahead of myself with your relationship.
2006-10-29 17:25:06
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answered by dawncs 7
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He is an adult, and what he does with his money is his business. you are the girlfriend, not the wife. If he's paying 222.00 toward 1/2 the mortgage, that's cheap, I didn't know anyone could have a mortgage so cheap; and 100.00 for alimony, that's cheap too.
2006-10-29 16:10:28
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answered by luluhinalbwi 2
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If the ex is indeed blowing the money on alcohol and clubbing then why doesn't your husband file for custody? It would save him some money. Why would he allow his son to live in this type of situation? It sounds like he is a decent guy but he should really get his son out of that situation.
2006-10-29 16:35:19
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answered by juicie813 5
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Next time tell him dont involve you cuz he makes you worry over something he does nothing about. Dont worry about her, what she does unless you see the child being actually injured...the fact that youre worried more about the money and less about the child worries ME!
You arent married, youre living together and youre worried about the wrong things. Enjoy good times with him and the child and start working on good communication with both. That is, putting the pettiness aside and living in the present and future without having the ex-wife's life stories a part of your conversations.
How dreary and depressing for all of you.
Make life fun. Good luck.
2006-10-29 16:04:16
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answered by Anonymous
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It depends on what the court ordered. Did the court order alimony? If it was ordered, he has to pay and he certainly has to pay the child support. I don't see anything wrong in him buying the child what he needs on the side, but he shouldn't have to pay for the mortgage unless the judge ordered him to. If I were you, I'd make sure he doesn't use any of your money to pay for any of that.
2006-10-29 16:00:03
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answered by nobluffzone 5
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Sounds to me like you know your live in boyfriend is not handling he life with sanity.
If he wasn't living with you, maybe he wouldn't have the money to be giving his ex-wife money after she has spent the child support and I assume court ordered alimony, eh?
If he is in fact being used, that should tell you he is weak minded.
Either way, there is something werid and wrong going on, listen to your inter knowingness.
Question, who is being used my who?
2006-10-29 17:16:15
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answered by noel_1939 2
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He should provide money for his child yes, especially if its court ordered, but he can have that changed by filing a form with the court system. Are you giving him the money to pay her? Does he work? If your footing the bill, then honey, you need to move on...
2006-10-29 16:00:31
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answered by LEO H 3
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