At 45 your need is over as a mother,wife and daughter-in-law u r a burden for all of them pl help a destitute?

Answer 1

Sounds like you've been very selfless all these years, giving to all of them, and loving it all the way,, so much that you've lost yourself in the process. I can certainly understand that, I feel that way as my son grows older, and doesn't need "MOM" holding his hand anymore, or kissing goodbye at school, and it more into the cool crowd.. or so he thinks, ha!

I think this time, (and I'm not your age yet) is the time that your extended family is growing (your still YOUNG, sheesh) and needs your experiences, in their lives,, perhaps with Grandchildren, or marital ideas, like when a couple starts out and wants great recipe ideas, or building a home, your thoughts on that, any ideas... I don't mean to infer that you're a decorator or a busy body in their business, but it is a time in your life, that is a natural progression, into other phases.

Dedicate this time, (sounds like you have the seperation blues), to yourself,, like take up any old hobbies, or interests, such as traveling, or spending time with friends, (sheesh who had the time when you were raising kids?), college classes, expanding your own growth,, to WHATEVER you want... it's a GLORIOUS time to be a bit self indulgent, dont' you think, instead of feeling negative about it,, turn it around.. you'll still feel appreciated and needed always, though those phone calls might not come as often.. focus on you,, church organizations, painting, reading that ole book you always wanted to, kicking back and watching movies, or crafts projects, or redocorating a room, or do it yourself projects, part time job, ... the sky is the limit, you're wiser, and have life experiences, and so much to put forth to any interest..... don't sell yourself short,, sounds like you did a fine job.

Answer 2

What? Go work as a live in housekeeper if you feel youre not needed anymore. Go the the hospitals and volunteer. Go to the library and teach others to read. Go to the public schools and help out your neighborhood kids. Take up belly dancing and enroll in choir. Join a book club. Gee if youre 45 and think life is over...Im older than you and I feel Im just starting over!
Every day is that way. Good luck and love.

Answer 3

your life is not over it is just ready for a new chapter, find yourself some things that interest you, start some hobbies, do volunteer work, become a mentor to a child who needs an adult with love and time to give them. But believe me your Kids will always need you in some capacity, even if it is not like it was. Make this your time and shine, you can do it. God would love to use someone like you , give Him a chance. Be blessed and shine girl

Answer 4

Please don't ever think your need is over. You are a mother, what a special gift..... You will always be needed. I have 8 years on you and my 30 year old son, and daughter in-law and I are very close. Unfortunately they will always need something. And me, wow, I feel needed all the time. You will never be a burden to your children/family. Never...... Enjoy every minute of them, I do.

Answer 5

I felt this way too. Until I got a job I liked it helped me find motivation to go bk to school

Answer 6

Get a life of your own - full of your own interests and friends.

You are only a burden if you choose to be.

Answer 7

why feeling so unwanted? for sure you've done alot of help to your family.. Hey cheer up! it time for you to relax and enjoy..your children wont grow as what they are right now if not because of your care and attentionyour husband to boast his ego as a man coz you stick w/ him through thick and thin.

Answer 8

do you mean you dont feel needed? because everyone is needed give people time, without you they will realise they need you